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AIBU to plan on having a BBQ

439 replies

Numptydumptyfelloffthewall · 02/04/2020 12:58

Hi,

I've seen such conflicting advice and information on this lockdown that I'm starting to doubt my own judgement. I've tried to follow the lockdown to the letter. DH and I are working full time from home and i've been out once since lockdown for food shopping. We have 2 DC (4, 6) who are home and havent been out, they run around in the garden for exercise.

I have some BBQ coal in the shed and was wondering if it would be unreasonable/ wrong for DH, me and the 2 DC to have a BBQ on Sunday when the weather is predicted to be a bit nicer. We wouldnt need to buy any supplies or meet anyone else and it would really brighten a very stressed and difficult week but I dont want to be disrespectful or undermine the lockdown, esp as I have family both on the shielding list and working in the NHS, so I really understand how important it is to delay the spread of Covid 19.

We're in a standard 1930s 3 bed semi so we have a nice sized garden but not huge. If we do go ahead, should we go in if our neighbours also come into their garden? Or set up at the bottom of the garden? I usually keep the kids inside during the actual cooking as DD4 is asthmatic but they find eating BBQ food outside to be a huge novelty/ treat.

OP posts:
wildthingsinthenight · 04/04/2020 08:09

We're having one on Sunday.
Do what you like in your own garden

PineappleDanish · 04/04/2020 08:11

I don't touch anything when I go for a walk. Except the ground with my shoes. I never do, because my route takes me around very quiet residential streets around my area. No rails, no zebra crossing buttons. It is PERFECTLY SAFE and I am risking absolutely nobody's health.

Also being stuck in the house with three kids who want to be out playing with their friends, having sleepovers or going shopping is tough enough without putting extra restrictions on what we eat and drink. No we're not popping to the shops every 5 minutes but tomorrow we'll probably be out of milk and yes, we'll go and buy more.

You really are being very unreasonable about this Reboot. Taking the sensible precautions of staying away from everyone apart from your family will keep you safe. Putting extra restrictions on yourself of never leaving the house and living on limited rations won't keep you any safer but will damage your mental health and make getting through this all the harder.

Roussette · 04/04/2020 08:32

Ffs. Lots of people don’t have soap. Mumbai etc are going to melt down when this hits and people here can’t even be arsed to do without milk or a walk

'Whatabouttery at it's best. We are not talking about Mumbai. We are talking about UK and barbecues and going in our gardens.

This is from .gov
"If you are able to go outside, consider walking or gardening"
That is the government guidelines taken from the official website. I'm listening to them not you.

I'm close to reporting you as a troll TBH. I never do this normally, but I've looked at your history.

Very strange that you advocate herd immunity and say locking down is pointless. That's your words elsewhere. Oh and your wife gives you a blowjob every morning even though you've had rampant sex the night before.

I have wasted enough time engaging with you. No more.

On more pleasant subjects... I'm just working out what to barbecue on Sunday... quite fancy chicken kebabs. I have chicken, I have a red pepper, I have onions and I can put together a marinade. Looking forward to it.

Roussette · 04/04/2020 08:35

Meant to put... that post is to Rebootingagain

Lex234 · 04/04/2020 08:43

your wife gives you a blowjob every morning

Possibly explains the enthusiasm to remain indoors

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 04/04/2020 09:00

Just never go out ever ever again. Eat nettles. Easy.
Actually nettles are healthy and tasty herb and I am trying to find some for Easter dishes (not the ones on corners pissed on by every dog in the area). Highly recommend nettles into stuffing!

userxx · 04/04/2020 09:03

Yep, we'll be having a bbq. Can't wait.

TeacupDrama · 04/04/2020 09:11

Someone mentioned that they thought the shielded should not go into their own gardens, this is incorrect it is recommended they get fresh air by using the garden balcony etc, however many of the shielded are in care homes or warden style flats and have no garden hence the advice to sit by open window or stand in doorway
Please make sure when quoting from government advice you quote correctly the shielded are absolutely encouraged to be in their own private
gardens

Fluffybutter · 04/04/2020 09:24

Ffs. Lots of people don’t have soap. Mumbai etc are going to melt down when this hits and people here can’t even be arsed to do without milk or a walk
What?! What has our milk got to do with soap in Mumbai?!
This is fucking mad .. honestly, people have lost it

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 04/04/2020 09:27

Oh god shouldn't have started the second bottleBlush and thinking of reboot and blow jobs is making me Envy
I do love playing with a troll though
Off downstairs now for a coffee
Might even add some milk

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 04/04/2020 09:28

Tbf to the garden-shielded group posters.
There was an advice in another country that if your garden is very small you best avoid it for the time being. It's possible some of it got muddled into advice in UK too.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 04/04/2020 09:31

I was wondering how you were feeling this morning hobnobs!

Roussette · 04/04/2020 09:37

Oh god shouldn't have started the second bottleblush and thinking of reboot and blow jobs is making me

Ditto. We had a vid call with some friends. Along with wine. Lots of it. Have the mother of all headaches this morning. Serves me right!

Butchyrestingface · 04/04/2020 09:51

I know a lot of people in Spain. One person was fined 200euros because when the police stopped his car and checked his shopping bags, he just had beer and crisps in it.
Fine. Agree with that.

I don’t. Perhaps beer and crisps are his staple diet? Judge not lest ye be judged. Grin

Has anyone figured out what a ‘whopper’ is yet? Where I come from it has always denoted a ‘lie/falsehood’.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 04/04/2020 09:52

Am vertical now and have coffee and feel ok so far
So Long as I don't think about reboot and blowjobs I'll be grand
Was worth it though
Video call with friends
Plenty of wine
Playing with an annoying troll
Simple pleasures at the moment
Might even have a bacon butty for breakfast

EvilPea · 04/04/2020 09:59

There is a nationwide camp out tonight to raise money for the nhs. So there will be a lot of bbqs and tents up this weekend.

Deux · 04/04/2020 10:08

Reboot's a bloke? Well oh well.

Butchy, I think Reboot did a typo and wrote whopper for shopper. So it was a bit of a pisstake.

Topseyt · 04/04/2020 10:45

As someone mentioned herd immunity, I wonder whether Reboot is Dominic Cummings.

Dominic Reboot , I raise you my second cup of milky coffee of the morning. It has sugar in it too. How bad am I!? Demerara though, so that counts as good? Right??

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 04/04/2020 10:48

Now who is goading, eh

Shockers · 04/04/2020 10:55

We will be cooking dinner over a fire pit with a special flat pan I bought DH last Christmas. We are really looking forward to it. We will spend the day working on the garden first. Our garden is quite large though, and the neighbours don’t use theirs, other than having someone in to keep it pristine.

Cagedbirdsinging · 04/04/2020 11:26

Good morning @hobnobsaremyfave Brew. Last night was such fun !

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 04/04/2020 11:31
Brew Waves back @cagedbirdssinging
Roussette · 04/04/2020 12:11

As someone mentioned herd immunity, I wonder whether Reboot is Dominic Cummings

Could well be!
They both are all for herd immunity. Not sure of Cummings view on lockdown, whether it's the same as Reboot's opinion on it being pointless

And Cummings has CV at the moment? Couldn't happen to a nicer bloke!

NichyNoo · 04/04/2020 12:18

Wow! My first ever deletion for simply saying to have a BBQ - no idea why that warrants a deletion Confused

Leflic · 04/04/2020 12:36

My local council has banned bonfires. It’s now updated to include any burning in gardens. We are not urban and lots of people have allotments that neighbouring houses complained about.
Where does that leave BBQ’s?