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AIBU to plan on having a BBQ

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Numptydumptyfelloffthewall · 02/04/2020 12:58

Hi,

I've seen such conflicting advice and information on this lockdown that I'm starting to doubt my own judgement. I've tried to follow the lockdown to the letter. DH and I are working full time from home and i've been out once since lockdown for food shopping. We have 2 DC (4, 6) who are home and havent been out, they run around in the garden for exercise.

I have some BBQ coal in the shed and was wondering if it would be unreasonable/ wrong for DH, me and the 2 DC to have a BBQ on Sunday when the weather is predicted to be a bit nicer. We wouldnt need to buy any supplies or meet anyone else and it would really brighten a very stressed and difficult week but I dont want to be disrespectful or undermine the lockdown, esp as I have family both on the shielding list and working in the NHS, so I really understand how important it is to delay the spread of Covid 19.

We're in a standard 1930s 3 bed semi so we have a nice sized garden but not huge. If we do go ahead, should we go in if our neighbours also come into their garden? Or set up at the bottom of the garden? I usually keep the kids inside during the actual cooking as DD4 is asthmatic but they find eating BBQ food outside to be a huge novelty/ treat.

OP posts:
Rebootingagain · 03/04/2020 18:54

Then you are doing it properly.

People who think it’s essential to go to the corner shop for milk and chocolate aren’t.

It’s not complicated

Roussette · 03/04/2020 18:56

I'd stop now if I were you Rebooting. You obviously have a beef with some people who aren't on this thread, and you're not sounding good.

newbingepisodes · 03/04/2020 18:58

We plan to have one on Sunday! In our garden.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 03/04/2020 19:01

You called me thick but I'm sorry @Rebootingagain you need to look in the mirror. Unlike you I don't tend to insult people but I'll make an exception here as you really are a nasty, sanctimonious individual.

We are allowed to go for a walk.
We are allowed to shop for essentials.
We can buy non essentials when we are doing our shopping.
We do not have to live a life of utter misery despite what you think.

Rubberoftheband · 03/04/2020 19:09

Have the BBQ, it's not an issue!

Rebootingagain · 03/04/2020 19:11

You called me thick but I'm sorry @Rebootingagain you need to look in the mirror. Unlike you I don't tend to insult people but I'll make an exception here as you really are a nasty, sanctimonious individual.

We are allowed to go for a walk.
We are allowed to shop for essentials.
We can buy non essentials when we are doing our shopping.
We do not have to live a life of utter misery despite what you think.*

Where did I ever say you can’t do any of those things?

They should be combined into as few trips out as possible.
A trip to buy milk and chocolates is irresponsible and in parts of the world would see you arrested. If people keep behaving like this then the same will be enforced where you live.

There is no need to be miserable, but use common sense. Any family who can’t manage on one trip to a shop a week are doing it wrong (unless they are living hand to mouth, in which case food banks will help)

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 19:14

Anyone who can't manage it on one trip a week are doing it wrong
Just fuck off

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 19:15

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Roussette · 03/04/2020 19:16

Ummm... you did say 'every whopper.... who goes for a walk' amongst other things. Which is why I said having a walk is not banned.

Topseyt · 03/04/2020 19:16

I am just back from my walk and I see that the misery party is still in full swing. 😎

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 19:18

Nah Topsey the goady fucker just jumped the shark

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 03/04/2020 19:20

You seem to be struggling to remember what you've said so let me remind you:

Every whopper who goes out just to buy milk, or just for a walk, or just to see a mate etc is a total selfish tosspot. And the country seems to be full of them

According to you, anyone who goes 'just for a walk' is a selfish tosspot. That is not what the government has said, that is the law according to Rebootingagain. You can go out for exercise once a day.

You really are being thick now, we do manage on one shopping trip a week (two if there are shortages) but to the corner shop, not the supermarket. We haven't been to the supermarket for weeks!

mbosnz · 03/04/2020 19:20

'It's a shame that none of the 20th century experiments with communism took place in Britain, because they would have done it properly with no cheating. . .'

Bill Bryson.

He's not wrong is he?!

JKScot4 · 03/04/2020 19:25

@Rebootingagain
Still harping on?
Every whopper who goes out just to buy milk, or just for a walk, or just to see a mate etc is a total selfish tosspot
My poor dogs are whoppers 🤣

Rebootingagain · 03/04/2020 19:26

According to you, anyone who goes 'just for a walk' is a selfish tosspot. That is not what the government has said, that is the law according to Rebootingagain. You can go out for exercise once a day.

Walk to the corner shop. One trip, less risk.

Wales have now said people shouldn’t drive to where they go for a walk. People keep taking the kids and England will do the same

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 19:28

Erm The rules are consistent about exercising locally
Do you want a bigger shit stirring spoon

crazydiamond222 · 03/04/2020 19:30

No you should not have a BBQ . Such activity does not fit within the rules of mumsnet which state that during the time of coronavirus:

  1. you need to be bloody miserable as otherwise it is unfair to others who are miserable to see you smiling.
  2. you should not use your garden (and especially not if you have children) as otherwise the unnecessary noise might upset your neighbours.
  3. You should not have tasty food to eat as you are only allowed to shop for essentials and bbq items do not count as such.
hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 19:32

My hair shirt isn't scratchy enough
And I've eaten something other than water and a lettuce leaf this week
I also smiled on Tuesday
I am sooo weak
Such a failure
Punish me mumsnet
Punish me

mbosnz · 03/04/2020 19:32

I think perhaps people should be aware that their personal interpretation of 'the rules' isn't necessarily the 'rules'. They don't get to require people to accede to their interpretation, or to enforce them, unless those are the actual rules enforceable at law, by the police officers, and only the police officers - who also cannot enforce their personal interpretation and preference as opposed to what they have been given licence to legally enforce.

Other than that, you can curtain twitch and pearl clutch until the cows come home.

Deux · 03/04/2020 19:32

This thread just keeps on giving. Grin

Deux · 03/04/2020 19:33

That was in reference to the GF btw

Babyg1995 · 03/04/2020 19:35

Absolutely you can we are really looking forward to when we can start having them .

Deux · 03/04/2020 19:35

Don’t tell anyone but I went to M & S food, only for a Friday night curry. Loads of whoppers doing the same

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 19:36

I breathed on Wednesday I'm sorry for being so ill disciplined

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/04/2020 19:37

And I used one sheet of toilet roll on Sunday
I have been hitting myself over the head with a cold kipper ever since