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To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

999 replies

Rainbowb · 23/02/2020 21:25

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties! Grin

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GrannyBags · 09/03/2020 08:15

I know 18 is over the age of consent etc, but can you imagine the response on here if a man of 40 had admitted having a crush on an 18 year old girl?

Rebellenny · 09/03/2020 09:43

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SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 10:20

Just a reminder to anyone who is posting about a much younger crush.

The Daily Mail can read this. They have been known to write articles about threads on mumsnet.

Perfectly acceptable to say an 18 year old (of either sex) is good looking without wanting to take it any further. It's the intent that matters and the vast majority of us don't have it.

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 09/03/2020 14:22

@SuckingDieselFella
I have NC but #crushnumber1 replied to LinkedIn message !!!! (Asimov)

Ohyesiam · 09/03/2020 15:02

@SuckingDieselFella Why Peter Andre? No way, much classier!( actually poor Mr Andre, I know nothing about him, the was a snap judgement).

My clue, he’s supposed to have a big nose, but he hasn’t...

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 09/03/2020 15:35

Gerard Depardieu?

SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 17:57

@Allaboardthemagicbus2020

You're in! Even more so if the message was about geeky stuff instead of what you're wearing... Smile

@Ohyesiam I googled male celebs with big noses and got Owen Wilson.

OMG have you been working with Owen Wilson???!!!

wizzywig · 09/03/2020 19:22

Are all of your Toms there for all purposes or for limited uses? Just thinking as i think i spotted my Tom outside the local copshop and i thought "i wont hang out with you, i just want some filthy fun with you"

TomPettysTopHat · 09/03/2020 20:24

No, ideally you need multiple Toms. You don't want to focus too much on one Tom as their radar detects it.

I've got #teacherTom, #doctorTom and #chipshopTom. The latter is more useful - he gives me extra chips

mamaduckbone · 09/03/2020 20:29

I have had a couple of times. Once was an artist who came in to my school to do a project, and once was the guitar teacher (obviously random artistic men do it for me!)

I totally would never have acted on it as I'm happily married etc etc but they both brightened up the working day for a while.
I still see the guitar teacher from time to time and he is gorgeous. Half of the mums had a crush on him as well.

mamaduckbone · 09/03/2020 20:30

Oh, and there's always the occasional dad as well, which is highly inappropriate but also quite funny. One still gives me the flutters and his daughter left the school years ago. We compare dad crushes in the staff room.BlushGrin

SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 20:59

@wizzywig Are you saying your Tom is a bit thick?

I only have a teacher Tom and he is on permanent strike. #militantgeekTom

#chipshopTom would be more useful.

Even better would be #cakeshopTom.

OutlandishBird · 09/03/2020 21:16

Yep. Several years of liking this guy! Recently found out it's very very mutual.... Also found out he's married so it's a definite non starter for now.

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 09/03/2020 21:35

@SuckingDieselFella

No, just said ‘lovely to chat with you.’

SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 21:45

Woo hoo!!!

From a #geekTom, that counts as a declaration of marriage.

Have you replied yet?

SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 21:59

In the current climate the most useful Tom is #SainsburysdeliverydriverTom

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 09/03/2020 22:03

@Sucking

No, no reply yet. Stunned at such a normal response, to be honest. Wasn't expecting it.

Don't know what to say now Confused

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 09/03/2020 22:05

#biohazardTom or

#biologistTom would be handy atm. On the other hand, you would have a minute by minute account of what is happening/governments are doing wrong from them.

SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 22:07

And so quick as well. There is normally a 3-month lag with #geekToms. You're definitely in.

Ask if he'll be around at some other event soon. You never know. This could be the thread's first happy ending.

IndigoHexagon · 09/03/2020 22:10

I have a huge crush on a (volunteer) coach in my gym who is also a teacher at a primary school (not my child’s thank goodness!)
He is so fit and toned and such a nice bloke. He used my name A LOT and it gives me shivers. He’s in his early 30’s and sooooo sexy. Makes my day dreams most interesting and while I’d never act on it and humiliate myself, the version of him that exists in my head is fair game!

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 09/03/2020 22:12

@SuckingDieselFella

My organisation has an event coming up soon - I may invite him. Hmmm - need to think about this.

SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 22:18

Don't overthink it! Step away from your brain!

Leave it a couple of days and then invite him. No clever stuff.

They know what we're up to, remember?

Allaboardthemagicbus2020 · 09/03/2020 22:29

Oh yes - time to revive #backupcrush and see if I can mess with their telepathic ways

wizzywig · 09/03/2020 22:37

Hey,@SuckingDieselFella he isnt too thick (i think), just very competant in his role, and thats the bit thats fanciable. We love competant Toms.
Now i have been given permission to have a Tom for every occasion, i shall get my binoculars on. #challengeaccepted

SuckingDieselFella · 09/03/2020 22:54

@wizzywig Every woman should have a #policemanTom.

You could go for the full YMCA set.

#constructionworkerTom

#cowboyTom

#nativeAmericanTom

#sailorTom