To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

[Rainbowb]

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

Inappropriate but very enjoyable is what Toms are all about.

Very true! Unfortunately I have the prospect of two Tom free weeks as we are officially on Easter holiday. Never have I been less excited about time off work.

Two weeks, no Tom and only my inappropriate and lust filled thoughts for company... I am not a happy bunny!

Thank you @SuckingDieselFella for the list. Can I add #ItalianTom to this? During lockdown and me being sick he has visited me everyday and left me lunch and essentials on my patio. Every.day. He’s able to WFH and treats this as his exercise.

Shouts Ciao, Bellissima! when he sees me, smiles and has a quick chat, (he’s very funny and smart, of course) and then disappears off, on his bike usually. My DP has been working all hours and #italianTom, his best pal, is looking out for me.

It’s just he’s sooooo gorgeous. 2m strictly maintained, outside only, hands free drop off and pick up. Just the bonus of a tall, dark, incredibly sexy delivery man. In skintight Lycra. I am having very inappropriate thoughts about what’s filling out that Lycra because it’s not an easy look to pull off. I’d pull it off with my teeth.....

He’s got a Zoom date tonight and I’m bothered! Bloody woman picked him up in the queue to get into Asda.

Asda you say? I was planning on going to Waitrose later but I could easily make a detour...

Do you happen to know if he has a brother?

Sadly an only child. He does frequent Waitrose though, I will encourage that after the Zoom date didn’t seem to go that well.... 😁

He is just so......dishy.

My DD's History teacher. He has the most fantastically beautiful eyes and extremely handsome.

I also had a crush on a work colleague, but he was married, so nothing would have happened. Only he had an affair with another colleague. No ta!

Another teacher Tom.

Some of you might remember that I had to record a presentation for my Tom. I got so stressed about him watching it that I put in lots of effort and ended up with a REALLY good grade.

Toms have their uses.

Excellent news @SuckingDieselFella Well done.

I was busy being very good and strong willed and trying really hard to get over my crush given that I am off work for 2 weeks and unlikely to see #teachertom2.0 bar the odd teams meeting for a couple of months at least and then I made the mistake of checking my work phone and find a lovely message from him giving me a link to something he'd seen that he thought I might like. Whoosh. One thoughtful gesture and I am back in full on crush mode again. Oh dear.

I have a crush on someone and is driving me crazy!
Been friends for about 2 years and Im sooo tempted to text him.
But it could go wrong and I'll be embarrassed for ever

No harm in a text! Keep it short, sweet and fairly neutral. If he's interested he'll take it from there.

You too may get a lovely message like @BadgerButty

#textingToms

@SuckingDieselFella
Aww 😍I like that #textingToms😀 problem is... I want to text him and say I miss you Tom I bloody miss you in this awful lockdown!

Get a grip!!

Keep it light and fluffy - send him a silly cartoon or article. If he's interested he'll run with it.

I miss you Foxes I bloody miss you is HIS line, not yours.

SuckingDieselFella True!!!
I didn't send anything yet.

DO IT!!!

It's only a text. What's the worst that could happen?

Done!
Answer was: I'm missing our office meetings together. How are you?

Therefore I'm not sure is he is missing me or working together or both?!

He said "I'm missing OUR office meetings". He is missing the meetings because you are in them.

And he texted you to say so.

Ker-ching!

Don't be too quick to answer, keep it light and fluffy. Don't say I bloody miss you until he's put a ring on it.

@SuckingDieselFella After he texted yesterday, today he changed his WhatsApp setting so I'm unable to see when He sees anything sent to him. So my #textingTom went from hero to zero overnight
Friday night, lockdown and raining...no Tom interested in my texts, perfect storm for depression 😭😭 sorry but can't stop crying 😭

I regularly have little crushes on people in my life; the guy at the Co-op is my current fave (warm, sincere vibe), DD's friend's divorced dad (really smart), the caretaker at work (full of joie de vivre and boundless can-do energy), a friend of DP's (very funny). Little crushes being key though, nobody would ever know, least of all the people concerned. It's just a private tingle which I've no intention to act on or signal in any way.
DP is very good-looking, and over the years I have had a few women (school mums, a client and a neighbour) confess to having had simular crushes on him. I'm not a jealous person, and I know it's possible to just enjoy a quiet buzz around someone whose qualities you find particularly pleasing. It's nice.

Gennady Golovkin - Oh my days

@Foxesanddaffodils20

Oh no!! I didn't know you could do that. Maybe it was an accident on his part? What purpose would it serve?

Oh no @Foxesanddaffodils20 that’s rubbish. The whole point of crushes is to make life more bearable (particularly during lockdown) not to add to your woes!

My DDs favourite phrase at the moment is “not cool X, not cool”. Your #textingtom is definitely being ‘not cool’ by messing about with his WhatsApp settings. Hmmm. #BadTom

I'm trying to think of reasons why he might do that.

Maybe he's dyslexic or lacking in imagination and it takes him a long time to compose a reply? And he doesn't want you to know that he's been sweating over it all day? Maybe he has IBS and wants to hide the fact that a large part of his time is spent on the toilet? Try not to read too much into it at this stage.

He did say he was missing your meetings. That's a good sign.

Did you reply to his last message?

God yes, the MD of the firm that I recently joined. Lucky for him that we are obliged to keep 2m apart .

This thread has made me smile!! I have a crush but I feel like I’m also being crushed aha!
I’m single, he’s single and I fancy him so much but then lockdown happens!!? I was just about to tell him how I felt before all this started. We’ve messaged on and off and I think he misses me but it’s driving me mad that I can’t just see him and ask him how he feels!!

@Hellokitty105

Don't ask him!! Message him infrequently and keep it light and fluffy. If you can't do that step away from the phone!!

Read the whole thread and you'll see how skittish Toms are. You don't want to scare him off. Softlee softlee catchee Tomee. Or something.