To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

[Rainbowb]

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

Oh I can resist! I’m good at that! We’ve messaged occasionally and it’s nice that he’s messaged me first the last few times. As much as I want to I’m not going to give in! I’m sure when lockdown is over this Tom will come running! Softly softly as you said and if he doesn’t then I’ll just have to find another one

That's another lesson we've learned on this thread.

Toms are everywhere.

#italiantom drunkenly FT me last night and told me he misses me and he’s lying there thinking of me, then said oh fuck it and hung up.

Still curled up in a ball of terror now. My crush shouldn’t be behaving like this. It’s ridiculous. He’s gorgeous, incredibly sexy for a start. What do I do now? Clearly can’t do anything inappropriate. Probably he did not mean to come over as attracted, just lonely? But do I call him and ask if he’s ok? He did seem kind of sad.

First #textingTom and not #FacetimeTom

No I wouldn't call him. If he's your husband's mate then get him to call and see if he's ok.

Should be now rather than not.

Asked DP to check in, he was a bit bemused at my ‘I just wonder how he is doing, haven’t seen h8m for a few days...’ #italiantom said he’s fine.

Then iTom texts me to say ‘sorry shouldnt have. felt shitty miss talk + seeing u but glad ur better Sorry’

So looks like he’s lockdown lonely not flirty. Phew. As I’m a middle aged glamour vacuum it was unlikely in extreme but I was worried I’d read too much into FT call because I fancy him iyswim.

Lockdown making me - and iTom - a bit loopy clearly. Will avoid calls for a while, let it get past.

Yes
Our families are very close, fancied him since high school and he liked me then too but i was in a long term relationship and got married young. Over a decade later I've just come out of that relationship. We flirted for a month, but i was too scared to ask him out... Now hes with a new girl and my heart is broken. I can't stop thinking about him.

Loving these Tom stories.

I met my Tom from a mutual hobby. Well I’ve turned the hobby into a business. He’s gone from a chubby, squeaky man to FIT AF and confident AF after completely turning his life around over the past 2 years. He is financially secure, has these eyes (dammit how dare he) and the flirting is unreal. We live 4 hours away and he even came to visit me when my husband was away (he was in the area). I think my husband knows I have a crush on him because he came rushing home when he learned Tom was visiting.

I would love to spend a passionate night with him. The only person I’ve slept with is my husband. I don’t want a relationship or to leave my marriage. Just a wham bam thank you Tom.

I think I need a cold shower now

A ‘wham bam thank you Tom’ would be right up my street too

@Normaknowall

iTom! Love it!

My Tom would faint at the thought of any wham bam. Or maybe laugh. Or maybe he would…. No, no, don't go there. Not when I still have an essay to write for him. Must not get distracted!

I'm still a bit in love with my biology teacher from secondary school. He has aged extremely well and was very young, I think about 23 when I was 16. 20 years ago. He is professional and married so nothing could have happened ever but I still have dreams about him quite often. I follow him on twitter too

Yet another teacher Tom!

Does every woman have one?

Not only a teacher though, he was MY teacher and taught my class sex education 😳😁

iTom is not a teacher, though he does help me with my Italian lessons. I think it’s the authoritative, competent, encouraging thing....

A wham bam Tom would be great. If it weren’t for what it would do to DP, and if I didnt haveto see him every weekend, I bloody would with iTom. I know he doesn’t fancy me but god when he made the FT call from his bed, all stubble and tousled hair, king of the eyefuck, a speaking eyebrow, and a dimple when he slowly smiled.... I was practically licking the screen.

Somebody please throw a bucket of cold water over me. Please.

Sure, but can you pass me your phone first? With iTom on speed dial.

My husband is a Tom. My Tom luckily 😂

Phwoar @Normaknowall he sounds gorgeous! In bed too 😍

@SuckingDieselFella 😊 you never know...

@Bluewavescrashing he is. Oh he is. And I need to get over him! But those blue eyes...and he’s such a funny, sweet man, too. So dreams eh? Sounds like a good biology teacher!

I have a crush
I would like to pursue him as more a friendship than a relationship, he makes me feel comfortable and I love his humour.
He's been single for sometime.
I look forward to seeing him & how he will be after lock down.

Now how to give him my number... without freaking him out..

You don't need his number if you have him on social media.

And be honest, you don't want him as a friend. {grin}

Is nobody getting any Tom action at the moment?

I spoke to mine on Zoom and it's all kicked off again.

I’ve not had much Tom action recently unfortunately. A bit of non work related texting and quite a few ‘ostensibly work related but really just an opportunity to talk to Tom’ phone calls. I am missing being able to stare, not so subtly, at my twinkly Tom in person.

Get him on zoom! Tell him you have a disorder and you can't understand what people mean just by the tone of their voice. My Tom has been shopping and his dress sense is MUCH better. It's like he's been reading this thread! I'm going to engineer some 'ostensibly coursework related but really just an opportunity to look at Tom' zoom calls. My mind wasn't on my dissertation today, I can tell you.

Ha ha. I love it when you have those kind of days when you’re feeling all lust filled and happy to have a crush! I do have a zoom meeting with Tom (and a whole load of other people) next week. I shouldn’t admit to how much I am looking forward to seeing him in the flesh as it were. To be honest if I saw him in the actual flesh now I’d probably just launch myself at him so probably for the best it’s all virtual...