To ask you if you have a real life crush on anyone?

[Rainbowb]

And would you do anything if you could completely get away with it?! Mine is my daughter’s swimming teacher, he has the sexiest smile and is so good with the kids. Totally gives me the flutters but I’m guessing he’s not into overweight bespectacled women in their forties!

If you don't want anything to happen then you need to wean yourself off him.

You could jjust keep a photo of Tom's hands, erm, handy. That wouldn't arouse suspicion, would it?

Hahaha! That's hilarious

My optician is beautiful, not even just handsome but absolutely beautiful. I actually feel myself shaking during eye tests.

I'm 45 ffs!!

I imagine he has a girlfriend who looks like an Italian super-model....

My other problem is that there are plenty of photos and videos of Tom online...

No, I’m not going to.

Soapy, please inbox us with a link.

We need to see those arms.

Hey, we could exchange videos of our Toms. My Tom has done online talks but they're really dull unless you're interested in his specialism.

@BatleyTownswomensGuild
I have a blond hunky optician with an accent.

I bet Specsavers employ them on purpose to reel in the ladies.

Wow - what a post. I am at the start with my Tom. Truthfully though which camp are folks in?

1. A bit of fun - nothing will happen
2. Would go their if Tom offered.
3. Full on, your in pursuit

I am unsure if I am a 1 or could blossom into a 3?

I'm 1 and 2.

Couldn't possibly be 3. Everybody in the vicinity would notice and gossip about it.

I'm 1 and 2. I couldn't pursue actively. He can't really I don't think so we're doomed to do this dance forever!

Don't worry @Soapytoad I've stalked mine on Insta already

i am just wondering if I should keep it as a lovely fantasy. Or do I risk spoiling it to go to 3.

Yes I have looked Tom up. Makes me feel creepy but as long as no one knows it’s ok. He is single but has 2 children. Not my type usually but these things happen right?

On the words of Queen Is this real life or just fantasy......

@Shoemaker mine is single...and absolutely my type I felt creepy too then wondered (hoped) if he'd looked at mine as there is a very good photo of me in a bikini in there somewhere

Joking aside, seriously it's certainly a 1 and 1 only. Relieves the tedium of the day to day! I need a work Tom really, I'm surrounded by women!

@TomPettysTopHat another confession is I’m married. Things are ok but far from perfect.

Could this be adding to my desire for my Tom?

I do love DH but he is away with work for 8 weeks. Reading this post has made me feel more normal. I am not the only one thank god!

I think most people have the odd crush. You're married, not blind. There are plenty on this thread in relationships/married. As long as it doesn't become something bigger I think it's perfectly normal.

I was told once to look at what was missing from my existing relationship and did the crush have any attributes that reflected that IYSWIM? I don't know if that helps you at all. It did for me.

Well, what a disappointment. Spoke to #backupcrush and the man couldn’t wait to get away from me (after an in-depth discussion on the new tech he has been learning). 10 mins of power shell, cloud and something star trekking and then it was just ‘right, see you’.

#disillusionedwithTom

Did I say in-depth discussion? No. There was no discussion (although I tried). It was instructional.

Only asked him how he was.

Shame! There's always another Tom though...

I’m wondering now did I say something wrong. He explained something in microscopic detail and at the end I said something like ‘so,it’s all integrated now’ trying to show that I had been listening, had understood (!) and was taking in what he said. He looked crushed and disappeared.

#keepitsimpleTom

@Willitkiwoo I develop a new crush every time I ovulate LOL

@Willitkiwoo

I develop a new crush every time I ovulate LOL

Are you me? I SWEAR I can plan my 10/10 obsessed with crush days based on my fucking ovaries.

@WikkiTikkiWoo - tagged wrong name, sorry!

@LajestricVantrashell you're not alone, I've developed some really odd ones around that time of the month

I reckon they have a database of our cycles and they know who to try the charm on at any given time of the month.

Give Tom credit for being organised.

A relational database fully optimised for the cloud and object oriented programming, naturally.

Tom is nothing but agile [smirk]