To be upset about the name for my nice

[MadHouseUpNorth]

My sister had a baby girl last week and announced the name today. The middle name is the same as my other nice first name. AIBU for being upset over this? Girls have always been preferred in the family. I have boys that nobody really cared much about them and I feel a bit left out... Not that I would expect her to use on of the boys name for her baby girl’ middle name but seems like a really insensitive decision...I’ve also left the house for uni at 18 and never come back, while the two of them stayed and are quite close together. I’ve not been asked to be a bridesmaid at her wedding either and it’s all coming back to me today. Tell me do I behave like 5 year old?

Niece?

I really don’t understand your problem.

It sounds like you feel very left out. Was it the same when you were growing up?

YABU

I can’t make head or tail of what you’ve written.

What is ‘my other nice first name’?

Have you got two first names and they’ve given the baby one of those?

And you wanted them to name the baby girl after one of your sons? Really?

I’m really sorry, but what you’ve written makes no sense.

YABU

And she has given her the middle name which is her sisters first name? Or another sisters daughters middle name

Your post is just an outpouring of feeling hard done by, going back to your childhood. Presumably you're now an adult so maybe it's time to move on?

You want you sister to name her daughter after one of your sons and are jealous she hasn’t? YABU

She can’t spell ‘niece’ hence the confusion.

You have two siblings who called their daughters the same name?

Nope I've put it wrong too

Okay

Your sister gave birth to your niece and her new daughters middle name is....your other sisters daughters first name?

Your post makes so sense.

You wanted your sister to name her baby girl after one of your sons??

So your sister named her female child using the name of a shared niece as a middle name and you feel left out because you have a son?

I think it's quite common. Kate and William have used Louis TWICE. Second name for George and baby Louis. I am sure if the sisters are close they would have discussed it first.

But it sounds as if it is a lot more than baby names upsetting you.

What are you upset about?

That the child’s middle name is the same as her cousin’s first name? But neither of these children are yours.

I don’t understand why that’s a problem. Sorry.

There's probably another thread on here from your sister with the older daughter grumbling about her sister using the name for the new baby.

I'm confused - what have your boys names got to do with the names of your nieces? And why are you sulking because one has the same as a middle name as the other has as a first name? Plainly you ha e too much time on your hands

She can’t spell ‘niece’ hence the confusion.

No problem with the misspelling, but I’m still confused.

The problem is she has boys and isnt close to her family and she isnt a bridesmaid

I think

Not sure of the connection? One of my sons' first names is the same as his dad's middle name, not that unusual I'd have thought?

Are your family not very good at choosing names? Why would they use the same one twice?

I don't think it's weird; the middle name is rarely used, so most people outside the family won't even notice.
We had a variation of this when two cousins with the same first name rocked up in the same year at school. One was known at school by his middle name; neither lad seemed to be bothered.
I once knew a rather odd family who named both sons after their father, so three chaps with the same first name. Lack of imagination or what?
I think that your other two sisters will be closer to each other than you whatever the children are called, sadly, and the cousins will grow up seeing more of each other than their other cousins, simply because their parents have taken different paths.

Are you upset you weren't a bridesmaid, OP? Did you ask your sister(s) why not?

I wasn't for my sisters and was quite relieved tbh as I lived a long way away now, like you do, and couldn't be arsed with the meringue fashion stuff.

But if you feel left out, you need to start communicating differently with them all, including your parents, too.