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Unable to move the car AIBU?

159 replies

MrsElizabethShelby · 18/03/2019 19:29

So, I know DH WBVVU but was I?

This morning we took the car on the school run. Don't usually but needed to today.

I cannot drive. I don't have a license. DH parks across a driveway with a car in it.

I said to DH 'you can't park there' he objected and said ' oh, il only be a minute' and jumped out to run DD1 into school.

The minute DH was out of sight owner comes out of her house keys in hand and mouths at me that she needs to leave.

I rolled down the window, apologized and said husband will be back in a sec.

She repeated she needed to leave. I apologized again and explained that I can't drive and that even if I could DH has the keys and he will be back any minute.

This time she shouted she needed to leave. I said I'm sorry I've tried to explain and rolled my window back up.

I could have taken DD1 into school but DH had jumped out and gone before I had even had chance to suggest it.

Woman begins banging on my window shouting at me to move the car. Frightening my infant DD2 and making her cry.

Husband told her to wind her neck in when he got back and we ended up falling out as it was his fault as he parked there is the first place.

All of this took place over the space of about 5 minutes.

OP posts:
AlmostAJillSandwich · 18/03/2019 19:31

You were physically incapable of moving the car, while she had every right to be annoyed she shouldn't have been banging on windows.

OKBobble · 18/03/2019 19:32

YWBU too. as soon as he parked you should have made him move or taken child into school.

PengAly · 18/03/2019 19:32

He shouldnt have parked there in the first place and she had every right to be annoyed but banging on your window was uncalled for.

bunintheoven88 · 18/03/2019 19:34

Your husband was BU but at that exact moment in time there was nothing you could do and you tried to explain so no you weren't BU.

She shouldn't have banged on the window and frightened your DD, very silly thing to do.

PuzzlingPuzzle · 18/03/2019 19:34

it was his fault as he parked there is the first place - you’ve summed it up. And no of course you shouldn’t have attempted to move the car when you don’t have a license and can’t drive. Driveway lady shouldn’t have banged on the car but I 100% get her frustration. I also can’t believe your DH told the woman to ‘wind her neck in’ when he was the one blocking her driveway. He sounds like an entitled arse.

KoraBora · 18/03/2019 19:37

She was out of order banging on the windows but she is probably fed up of selfish pricks like your husband. Hope you have it to him with both barrels.

underneaththeash · 18/03/2019 19:38

I would have banged on your car too. Parking across someone's drive is not acceptable ever - even for 5 minutes.

SouthernComforts · 18/03/2019 19:39

The poor woman will have people like you and DH outside her house Every. Single. Day. She is entitled to be pissed off. Your DH should have parked somewhere else.

I live near a place tourists flock to when the weather is nice, it's a huge PITA when people ditch their cars with no thought for residents.

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 18/03/2019 19:39

Jeez your husband is a selfish dickhead.

Easterbunnyiscomingsoon · 18/03/2019 19:40

Is he always so entitled?

JacquesHammer · 18/03/2019 19:40

Your husband was very unreasonable to park across a drive.

Driveway lady was very unreasonable to bang on your car.

YWNU at all.

Nicknacky · 18/03/2019 19:40

Your husband was massively unreasonable and caused that situation. Why didn’t you just take your child to school, you would have had ample time to say “no, I will take her”.

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MrsElizabethShelby · 18/03/2019 19:41

puzzling he certainly can be sometimes. I think it's a learned habit from having selfish parents. He used to never clear his own rubbish from places like McDonald's because 'someone is paid to do that' until I explained what a colossal cunt that made him. Bobble I'm intrigued as to how you think I could have made a grown man move a car he didn't want to move.Confused

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CluedoAddict · 18/03/2019 19:41

Your husband is a selfish prick. The woman may have needed to go to the hospital or anywhere else important.

Iloveacurry · 18/03/2019 19:41

He shouldn’t of parked there. I’d be annoyed too if I was the home owner.

Cranky17 · 18/03/2019 19:41

completely dh fault, he needs to take all the responsibility for this issues including causing your infant dd to cry

boredboredboredboredbored · 18/03/2019 19:42

There was a Jeremy Kyle style row outside my dc primary school because of this situation. Police were called and it got ugly.

Woman still parked across home owners driveway the next day.

Absolutely disgusting, completely unnecessary and completely selfish. Every parent who parks there thinks it'll only be for a minute or two, imagine if there were several like this everyday. Nightmare!

BluebadgenPIP · 18/03/2019 19:43

Couldn’t you have got out with the baby and walked down to meet your DH and told him to get back to the car pronto?

He’s a dick.

CloserIAm2Fine · 18/03/2019 19:43

Your DH is a rude and selfish prick

You couldn’t move the car. But you can surely appreciate her frustration. She’s probably thoroughly sick of dicks like him blocking her in

I probably would’ve tried calling DH to show that you were making an effort.

Pinkyyy · 18/03/2019 19:44

The banging on the window was very rude and very unnecessary. You told her there was no way for you to move the car, I'm not sure what she was expecting you to do.

Witchend · 18/03/2019 19:44

He can't only have been a minute as he said he would be if there was time for it to escalate to that point.

And it's not acceptable to do that even for a minute. If he managed to jump out, get child to jump out with bags, and get out of calling distance before you managed to form the words "I'll take her" then he's a miracle worker.

CloserIAm2Fine · 18/03/2019 19:44

Oh and I would be walking my child to school from now on if he thinks he can carry on behaving like that

thedisorganisedmum · 18/03/2019 19:45

You were caught in the middle, not your fault. You understand why the woman was so angry, and she had no way to know you couldn't drive. When parents can't be bothered to leave a drive free, they are the same people who will refuse to move because they can't be bothered.

Tell your husband how embarrassing it is, that people now take photos and some schools have started putting them in newsletter, or they at least end up on social media. It's not fair on your child.

tickingthebox · 18/03/2019 19:45

Having lived close to a school the number of parents who did this was amazing - my general tactic was to just press the car horn continuously so everyone was staring and commenting and a highly embarrassed parent rushed back.... they never did it twice, although another parent would then try "just stopping for a moment".

BluebadgenPIP · 18/03/2019 19:46

And I agree with whoever said he got himself out, a child out and the bags out in less time than it would have taken you to get out, take child’s hand and say “I’ll walk in”?

(Disclaimer, if you are disabled then you clearly couldn’t do this necessarily, but your op makes no mention of this)