Unable to move the car AIBU?

[MrsElizabethShelby]

So, I know DH WBVVU but was I?

This morning we took the car on the school run. Don't usually but needed to today.

I cannot drive. I don't have a license. DH parks across a driveway with a car in it.

I said to DH 'you can't park there' he objected and said ' oh, il only be a minute' and jumped out to run DD1 into school.

The minute DH was out of sight owner comes out of her house keys in hand and mouths at me that she needs to leave.

I rolled down the window, apologized and said husband will be back in a sec.

She repeated she needed to leave. I apologized again and explained that I can't drive and that even if I could DH has the keys and he will be back any minute.

This time she shouted she needed to leave. I said I'm sorry I've tried to explain and rolled my window back up.

I could have taken DD1 into school but DH had jumped out and gone before I had even had chance to suggest it.

Woman begins banging on my window shouting at me to move the car. Frightening my infant DD2 and making her cry.

Husband told her to wind her neck in when he got back and we ended up falling out as it was his fault as he parked there is the first place.

All of this took place over the space of about 5 minutes.

[bluegreygreen]

Your husband was VVVU

You were a little U by not walking your daughter in

But

Might it be time to learn to drive?

[BettyBigBollocks]

I know I’m now just echoing every other poster but your husband is a massive fucking selfish twatbag, and embarrassing to boot.

Don’t let him teach his appalling morals and huge sense of entitlement to your children.

My sympathies lie with the homeowner and with you for putting up with this twunt.

[bullyingadvice2017]

Time to learn to drive. For you and him. He sounds like he's not a nice person.
Got some front to tell the woman to wind her neck in when he is in the wrong! Makes me wonder how you get spoken to when challenged if he will speak to a stranger like that!

[ChicCroissant]

Your DH was wrong to park there, but you should have walked your daughter in and left him in the car.

I hope he doesn't park across a drive again. He was unacceptably rude to the person he was blocking in.

[nocoolnamesleft]

Sounds like you're not the only one who can't drive, as your husband should not be on the roads either. This was all caused by your DH being a totally selfish irresponsible arsehole. So how he had the cheek to have a go at the victim in this is beyond me.

[MitziK]

I'm yet to understand why anyone buys a house near a primary school

Not everybody does. Many are dependent upon what is available from the social housing sector and they're grateful for the housing, but are still perfectly entitled to be pissed off at the actions of entitled parents when it stops them from leaving on time.

(By the way, I don't have a drive or a car, but I do have to put up with half the school climbing on - and falling off - the front wall and running up the slope/no gate that was built specifically to provide disabled access, not as a convenient structure to play on/ride their scooters up when going to/from school. It's not my fault for living in an accessible property, it's the fault of parents who don't see the need to parent their children)

[buckeejit]

LTB

[mirime]

The husband was completely in the wrong.

Not sure why shouting at the person in the passenger seat is helpful, and I don't blame the OP for closing the window. I get that it's frustrating, but shouting and banging windows is never going to improve the situation. Though she was not unreasonable to be annoyed and pissed off.

[MrsElizabethShelby]

No, I have no need to learn to drive. I can walk or get public transport anywhere I need to go. We live in a very well provided for city in that sense. It's DH that insists on running a car and its me who insists it's nothing special as we dont really need it or the expense

[dreichuplands]

Learn to drive, then his inconsiderate ways won't need to impact you.
You were both being unreasonable as adults for parking there but you couldn't move the car.

[LarryGreysonsDoor]

I'm yet to understand why anyone buys a house near a primary school

MIL bought her house 50 years ago when people didn’t drive their children to school.

[ScarletPower]

I'm yet to understand why anyone buys a house near a primary school. Every single one I know of has parking issues and residents getting pissed off. Yes, the inconsiderate parking people are unreasonable, but it's totally predictable so if it's likely to piss you off so much then buy a different house. It's like buying a house next to a pub and getting pissed off at loud drunk people at 11pm on a Friday night

Cordelia Earheart - when we moved here 15 years ago the problem wasn't as bad on my street but was terrible right next to the school. But within the last three years the council have put double yellows down, extended double yellows that were already down on a main road, made a one-way system to improve traffic flow and implemented permit holders only parking which has had the affect of solving issues on the immediate streets right next to the school but pushed them farther away to where I am where there are no restrictions, no double yellows and no permits needed.

I don't have issues with anyone parking on the road, I understand we don't own the road, but it is the inconsiderate blocking of driveways that boils my piss.

I'd honestly never buy a house near a primary school again.

[londonrach]

What a horrible nasty cf person you so called dh is. Only one at fault is is you 'd' h. He shouldnt have parked there simple. Is he normally that antisocial? Our street is reporting antisocial people like your 'd'h to the police at their request at the moment (about to go resident only at police and our request with mp involvement) and each cf like you h are getting a police visit and a fine. Photos are being taken using police camera and our local mp is involved.

[OhDearGodLookAtThisMess]

its me who insists it's nothing special

Clearly not, if you had to wind the window down. Don't most cars, since the mid-90s, have electric windows?

[BlueSkiesLies]

He parked across someone’s drive then told them to ‘wind their neck in’

He. Is. A. Nasty. Twat.

[Rubusfruticosus]

Why couldn't you have run her into school while he drove around the block if there was no parking?

[arethereanyleftatall]

I think you could have handled it better by explaining to the lady 'I'm so sorry, my husband is an entitled selfish twat, he's parked here because he doesn't consider anyone else ever. I'm afraid I cannot drive and that bellend has the keys anyway. On the plus side for you, you're held up for a few minutes today, at least you're not married to him.'

[BloodMeridian]

It’s threads like this that make me think you should have the legal right to damage/tow any car that blocks your drive or parks on your land without your express permission. I bet you’d see a lot less of this behaviour if people knew they could come back to a smashed windscreen and have no legal recourse.

[TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross]

A message for your H here

[Unicornsbumhole]

YWBVVU had you parked across my drive like a multitude of entitled arrogant stupid and downsright LAZY ass parents who can't be bothered to park 100 yards up the road where there is room to park to drop their precious brat off at the local primary opposite, chances are I woukd have done worse than simply bang on your window, and your husband is an utter cunt for telling the woman to 'wind her neck in' I'd have probably threatened to ram you the fuck out of my way.
Absolutely sick of entitled arseholes blocking my drive EVERY FUCKING DAY just to drop little jonny off at school.
I need to get to work and drop my child off at the childminders but no, I don't matter apparently

[LittlePaintBox]

I'm not sure why you're asking if you're being unreasonable. You were BOTH unreasonable by parking the car across her drive. You, as the non-driver, should have nipped out to take your daughter to school so your husband could move the car out of the way if needed to.

If you're on a tight schedule in the morning, a delay of 5 minutes can make quite a big difference, and it's completely inconsiderate to block people into their drives at any time of day.

I don't blame the woman for banging on the window and shouting - she must have been very frustrated. As others have said, your husband telling her to wind her neck in was knobbish.

[OKhitmewithit]

@lifecraft whatever, but clearly you got the point. I’m sure the OP would too, and ignore it along with most other points that tell her she was BU

[Schuyler]

YABU. He’s a nasty piece of work but you do bear some responsibility by being there and passively letting it happen. The caveat to that is if you are genuinely scared of him, in which case, I hope you fin some suppport and leave that ‘man’.

[CavaIsLife]

I know it's already been said, but your husband is a cunt