Unable to move the car AIBU?

[MrsElizabethShelby]

So, I know DH WBVVU but was I?

This morning we took the car on the school run. Don't usually but needed to today.

I cannot drive. I don't have a license. DH parks across a driveway with a car in it.

I said to DH 'you can't park there' he objected and said ' oh, il only be a minute' and jumped out to run DD1 into school.

The minute DH was out of sight owner comes out of her house keys in hand and mouths at me that she needs to leave.

I rolled down the window, apologized and said husband will be back in a sec.

She repeated she needed to leave. I apologized again and explained that I can't drive and that even if I could DH has the keys and he will be back any minute.

This time she shouted she needed to leave. I said I'm sorry I've tried to explain and rolled my window back up.

I could have taken DD1 into school but DH had jumped out and gone before I had even had chance to suggest it.

Woman begins banging on my window shouting at me to move the car. Frightening my infant DD2 and making her cry.

Husband told her to wind her neck in when he got back and we ended up falling out as it was his fault as he parked there is the first place.

All of this took place over the space of about 5 minutes.

[Namenic]

Why don’t the council fine people for this? Maybe they could make a lot of money and/or reduce traffic. They don’t have to go in every day - just random days so people can’t second guess. Maybe they don’t even have to employ more parking wardens, just spread them over a greater area.

[Boom45]

I live close to a primary school (i know, how ridiculous of me. What was i thinking?) And , while i don't have a drive people parking like twats, mounting pavements and leaving their engines running are such a collosal pain in the arse. You're husband is clearly a selfish prick but either you're scared of him or you enable that behaviour and i don't blame the woman for being pretty pissed off. Telling her to wind her neck in was an awful thing to do, especially as all she did was knock on the window of a car that was parked illegally.

[CanoeDoYouThinkYouAre]

I can't help wondering how he would have reacted if someone blocked him in and then told him to "wind his neck in"?

I'm sure he would have been calm, measured and mature....

[timeisnotaline]

I can't help wondering how he would have reacted if someone blocked him in and then told him to "wind his neck in"?

I'm sure he would have been calm, measured and mature....hmm
This- op should do things that annoy him and say oh wind your neck in.

[Jsmith99]

Your DH is an anti-social rude arsehole. The blameless woman whose car he blocked in was entitled to be furious. His selfish, inconsiderate behaviour caused this incident. Blame lies 100% with him.

[VelvetPineapple]

Your husband is a twat. Breaks the law by blocking someone in then has the nerve to tell her off for being rightfully annoyed by his behaviour!

[LizB62A]

To be honest, if someone parked across my drive and then the (grownup) passenger told me that they couldn't drive, I'd just assume they were lying so that they wouldn't have to move it.

Your husband is an arse

[BrusselPout]

Your husband is an inconsiderate dickhead, and you should have insisted that you took your child to school if he was blocking a drive so he could move if necessary (which he shouldn't bloody do in the first place)

I'm with the woman whose drive you were parked over. Not your fault but totally guilty by association and you were there so you got the stick for it - I would have gone mental if he had told me to wind my neck in, when the issue was 109% his fault in the first place. Twat

[BrusselPout]

*100% (😂)

And perhaps you should show him the pretty unanimous vote on here to make your point

[BackforGood]

it was his fault as he parked there is the first place - you’ve summed it up. And no of course you shouldn’t have attempted to move the car when you don’t have a license and can’t drive. Driveway lady shouldn’t have banged on the car but I 100% get her frustration. I also can’t believe your DH told the woman to ‘wind her neck in’ when he was the one blocking her driveway. He sounds like an entitled arse.

This.
However, what you could have done, when he parked in such a selfish and inconsiderate way, was to jump out and say "I'll take her in, then you will be able to move the car".

As for whichever idiot said something about not understanding why you would buy a house by a Primary school . Here's a thought - maybe people assume other adults know how to drive and understand that their desire to be a little bit closer to where they want to be, does NOT entitle them to block people's drives. Maybe it doesn't occur to them, when house hunting, that there are so many inconsiderate pricks around in the world ? My house isn't by a school, but is by something else that people feel entitled to just stop at. I get blocked either in or out of my drive at least 3 or 4 times a month, but I bought the house before MN was invented, and it never crossed my mind in a million thought that people would just block my drive, as it is just not a thing that I - or any other driver I knew at the time - would do.

[jessicawessica]

I live opposite a Deli and every man and his dog park across my driveway to go in and buy Naice ham.
Pisses me right off and have lost count of the times I have had to sit in my car waiting for some arse to move their car so I can actually get off my driveway in order to pick my DCs up from school.
DH so in the wrong. Does he not know what a driveway is?

[HeddaGarbled]

Time to learn to drive?

[thatmustbenigelwiththebrie]

Surely you can drive the car forward a bit even if you don't have a licence?

[Shoxfordian]

He's really inconsiderate. Is he like this with you as well?

[Procrastination4]

@Scarletpower
If I were your husband, I wouldn’t be leaving for work ten minutes earlier than I needed to because of idiots parking across my driveway during the school run. Instead, once I was up and dressed, I’d park my car across my own driveway and then go back inside, have my breakfast with ten extra minutes to enjoy it, and drive to work happy in the knowledge that I’d prevented some selfish oik from parking across my driveway!

[SoupDragon]

Surely you can drive the car forward a bit even if you don't have a licence?

Of course you can't. Especially if you don't know how to drive a car. And have no keys.

[Namechangeforthiscancershit]

Surely you can drive the car forward a bit even if you don't have a licence?

That would be a terrible idea on so many levels

[ScarletPower]

If I were your husband, I wouldn’t be leaving for work ten minutes earlier than I needed to because of idiots parking across my driveway during the school run. Instead, once I was up and dressed, I’d park my car across my own driveway and then go back inside, have my breakfast with ten extra minutes to enjoy it, and drive to work happy in the knowledge that I’d prevented some selfish oik from parking across my driveway!

Procrastination4

Honestly, even if he did that, someone would park nose to tail with him not leaving him enough space to get out and even if they left him space to get out, he'd still have to contend with all the traffic. If cars are parked on both sides of our road it's only wide enough for one car to get up or down. So on the whole it's just easier for him to set off earlier. He does get a lie-in on school holidays though - it's bliss then!

I don't understand why my street was not included in the traffic measures the council implemented.

[Vulpine]

You need to learn to drive so you are never at the behest of your husband like that again

[TeaStory]

Your husband is a complete twat, but I think you know that.

However, if you had been the one to take your daughter in, I don’t think he would have moved the car either given his shitty response to the reasonably irate woman. He is a twat.

And, for the record, I drive a 2008 car that does not have electric windows.

[MRex]

Winding your window up was unnecessarily rude and you should have taken your DD into school. Your DH sounds like a selfish and nasty piece of work, is he really who you want to be with?

[SillyLittleBiscuit]

I’d have been mortified by your husband’s actions - selfish then rude. Ugly!

[havingtochangeusernameagain]

IN WHAT WORLD IS IT OK TO PARK ACROSS SOMEONE'S DRIVEWAY?

STOP DOING IT!

OP, your husband caused the issue and I don't think the lady was unreasonable, she probably didn't believe you couldn't drive. If your DH had left you the keys, she could have moved it a few yards for you.

I live at the end of a cul de sac and the people on the other side of the fence have had a lot of work done on their trees. For some reason, the tree surgeons think it's better to park my side of the fence and block me in. Without asking if I need to go anywhere. Last week I made a point, went out and asked them how long they would be there, and moved my car into the road.

It is NEVER ok to block a driveway. Unless you know the homeowner and they know you are doing it.

[Thesnobbymiddleclassone]

I'd have gone up to you and waited until your DH came back.

It's so rude and annoying when people block your drive or designated space. Your DH should kniw better and as you commented on it, should have insisted on taking your child to school so he could move.