Unable to move the car AIBU?

[MrsElizabethShelby]

So, I know DH WBVVU but was I?

This morning we took the car on the school run. Don't usually but needed to today.

I cannot drive. I don't have a license. DH parks across a driveway with a car in it.

I said to DH 'you can't park there' he objected and said ' oh, il only be a minute' and jumped out to run DD1 into school.

The minute DH was out of sight owner comes out of her house keys in hand and mouths at me that she needs to leave.

I rolled down the window, apologized and said husband will be back in a sec.

She repeated she needed to leave. I apologized again and explained that I can't drive and that even if I could DH has the keys and he will be back any minute.

This time she shouted she needed to leave. I said I'm sorry I've tried to explain and rolled my window back up.

I could have taken DD1 into school but DH had jumped out and gone before I had even had chance to suggest it.

Woman begins banging on my window shouting at me to move the car. Frightening my infant DD2 and making her cry.

Husband told her to wind her neck in when he got back and we ended up falling out as it was his fault as he parked there is the first place.

All of this took place over the space of about 5 minutes.

He shouldn’t have done it but it’s Sod’s law the one time he does that happens.

Or, to put it another way, 100% of the time when HE parks illegally, it prevents the householder from legally accessing the road from her own property.

Then, every other day, she's prevented again by whomever else decides that they are more important than she is.

If you have your driveway blocked every morning when you need to get your car out, it makes no practical difference whether it's the same selfish idiot each time or a brand new selfish idiot every single day - or a relay of selfish idiots throughout the extended drop-off and pick-up period.

Logically, her complaining and banging once she knew that you couldn't drive and that the keys had been taken was pointless; but don't you understand the sheer frustration that she would have been feeling that, yet again, a selfish entitled idiot had decided that he had the right to dictate a stranger's schedule for her? By being in the car and being associated with the perpetrator, you were obviously 'part' of the problem.

I'd have been very inclined to demand that you release the handbrake (or do it myself) and push the car out of the way (by nudging it with my own big old banger if necessary) - and leaving it in the middle of the road. The occupants wouldn't have been endangered in a big metal box in a low-speed residential area, but enough people would then be annoyed (and the police probably called) that your husband would in no way get away with trying to gaslight them that they were the unreasonable ones and not him.

Some time ago, a selfish driver near us parked in the middle of the yellow hatched area at the end of the road where the fire station was. THAT'S why the area was hatched. The inevitable happened and the fire engine couldn't get out. They gestured furiously to him to move, but he ignored them, so they used the fire engine to slowly push him out of the way and left him pointing the wrong way and at an odd angle, with quite a bit of expensive damage to his car. Did everybody think the fire crew unreasonable? Going on the grins and the cheers, I assume not.

I know it would never happen, but how wonderful it would be if some burly PCSOs could be there, waiting for the selfish parker with a pair of handcuffs, and slap them straight on their wrists for a short time. When they inevitably protest, simply tell them "Oh, you'll only lose your legal liberties and your ability to go about your day for 5 or 10 minutes or so - just like you forced this poor homeowner to do. Wind your neck in, mate...." There could be a £50 release fee, to cover their salary for the time.

If your DH had left you the keys, she could have moved it a few yards for you

There is no way in hell of let a potentially uninsured and infuriated stranger (or any stranger for that matter) drive my car, not even a few feet.

@OP No, I have no need to learn to drive.

Yes you do. So you can move the car after the bell end you are married to has parked it like a twat.

I have to deal with what that woman has to deal with every day. It's fucking annoying when selfish pricks come along and park on MY driveway, sometimes I'm unable to park after getting home from work as they are parked across my driveway, cheeky twats.

Tbh, if I'd have been told to wind my neck in by your dickhead husband, I'd have kicked the car and left a dent.

If you choose to associate with twats then you get treated like one. I don't blame the woman at all.

He's a complete and utter dick and you're his apologist with all this 'I don't need to learn to drive' 'She made DD2 cry' 'Whatever DH'. And of course, subsequent posts have backed it all up. The leaving all his crap at Maccie D's - I'd have dumped any cunt who did that pronto.

As soon as he parked there you should have immediately said that you would take your DD in so he was there to move it if necessary

Yes, because he's clearly the type of man who listens to his wife...

Look, what you do in this situation is the driver drives round the block, the non driver does the drop off and then the non driver gets back in. It's what you do!

If someone did this to me I would be incandescent so I don't blame the woman at all. I imagine she thought that even if you weren't the driver you had effectively colluded with him, which in effect you did by letting him leave the car.

Your toddler getting upset is a side issue I'm afraid. If he carries on like this, your DH is going to create all sorts of upsetting situations in front of your DC.