Unable to move the car AIBU?

[MrsElizabethShelby]

So, I know DH WBVVU but was I?

This morning we took the car on the school run. Don't usually but needed to today.

I cannot drive. I don't have a license. DH parks across a driveway with a car in it.

I said to DH 'you can't park there' he objected and said ' oh, il only be a minute' and jumped out to run DD1 into school.

The minute DH was out of sight owner comes out of her house keys in hand and mouths at me that she needs to leave.

I rolled down the window, apologized and said husband will be back in a sec.

She repeated she needed to leave. I apologized again and explained that I can't drive and that even if I could DH has the keys and he will be back any minute.

This time she shouted she needed to leave. I said I'm sorry I've tried to explain and rolled my window back up.

I could have taken DD1 into school but DH had jumped out and gone before I had even had chance to suggest it.

Woman begins banging on my window shouting at me to move the car. Frightening my infant DD2 and making her cry.

Husband told her to wind her neck in when he got back and we ended up falling out as it was his fault as he parked there is the first place.

All of this took place over the space of about 5 minutes.

[OKhitmewithit]

I think she was quite right to bang on the window. You put the window up, a strong ‘shut up’ message. You ABU, but you clearly don’t see it.

[WeCameToDance]

Your husband sounds like an inconsiderate twat. I hate the phrase 'wind your neck in'. In my experience it is only ever used to shut somebody up when the speaker knows they are in the wrong.
Bottom line is your husband should not have parked there and I don't blame the woman for being angry. Why is your husbands time more important than hers?

[fourfuckssake4]

Surprised you even have to ask if you are being unreasonable. You are

[ChardonnaysPrettySister]

Husband told her to wind her neck

Charming.

[Billben]

wind her neck in

What an entitled fuck. At first I thought oh, maybe the woman shouldn’t have banged on the window. But to be honest, you got what you deserved if that’s your husband’s attitude. The poor woman is probably fed up with cunts like your husband telling her to wind her neck in even though they are in the wrong. I’d be ripping shreds of my DH if he’d embarrassed me like that.

[Hercules12]

I'd have assumed you found this sort of behaviour acceptable seeing as he's your dh. hearing what he said to her would have confirmed this for me.

[Ellisandra]

And btw, Relationships is that way >>>
Cos I’m willing to bet that he’s a cunt to you too.

[JeNeBaguetteRien]

Your DH is a complete knob.
If you think this is due to the fact he had 'selfish parents' I'd be worried about what your own children are learning.
And he didn't even apologise!

People who do this are not 'otherwise lovely', those who have such a phenomenonal sense of entitlement tend to breeze through life acting like this.

If my DH tried this I'd immediately ask WTF he thought he was doing and he'd move the car. The fact you didn't (feel able to?) says a lot.

[BluebadgenPIP]

Don’t most cars have electric windows these days?

The only one I know that doesn’t is my very old (2001) basic Renault.

Why’d he take the keys when you were sitting in the car?

[thelikelylass]

nope, I lived by a school and those selfish twats didn't care about any of the residents. Your DH was wrong and the woman right to cause a scene if you were blocking HER drive.

[GreatWesternValkyrie]

So your husband blocked someone’s drive because you needed to drop off your child and be somewhere else on time. No consideration for the woman you blocked in who might also have had be somewhere else on time.

Mightily ignorant on the part of your husband no matter how little time you/he think he took. And his response to the woman he inconvenienced was really off. I would bet it was actually a fair bit ruder than “wind your neck in” judging by his behaviour.

As for banging on your window, I’m not sure I blame her, she must get this crap day in, day out.

[MrsElizabethShelby]

I dont know bluebadge habit? Our car is very old.

[Dramatical]

Honestly didn't really want a debate about it so when he said 'oh il just be a minute' I suppose I just kind of thought ' whatever DH'

You mean you are scared of him. Scared to talk to him. Scared to tell him not to be a dick. Scared of his reaction.

I echo the poster who suggested you hit up the relationships forum.

[BluebadgenPIP]

You and he were both entitled twats and the pair of you should be ashamed.

God help you. I bet you don’t have your sorrows to seek. Good luck with him.

[ColeHawlins]

Will you show him this thread OP?

[MrsElizabethShelby]

Why colehawlins ? I am perfectly able to tell him he is being a dick without you lot to help me!
We had a falling out about it afterwards because I do know he was out of order.

[BluebadgenPIP]

Why didn’t you tell him at the time?

[ColeHawlins]

Oh I don't know. In my experience, arrogant men don't listen to their wives, but popular opinion sometimes sways them.

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

Wasn't there another thread about this earlier, written by someone who was visiting the homeowner and couldn't park?

Then again it could have been someone different ... after all, inconsiderate parkers are ten a penny on the school run

[WeepingWillowWeepingWino]

As soon as he parked there you should have immediately said that you would take your DD in so he was there to move it if necessary. Or he should have realised it. One of you should have! Because then his parking across a drive wouldn’t have mattered.

[Lifecraft]

@Okhitmewithit Heard of dual enterprise?

Nope. I've heard of joint enterprise. But not dual enterprise.

[MrsElizabethShelby]

Yes puzzled that thread inspired my thread.

[ScarletPower]

I could be that woman.

It's very frustrating because it happens to us (the householder) every single day twice a day but because it is different drivers every time, the drivers don't see that they are in the wrong as in their minds they are only there "for 5 minutes" - that is what they always say but it never is "just 5 minutes" as our street is one of the few without double yellows or permit holders so they start arriving 15-20 minutes before school starts / ends so they can get parked and they can be 5-10 minutes after the bell has gone before returning to the car.

Last week I went for a 9am hair appointment (never again), went to my car, found my driveway blocked and had to wait 13 minutes for the driver to come back.

The school ask the parents in every single newsletter not to block driveways on our road and it falls on deaf ears.

I think it is not illegal to block an empty drive, but it is illegal to block an exit from a drive but what is the point in calling the police? They're not going to send someone out before the parent returns to their car so we just have to put up with it.

We just have to make sure to time our exit and returns when school rush hour is over or before it starts. My DH has to leave home 10 minutes earlier than he should have to as if he left on time he couldn't get out of the drive as it would be blocked and he'd end up being late for work.

Like I said earlier, it was you today for this woman and you probably won't do it again but tomorrow it will be a different parent.

Primary schools are the worst with the kids not being allowed out on their own so the parents have no choice but to get out of their car. At least with a high school the parents wait in the car for the kids.

I honestly dont have an answer despite my rant.

[cuppycakey]

Your DH sounds like a total wankbadger. How do you stand him?

[OKBobble]

You asked me how you xould have made a grown man move it! My DH would (a) not do it to begin with and (b) if I pointed out why he shouldn't he would have enough respect for me and my opinion that he would move it. I guess I am used to dealing with respectful, rational humans and not twats like your DH. Perhaps if you called him out on his behaviour - parking, telling pior woman to wind her neck in he might act with more humility. However for whatever reason you have you seem to want to enable his bad behaviour. Stand up for yourself and don't put up with his crap.