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Original poster

To be shocked by what ‘friend’ did at my party?

156 replies

DannyOD · 25/02/2019 16:29

Ok, this may be long but I don’t want to drip feed.

I had a ‘Games Night’ on Saturday. My ds (21), his girlfriend (21), dd (19) her boyfriend (21), dd’s best friend (19), her boyfriend (19) me and best friends Mum (in our 40s). I am friendly with this woman but we only met through our Dds and I doubt we would have become friends otherwise.

Anyway, we were playing a silly drinking card game of Dd’s. You had to read instructions off of card and do them. One was grab something beginning with D. I grabbed the dog, ds the door etc when my ‘friend’ reached out and grabbed Dd’s Boyfriends penis!!! He shouted something like Wow - I wasn’t expecting that!!!! And looked a bit awkward. I was mortified but everyone was laughing so I didn’t want to make a scene.

I thought it was totally out of order and if it had been a man doing it to a young girl I am sure everyone would have been horrified!!! Or am I overreacting??

OP posts:
rainbowunicorn · 25/02/2019 16:48

ILikePaperHats would it still be funny if a 40 something year old man grabbed a woman's breasts or stuck his hand between her legs? What a bloody stupid thing to say.

RaffertyFair · 25/02/2019 16:50

ILikePaperHats

I think it's funny actually. Where's your sense of humour?

FFS don't be an arse

glamorousgrandmother · 25/02/2019 16:51

D for dick?

No, it's not funny and someone should tell her.

AssassinatedBeauty · 25/02/2019 16:51

It's not funny, it's grim. What on earth was she thinking?

It's ok to have been flustered at the time, but I agree that you could now contact her and point out how inappropriate it was.

joystir59 · 25/02/2019 16:51

He should go to the police. That's assault. He had plenty of witnesses. That is absolutely awful behaviour

OnlineAlienator · 25/02/2019 16:51

It's sexual assault imo, wildly inappropriate

Original poster
DannyOD · 25/02/2019 16:52

Ginky - yep!!!

OP posts:
Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom · 25/02/2019 16:53

How would she have bloody well felt if when she was 21 a 40 year old man had cupped her vulva "for a laugh" in front of a room full of people.

Friday2019 · 25/02/2019 16:53

It is extremely inappropriate!!

Sounds like she put her silly cap on and acted in the moment. She certainly did not behave like the adult in the room.

pigsDOfly · 25/02/2019 16:54

ILikePaperHats So when Trump talked about grabbing women's pussies you thought that was funny too, I assume?

chillpizza · 25/02/2019 16:54

Oh my I wouldn’t be happy with someone grabbing my child or my partner like that. Your poor dd’s bf and likely her.

lettymoo · 25/02/2019 16:55

dick begins with D, hilarious, if you've been getting a bit merry. A grown woman reaching over and grabbing a young man's dick - horribly inappropriate. I hope she just has very low alcohol tolerance to have got it into her head that this was a funny idea. It's completely unacceptable and if one of my friends did this I'd be horrified and put me off socialising with them

BridlingtonSand · 25/02/2019 16:55

How would she have bloody well felt if when she was 21 a 40 year old man had cupped her vulva "for a laugh" in front of a room full of people.

Or if two 40 year old men were playing drinking games with people half their age, and then there was a sexual assault.

caringcarer · 25/02/2019 16:56

I would not be inviting her around again. I would text to say she was completely inappropriate and you found it offensive. She should apologise to your dd bf .

Topseyt · 25/02/2019 16:56

That's disgraceful. I might have been tempted to ask her to leave.

AliceLiddel · 25/02/2019 16:57

I think you need to speak to the boyfriend and see how he feels about it. Its up to him what to do. Plus he needs to know he has your backup. I would want that for my daughter if it was the other way around.

Also I would send the other mom a message regardless explaining it was inappropriate and asking how she would react if a dad did it to her daughter in front of a room full of people.

Lizzie48 · 25/02/2019 17:00

Completely vile, I can't believe anyone could find it funny. Hmm

I wouldn't want to associate with her again in your shoes.

Holidayshopping · 25/02/2019 17:03

How bizarre!

In a room full of friends I’ve known for decades after much wine, if someone pointed at their own husbands bits in this circumstance-I probably would have laughed.

In this situation-it’s very inappropriate!

PortiaCastis · 25/02/2019 17:04

What an awful woman, she needs telling that her behaviour is inappropriate

LimeKiwi · 25/02/2019 17:06

Eww. Not cool.

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 17:06

I feel sick. That's fucking vile. I would have gone nuclear if my (so-called) friend had grabbed my DD's boyfriend's penis. I assume she meant DICK (a thing beginning with D!)

What a desperate sad slapper. Fucking vile. I would have ghosted the cunt already.

@Ilikepaperhats

I think it's funny. Where's your sense of humour?

Are you fucking kidding me right now?! Hmm

Barrenfieldoffucks · 25/02/2019 17:07

Gross.

Also think hanging out playing drinking games with your kids and their friends is a little odd but each to their own.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 25/02/2019 17:07

Uuurgh, that’s sleazy and horrible. I wouldn’t want anything to do with her after that.

Pinkyyy · 25/02/2019 17:08

I agree, totally inappropriate.

Aeroflotgirl · 25/02/2019 17:12

That is dreadful, sexual assault, as it would if similar happened to a women, and a man grabbed a woman's breast.