AIBU?
...to not know how to respond to this message...
WigglyBraddins · 22/10/2018 12:14
...from a "gentleman" with whom I had a recent liaison?
"Urgh, this is horrible for me, and for you, and it could well sour things and I would hate myself if it did. But, I have to be honest. I said you were not my normal type, physically, and that is very true. I am really attracted to slim women, I can't help it and have tried before, with it not getting very far. I completely accept that circumstances and free time dictate how we are able to shape ourselves. I understand if you are hurt by this, and trust me I hate it having to be a thing. I hate the idea of men dictating to a woman what they should look like, and I am not telling you to do anything. I am just saying, in the past at least, this issue has got in the way. If you did feel like meeting me in the middle on this then I am realistic and not as demanding as you might initially think. As I say I totally understand that your circumstances and how they are not exactly kind in this respect. There are literally zero other red flags, especially none outside of your control, maybe. Urgh, I am so sorry, I know how this issue can really fuck women up but as I say I can't help what I like, but I am super realistic about what is possible and what is not. Urgh urgh."
Suggestions for an appropriate response would be very much appreciated.
OrangeOrBlackcurrant · 22/10/2018 12:16
Either send a laughing emoji, "ah bless" or send nothing.
What a weirdo!
isitthehormones · 22/10/2018 12:17
Is he actually asking you to lose weight?
If that’s what he is asking I wouldn’t even reply, what a total douchebag. You are worth so much more 
Blanchedupetitpois · 22/10/2018 12:17
What a creep, and what a cringy message. I wouldn’t even text back, just block him.
IStandWithPosie · 22/10/2018 12:18
Hang on, Ian this man telling you he wants you to lose weight? But doesn’t want him saying so to sour things between you? How many times have you seen him? Have you had sex?
Jaxtellerswife · 22/10/2018 12:19
Good god what an absolute bellend. Thank goodness he's shown it now
Iwantamarshmallow · 22/10/2018 12:20
Don't reply .. Block his number. He's not a nice man OP.
FadedRed · 22/10/2018 12:20
Reply using the same message, but edited so that it refers to the size of his penis.
CoraPirbright · 22/10/2018 12:20
Is your liaison ongoing? Or were you hoping it would be? I just can't get my head around anyone sending such a pointlessly unpleasant message? I think I'd message something along the lines of shallow tossers not being your usual type either but you thought you'd give him a chance. However in light of his message about your lack of slimness you feel better off reverting to your decent-man-type. Then block the twat.
Fatasfook · 22/10/2018 12:21
Wow. What a dick!
You could either ignore and block or reply thanking him for making this easy as you were going to dump him because he has a tiny penis and while there are no other red flags, this is a big deal for you.
Dragongirl10 · 22/10/2018 12:21
Reply,
'of course l understand, and without meaning to hurt your feelings, you are not really my type either, l really prefer men to be rather more , how shall l put this? 'moderately well endowed' but of course l understand this is beyond your control, and l am super realistic about this.
All things considered shall we agree to part amicably?'
davisday · 22/10/2018 12:21
Aww bless is great. Or fuck off. But I think aww bless is my favourite. It's put down and an insult. Fuck off indicates you are mad. Aww bless doesnt.
Definitely
'Awww bless'
Loonoon · 22/10/2018 12:22
Tell him he doesn’t meet your standard of being a reasonable human being so you are blocking him and moving on.
MarthasGinYard · 22/10/2018 12:22
"Hey we all lower our personal standards occasionally"
"Well, I certainly did...."
mostdays · 22/10/2018 12:22
I am super realistic about what is possible and what is not
"That's good, so you won't be realistically expecting anything more than a 'sod off weirdo' response to your message"
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