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...to not know how to respond to this message...

646 replies

WigglyBraddins · 22/10/2018 12:14

...from a "gentleman" with whom I had a recent liaison?

"Urgh, this is horrible for me, and for you, and it could well sour things and I would hate myself if it did. But, I have to be honest. I said you were not my normal type, physically, and that is very true. I am really attracted to slim women, I can't help it and have tried before, with it not getting very far. I completely accept that circumstances and free time dictate how we are able to shape ourselves. I understand if you are hurt by this, and trust me I hate it having to be a thing. I hate the idea of men dictating to a woman what they should look like, and I am not telling you to do anything. I am just saying, in the past at least, this issue has got in the way. If you did feel like meeting me in the middle on this then I am realistic and not as demanding as you might initially think. As I say I totally understand that your circumstances and how they are not exactly kind in this respect. There are literally zero other red flags, especially none outside of your control, maybe. Urgh, I am so sorry, I know how this issue can really fuck women up but as I say I can't help what I like, but I am super realistic about what is possible and what is not. Urgh urgh."

Suggestions for an appropriate response would be very much appreciated.

OP posts:
yelpingSpookyWillies · 22/10/2018 12:57

I've seen this before - this message - how strange

Deathgrip · 22/10/2018 12:57

So he thinks he’s such a fucking catch that you’d actually want anything to do with him after this? What a cunt.

MarthasGinYard · 22/10/2018 12:57

Yelping me too

Hhhhmmmmmmm

Volfgang · 22/10/2018 12:58

No - don't imply your feelings are hurt! Tell him you're loving it!

tolerable · 22/10/2018 12:58

who the fuck is he??? !!!???? just reply."oh weirdbaws, I really didnt expect to hear from you again.Lets stick to that as a plan."

MarthasGinYard · 22/10/2018 12:58

Infact I'll see if I can find the thread

Ava1988 · 22/10/2018 12:58

🤢 how gross! Doesn't even warrant a response. Don't bother. Creepy creepy creepy!

SomeKnobend · 22/10/2018 12:58

"oh fuck off you needy twat". Then block.

Jengnr · 22/10/2018 12:58

Or perhaps ‘are you real’

The small cock jibes are tempting and fun but he’ll just think he upset you so you retaliated. Don’t give him that power. You don’t want to see him again because he’s a bellend. It’s not for any other reason.

Volfgang · 22/10/2018 12:59

So he thinks he’s such a fucking catch that you’d actually want anything to do with him after this? What a cunt.

No, he thinks she's that desperate. Because she must have been to have been with him!

MortyVicar · 22/10/2018 12:59

"I'm sorry, I think you've sent this to the wrong person. This is clearly intended for someone who you think might give a flying fuck about your opinion, but I don't. Toodle pip!"

LeticiaDejeuner · 22/10/2018 13:00

Beamur Grin

or, "Crikey, can't believe you thought I'd want to see you again after THAT performance?!! Lol. Get over yourself!!"

DiscontinuedModelHusband · 22/10/2018 13:01

"sorry, which one were you babe?"

would be the best answer.

anything else (other than no response at all, which wouldn't be very satisfying) would just be feeding the bellend.

Boomchicawowow · 22/10/2018 13:01

Pleaaaaase tell us what you decide to send Grin

FusionChefGeoff · 22/10/2018 13:01

Er, ok. Bye.

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 22/10/2018 13:02

This has got to be a joke! I'm

I'd send home a link to this thread then block his number....

PawneeParksDept · 22/10/2018 13:02

What a cunt. I read it wondering if it was an ex as well, similar style, of being a misogynist whilst simultaneously pretending to be woke and the thin veneer failing dismally

NotANotMan · 22/10/2018 13:02

Oh my god.
I'd text back 'thanks but no thanks'

Gottagetmoving · 22/10/2018 13:03

I would thank him for his honesty but add I'm far too happy a person to get involved with someone who has 'issues' who may drag me down.

WigglyBraddins · 22/10/2018 13:05

I am really tempted to send him a link to this thread. Your responses are amazing. I'm going to totally amalgamate them and report back.

It would be really really weird if a message phrased like this has been on here before. Maybe he really wants to be on Mumsnet.

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selfidentifyinggiraffe · 22/10/2018 13:07

Send him a link to a penis pump...

Ask if he's willing to meet you halfway also

and do @Volfgang suggestion

Volfgang · 22/10/2018 13:07

Wiggly - we really need to know his height, weight, profession, annual income, interests, brain power (apart from uugh being an indicator), hobbies, financial situation, housing situation.
Then we can really come into our own.

Candlelights2345 · 22/10/2018 13:07

I like the response that said you’ll lose weight when he thickens his dick up 😂😂😂
What a massive knobhead.

OldGreyBoots · 22/10/2018 13:07

My favourite has got to be "which one were you again?" Grin

BlessedBeTheFruitCake · 22/10/2018 13:07

What a twat he sounds. Urgh!?