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To do a runner?

183 replies

ladyface69 · 02/09/2018 13:12

And move to Wales??

So here it is. I'm a qualified NHS professional with lots of options career-wise. No children, no debts or mortgage.
But I really don't want to stick around with my OH, he has made it clear over the last 5 years that he isn't going anywhere in life and (I have posted previously about this) when I try to break up the relationship will turn on the charm and wear me down until I agree to stick it out.
There is a recruitment campaign for the NHS in wales at the moment and they will pay relocation costs (not a lot, but enough to tidy up my current rental property, pay a bond on a new one, maybe hire a van to move my stuff). There are jobs that I could do now, some are 6 or 12 months fixed term; so if I didn't like it I could come back easily.
My parents have a holiday cottage in Snowdonia that I could do the changeovers for if I moved up there.
It's not like I'm moving to new zealand or australia, I could technically come back for a weekend visit and lots of my friends regularly come to wales for breaks, so I wouldn't be totally isolated.

plus - Wales!

Am I mad??

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ladyface69 · 27/09/2018 21:34

also he doesn't know about my plans, I think he keeps hoping I'll get a grip and call it all off. I can't believe this is happening. It's not fun at home AT ALL right now but I feel stronger, cold inside, no matter what happens he can't affect me any more!

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Dontfeellikeamillenial · 27/09/2018 21:35

Eeeeek!

That's great! Massive congratulations!

Dontfeellikeamillenial · 27/09/2018 21:35

Take ddog and RUN! XX

PurpleCrazyHorse · 27/09/2018 21:41

You could offer to pay a higher deposit regarding your dog or to have it written into the contract that you'll have the house professionally cleaned when you leave? Just a thought if it helps.

GiddyGardner · 27/09/2018 21:42

If you need to convince a landlord about DDog, just tell them that you will have it written into tenancy agreement that you will have the place professionally cleaned before you leave tenancy and that DDog will not bark all day whilst you are at work (because of dog walkers etc.). DDog will bloody love Wales and those long glorious walks!! Good luck, what an adventure!!

Thatstheendofmytether · 27/09/2018 21:45

I want yo mave to the first house!

Thatstheendofmytether · 27/09/2018 21:45

To move

UpstartCrow · 27/09/2018 21:47

Good luck, we're all cheering you on!

TokyoSushi · 27/09/2018 21:51

Amazing!! Well done! Grin

ChaseMe · 27/09/2018 21:57

Well done

awesmum · 27/09/2018 21:58

How exciting! Best of luck. Thanks

Leeds2 · 27/09/2018 22:02

Good Luck going forward!

Soopdash · 27/09/2018 22:09

What a fabulous plan. I'm a Welshie and will never leave this place. I love everything about life here.

I wish you all the very best.

rainbowlou · 27/09/2018 22:09

Love this thread and would love to be in position to do the same!

Can I just say when looking for a rental property I found plenty that accepted animals and not children!Grin

WasabiSpring · 27/09/2018 22:13

Wow brilliant!!! I think this is a fantastic plan and although it's scary it might well be the best decision you ever made.

ShadowHuntress · 27/09/2018 22:14

Well done op and congrats on getting that interview. Wishing you all the best. You’re doing the right thing Flowers

brizzledrizzle · 27/09/2018 22:15

What is stopping you? I'd be off like a shot. Good luck.

WasabiSpring · 27/09/2018 22:17

Also I know you are being tongue in cheek when you say 'do a runner' - but it's still nice to reframe it as 'walk swiftly towards great opportunities and a brand new life - hooray!' Grin

Ginkypig · 27/09/2018 22:18

Brilliant lady!

Your so close to a brand new everything! Very very best of luck.

ThePinkOcelot · 27/09/2018 22:19

Wow!! Good for you. I wish you all the luck in the world!!

SandunesAndRainclouds · 27/09/2018 22:20

Sounds so exciting! Good luck with the interview

Enko · 27/09/2018 22:20

Fantastic update

ShotsFired · 27/09/2018 22:23

Woot woot!

We'll be over here queuing up nicely for our invites to the housewarming!

BoogieFeet · 27/09/2018 22:25

Very exciting..so glad to hear the plan is progressing Flowers

RB68 · 27/09/2018 22:26

Enjoy - I grew up in North Wales. There are some lovely areas and some awful same as most places - but the lovely really are lovely. Also the NHS is grossly understaffed (worst I have seen anywhere) and bank work is abundant! We had reason to use A&E this year with one main bank senior nurse I have never seen anyone work so hard as some of the patients were a right handful.