To steal a baby name?

[Maggie24715]

My husbands cousin is TTC and we were chatting about baby names. I'm 6 months pregnant and love the baby name she's chosen.
Would I be the worst in the world to steal it?
They live at the other end of the country so we only see them at family weddings - but they are a close family with lots of FB groups etc.

No one owns a name.... but, I think it's a pretty shitty thing to do. Would you like it done to you?

I'm sorry but that would be really mean.

did you already like it before she mentioned it, or was it her mentioning it to you that made you think of it for the first time?

If the second, it's a bit of a shitty thing to do

Is it an unusual name?

Oh please don’t. Yes no one owns a name blah blah blah but it’s shitty of you. You know that otherwise you wouldn’t be asking.

It would be a shitty thing to do

No one owns a name. However, normally mn gets posts from people who have said they have loved a name since childhood, disclosed it to a friend/ cousin/ relative, and now that person has used the name.

If you have loved the name for years, then use it. If not, then don’t.

I don't think you can 'steal' the name of a baby who hasn't even been conceived yet, and who might be a different sex from yours anyway

You don't see them often, they probably have different surnames. It's fine.

Unless you already liked it and had thought of it then I think it’s a bit of a rubbish thing to do

Id ask her. My cousin wanted to name his son after my dad and did the very polite thing of asking I said yes of course because if I had a boy they would be at different schools different ages etc etc. Some people are precious however .

Is she definitely going to use it? Perhaps talk to her... Maybe she's gone off it now? If she still definitely wants it, I wouldn't.

Shitty shitty.

I know someone who called their DS Zander after their best mate called theirs Xander...
I wouldn't do it and wouldn't like it done to me!

don't do that. There is more than one nice name. This would be mean and so unecessary

No one owns a name but imagine this the other way around; you’re TTC but as of yet no luck, you tell a family member that you’re trying and that you love a particular name for when you do have hopefully have a baby, next thing you know the family member has given her own baby that name. I expect you’d be really upset, as would anyone. So in the interest of being a decent person and not having your DH’s family hate you, you should find another name.

I think it would be very insensitive as they're struggling to conceive. Sorry.

You can't steal a baby name but can cause family resentment for about 3-5 years with your cousin if you named your child her favourite name as its firstnane. Give your child that name as a middle name if you want to use it.

Depends on the name. If it's very common then use it.

It’s pretty mean. She is guaranteed to be upset about it even if she doesn’t show it.

It would be mean of you and I think the whole family would never let you forget it!

Not great, unless it's relatively common anyway. Or ask her.

Yes yabu and a twat

So they're ttc yet you've got your lovely baby and nicking their name too ... bit mean!

Yeah that would make you a massive arsehole, sorry

There ar gazillions of names. Do you really need that specific one?? Its a bit of a dick move tbh.