To steal a baby name?

[Maggie24715]

My husbands cousin is TTC and we were chatting about baby names. I'm 6 months pregnant and love the baby name she's chosen.
Would I be the worst in the world to steal it?
They live at the other end of the country so we only see them at family weddings - but they are a close family with lots of FB groups etc.

Names aren’t owned op doesn’t have to search or ponder.she has a name in mind
Happens to be same name as another baby
Which is no big deal

''You can’t steal a name but you can lose goodwill and trust''

Exactly.

Lipstick - do one.

Lipstick - why take so much pride in showing off your lack of manners and basic human kindness?

If I liked a name I’d use it, and that’d be end of it
Conversely anyone can chose my kids names without it causing consternation

Yes, because you lack any kind of normal human empathy.

Do one?dont actually know what that means, as you were
I won’t be beholden to a notion of etiquette about names.
I don’t have to fret about what ifs of manners,trust and dreams
Conversely I don’t expect my kids names not to be replicated if someone likes them

It depends how thick-skinned you are.
You might have to live with relatives being angry and upset on her behalf.
She might feel obliged to choose another name and be angry or sad about that.
She might even never have a longed for baby and spend the rest of her life seeing and hearing your child being called the name of the child she wanted.
If none of that would bother you - go for it!

Either you're a bit of a psycopath or you stole your babies' names?!

Whilst I think sharing a name of a child that hasn’t even been conceived yet us a bit daft, she’s told you now and it would be rotten to use it.

Wouldn't bother me in the least but I can see I'm in the minority. You know your cousin. How would you feel if you do it and she takes it as badly as many of the response on here suggest she will?

Which means that the only person’s feelings you care about are your own. How unpleasant.

I wouldn’t do it if I were you. It’s not the worst thing on earth but it’s still shitty. Can you think of a modified version of the name?

Sorry, just re-read and saw that it's your husband's cousin.

Human empathy is complex and situational
A tizzy about ownership of names is superficial and petty
I definitely don’t get vexed about the what ifs and ownership of names

Tell us the name so we can all steal it 🙄

Lipstick when someone is trying to concieve, maybe having difficulty, and you are pregnant already you don't rub salt into their wound by choosing a baby's firstnane as the one they want to use.

Btw to other posters never discuss names you like with family and friends' who are also pregnant, TTC or likely to TTC in a couple of years if you are at that stage yourself.

Don't do it. It's mean, and it's something that's ultimately going to cause a rift. My aunt stole her sister's baby name almost 40 years ago and still bring its it up when they see each other.

I'm sure you'd be annoyed if she did it to you.

Human empathy is quite straightforward actually. Unless you are a complete novice, like Lipstick, who seems to be reading from a textbook.

Do one?dont actually know what that means, as you were

You do though. I'm not even from this country and I've heard it in books and films. It doesn't make you sound clever to pretend you have never heard a specific phrase.

anyway, I call reverse as if the OP had posted the other way around people would without a doubt say "yabu, you don't own a name!". Because that's how AIBU is nowadays. Whatever the OP says people with disagree with for amusement.

I wouldn't do it.

It’s a little bit on the mean side, somebody ‘stole’ my baby name I never said anything to the couple but I haven’t met up with them since, is it worth losing a cousin?

OP if this isn't a reverse just tell us the name so we can find you one similar?

Actually no,empathy part of human condition so not simple at all
Empathy is cultural,psychological and gendered
It’s only simple if you don’t understand

Can you imagine this thread from the other side?!

DH and I have been TTC for a while and it hasn’t happened for us but I’ve had names picked out for ages.

I shouldn’t have told her but I did mention it to my cousins wife in an attempt to show an interest in her pregnancy

She has now used the name on her baby

I know I don’t own the name but it actively feels like she did it out of spite and I’m devastated