To steal a baby name?

[Maggie24715]

My husbands cousin is TTC and we were chatting about baby names. I'm 6 months pregnant and love the baby name she's chosen.
Would I be the worst in the world to steal it?
They live at the other end of the country so we only see them at family weddings - but they are a close family with lots of FB groups etc.

WHAT'S THE NAME?'

is my favourite reply, what are the bets that we'll find out?

Lots and lots of angst over names, when, in reality people move apart and it matters less and less over the years if people who're loosely connected are given the same name.

So, OP, what is the name?

YABVU

TTC can be awful. She might be already trying to sort through her feelings about others, including you, being pregnant... and then you go and steal the name she shared with you. Tacky.

I can’t let this go uncommented upon.

Martina Cole is not great. She’s unremittingly shit.

Bluemoonchances I hadn't really thought about it from that perspective. I wouldn't want his cousin to look at our baby and associate her with sadness if they do fail to conceive. I mentioned TTC as a point that his cousin isn't yet pregnant so I'd be stealing the name by taking it first. But you're right they have been TTC for a good while so it would cause hurt.

I was just thinking that BOTH babies could have the same name. Chances of them meeting ever are very slim and they will live at opposite ends of the country.

I hadn't previously considered or even thought of the name and it is unusual where we are from for a girl.

I'll cross it off the list! Any nice girl names?

And just because there’s a strangled notion of name ownership doesn’t mean one must adhere to never using same name

It’s not about “ownership” it’s about common decency,

What’s the name then

Nobody owns a name and it's your husband's cousin - that's sufficiently distant that you could both have the name and it wouldn't cause any issue. They'll likely only meet a couple of times a year, it won't matter them having the same name. And your husband's cousin may never conceive, or may only conceive babies who aren't the gender for the name.

If you are worried about it mention it to her in advance and see if she will be devastated but honestly this seems like a real non-issue to me!

the op has to to forgo a name she likes

If it was a name she had already picked, fair enough. However, she only considered the name when the cousin mentioned it.

You’re right it’s not ownership as one can’t own a name
common decency is to extend warm wishes to a new baby not have a simmering resentment over a name

What's the name?

In the same predicament, my great-aunt rang my gran and asked her if she minded. She didn't. End of story.

Georgie

I can't believe you're even considering this when they're TTC. It would be really, really shitty of you.

But they were sisters, not cousins-in-law. Hell, if my father's cousins have children called Smithsinarazz, I don't know about it and probably never will!

really nasty thing to do. you wouldn't like it if someone did that to you.

Is that it?georgie,it’s not unusual in the least.heard it in park & soft play
It’s a nice name,quite girly
I kind of was expecting something more madeuppy

I’m sorry but that would make you ‘the bitch’

Tbh here Georgie isn’t that common

It's not THAT nice that you can't find something as nice…

Lexie
Dulcie
Penelope
Macie
Maisie
Susie
Vivienne (Vivi)
Vita
Ginny

Fortunately tomorrow not all folk have your melodramatic flair for nicknames
Maybe that make you the truculent Tomorrow

Many of those names are bleh IMO @nocureforlove

I would not use most of them for my daughter - ever.

There are loads of nice girls names. Here are a few I like:
Joey (short for Josephine)
Willow
Hazel
Ashley
Jordan
Aubrey
Marian
Poppy
Delilah
Betty
Margo

Betty and Margo are pet names,I’d expect a big bounding dog