To steal a baby name?

[Maggie24715]

My husbands cousin is TTC and we were chatting about baby names. I'm 6 months pregnant and love the baby name she's chosen.
Would I be the worst in the world to steal it?
They live at the other end of the country so we only see them at family weddings - but they are a close family with lots of FB groups etc.

There are so many threads on here about this very thing. It’s not a nice thing to do. Yes, no one owns a name but i’m guessing the cousin wouldn’t be that happy.

I wouldn't do it

Think it's rare for mumsnet responses to be so unanimous. Well done OP!

ps. YABU

In a world with thousands of names why would you steal a relatives choice

Noooo and I don't even think you should ask! She may be too polite to say no.

Ignore all the indignation.lets be clear no one has dibs on a name.cant steal a name

That's a shitty thing to do and you know it or you wouldn't be on here hoping people would wrongly persuade you that it was fine.

Cant believe you are considering this, yes it would be a shitty thing to do and she will hate you for it

I would say: “DCousin, I’m in a bit of a predicament after discussing names with you as the one you had chosen was right at the top of our list too, obviously we don’t want to tread on any toes but just wondered if you were set on this too?”
See how they respond to that - eg ideal scenario: we prefer something else now, feel free , worst scenario: yes we’re definitely going to use it regardless of gender....

At least then you’ll know where they are emotionally

You may be close now but I imagine your relationship will cool if you do this.

Tough
If someone is going to lose it about their name they’re somewhat petty

Yabu and if she tells other family members, it won't make you look very good at all.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=s27NprKWiYw

Why would you want to do that? So mean.

YABU, yes you can't steal a name but it's a shitty thing to do none the less.

I think it's shitty tbf.

There are people who will tell you you can’t steal a name and it’s fair game...but I’m not one of those and I think you’d be a brazen wanker to do it.
Up to you though.

And you risk the justified anger of family members and losing their trust forever. It’s not worth it!

You can’t steal a name but you can lose goodwill and trust.

Someone petty enough to feel aggrieved about name stealing probably isn’t queen of goodwill

Some people are precious however

And some people have their hopes pinned on a baby and that babies name. It's not precious to have a dream - it is however a shorty thing to do to anyone let alone a family member.

And no...don’t ask her for fuck’s sake. That would put her in a complete no-win situation. Of course she’ll fucking mind...are you going to force her to say so or will she be too polite and have to watch you watch you trot off with her chosen name?
God.
No.

Find your own name.

She will forever think of you as that sad article with no imagination and no consideration who was shameless enough to blatantly copy her.

If you're cool with that, go for it!

Do you look out for opportunities to ride roughshod over family members’ feelings, Lipstick? Or just seize opportunities to create hurt when they arise spontaneously?

YABU.