AIBU to pissed off with this CF.

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I invited 3 friends from my old work round on Friday to meet my new kitten the house is all upside down at the minute because I have just moved in and I have just been told that not only have they invited some random person to meet us in costa for a coffe they have also invited her to my new house to meet my new kitten without asking me if it was ok first its just been dropped on me. I'm really pissed off that they thought that was even ok and I now don't even want to meet up with them at all AIBU to think you cheeky fucker.

Personally I wouldn’t mind that at all, so maybe they see it the same- the more the merrier, including someone new.
Why does it bother you so much?

An extra friend how nice!!
I would be happy with 1 tbh. ..

Because I would've liked to of been asked first and not just have some stranger turn up at my house expecting to meet my kitten. I'm not a more the merrier type of person. If I invite someone round the invite is only meant for that person not them and whoever else they feel like inviting without asking me first espiceally when I have only just moved in and there is stuff everywhere at the minute.

Not a big deal. So what?

Weird responses here.

That would piss me right off. You don't invite randoms to someone else's house without asking them first!!

I have anxiety and having it dropped on me that they think its ok to invite someone else round to my house is a big deal to me I don't want a person that I don't know in my house espiceally when its a mess.

Crikey. Be grateful they want to come round at all you sound a bit snarky op!

And, speaking as someone who is cat-bat-shit-obsessed over her fur baby, whilst it’s nice they’re coming to meet the kitten, the kitten viewing is not something to be graciously bestowed upon those you deem worthy enough to breathe the same air.

Your kitten isn’t important to anyone but you.

Just sayin’....

Sorry I thought they had told you in advance? Has it happened already then?

Yabu

Why are you inviting people to meet a kitten? I'd think this was odd tbh.

But I wouldn't be happy about a random person being invited to my home. That's not on at all. It's not "another friend" or "not a big deal." Lets all invite strangers to your homes and see how you like it.

Thank you Flexoset it might be fine to do with other people but its not fine to do that to me. I wouldn't invite random people round to their homes without asking first.

That would really throw me out of sorts, feel sick thinking about it!

Phone her up and say you just want who you invited .

No, I’d be annoyed with a stranger coming round you. A lot of people are pretty open to things like that but if you’re not one of those people, it’s an awful thought. At least they’ve told you in advance and not just shown up with her. I have a front door that doesn’t lock unless you use the key and do it can be opened from the outside and I had to ask my mil to stop just walking in if I’d forgotten to lock it when she came round as I just find it really rude. Some people are just more private.

Does the kitten want to meet a gang of random people?

Maybe not but it’s not a HUGE deal, and definitely doesn’t fall into the so called “CF” term as per Mumsnet

Whether they’re a CF or not is subjective, it wouldn’t bother me but it bothers you, I guess your friends don’t know you that well or they wouldn’t mind so assumed you wouldn’t. Who is the alleged CF anyway? The new person or the 3 friends?

They all said they wanted to come and meet her when I got her I don't know why but they all asked to come round and meet her they did the same thing with the last kitten I got they said they wanted to come and meet her as well. So it's not like I'm inviting them round to meet her they have asked to come and see her.

I’m not quite sure why the majority of responses are saying it’s ok. Who thinks it’s ok to invite a stranger round to someone else’s house, without asking that person whether it’s ok? They should have checked with you first.

some random person

Did they just pluck a random person from the street?

God you do get some weird responses on mumsnet.

I'd hate this- I hate meeting new people inside my house. My house is my space, my safe place, if you're invited then I have some level of trust in you.

Strangers? No way. That's not me being miserable or awkward, its my space I pay to live in and I don't feel comfortable with strangers inside it, especially uninvited.

I wouldn't of mind if they had said something first and I assumed that she was just meeting us for a coffee only to be told that she's also meeting the kitten as well.

I'd think it was fine. The more the merrier. But I find the whole idea of viewing a kitten slightly odd...

You’ve invited people round to meet a kitten? is this a thing people do? Why? It’s a kitten not a newborn

Honestly I am surprised anyone wants to meet your kitten. If you don’t want them to come to the house just say? But I don’t see anything wrong with someone else coming along to Costa

It's someone that they work with but I don't know her at all never even met her and she's been invited to my house to meet my kitten. Don't think they would've told me either if I hadn't asked what time we where meeting.

It is random to the OP as she doesn't know this person. OP, you don't get told she is meeting the kitten! You say that as your new place is a mess, you would rather it's just X, Y and Z who come over. Let them know that this is NOT ok for them to do. If they say "oh A won't mind" then you say that you do mind.