AIBU to pissed off with this CF.

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I invited 3 friends from my old work round on Friday to meet my new kitten the house is all upside down at the minute because I have just moved in and I have just been told that not only have they invited some random person to meet us in costa for a coffe they have also invited her to my new house to meet my new kitten without asking me if it was ok first its just been dropped on me. I'm really pissed off that they thought that was even ok and I now don't even want to meet up with them at all AIBU to think you cheeky fucker.

PinkHeart5914 AnthenaAshton I only invited them round to meet the kitten because they told me that when I got her they wanted to come and see her thats the only reason why I invited them round because they asked to meet her.

Why am I weird just because I wouldn’t mind an extra person coming along to something at my house? I haven’t called you weird, I’ve just said I wouldn’t mind and not everyone would. Not everyone is like you and that’s ok. Maybe she didn’t get a hint and hung around so the others invited her, who knows? How did it go anyway?

I think you’re focusing too much on the kitten. But surprised at the first set of responses. I would not be happy if my friends invited someone who I’d never met into my home.

The kitten was the whole reason why they even wanted to come round am more annoyed that they have invited someone that I don't know in to my home without thinking to say something to me first.

Seems odd to me as well, Op.

Can't imagine meeting someone with a couple of friends & thinking that I'd ask X along as well!

Are you 12?

Meet your kitten? How strange.

Why not just have coffee this time and then invite them round to meet the kitten (... this definitely sounds like a euphemism!) some other time? I'm sure you could use some excuse about the kitten being scared of new people or just say you've not had time to tidy, but also if they're your friends you could just say you're uncomfortable having someone you've not met before in your house when it's messy.

Why? It’s a kitten not a newborn

I'd much sooner meet a kitten than a newborn.

I'm with you OP, no way would I want some random person pitching up at my house.

No I'm not 12 like I have said twice they asked to come and meet the kitten it wasn't me who invited them round to meet her they wanted to not sure why 3 grown woman have to meet a kitten.

Yanbu that's so rude, can't believe people are saying otherwise! Also as a person with anxiety like you it makes my stomach do flips

It's just annoyed me a bit that they thought it was ok to invite them round to my house and I really don't understand myself why they want to meet the kitten am sure they've all seen one before.

YANBU- m

That would piss me right off. You don't invite randoms to someone else's house without asking them first!!

^I agree. I wouldn’t like it either OP😄

See the kitten I could sort of understand but I struggle with "meet" the kitten.
I don't blame you for feeling it's a bit off to invite others, but it's hardly in the league of extreme CFery.

gustofwindd its completely thrown me off I can handle meeting people that I know but someone that I don't know and don't want in my house that just makes me want to cancel the whole thing.

Three people asked if they could meet your kitten? And then a complete stranger also wants to tag along to meet another stranger's kitten? Sorry OP, I've never met one person above the age of 12 who actively wanted to be introduced to a pet, so 4 grown adults meeting up and then all arriving together to meet a kitten is...unusual.

I don't know about the AIBU. The whole thing seems U to me. Or just weird.

What an odd thread!

Thank you Greendale

In all honesty snewname even I don't understand why they want to see the kitten it's just a kitten they all look the same to me unless there's something that I'm missing.

This wouldn’t bother me i think ya being dramatic

Could be a future kitten loving friend who knows

I still don’t understand the timescale of this. Are you messaging from the cafe? Have they already been round? Can you still say something’s come up sorry can we do this another time?
I understand this can make people anxious, but some people like me would be ok with it and we’re not strange or weird, we’re just not the same as you.

Just respond and say I’m really sorry but I dont feel comfortable having someone I don’t know in my home so that’s not going to work for me

What is the problem here? Too many friends came to visit? Nice to have the company!

I'd love to meet a kitten! Not sure why people find it so odd. Kittens are cute and much more exciting than babies

I have Aspergers and thought of someone announcing that they were bringing a stranger to my house is horrifying - I'd cancel the whole thing before I let them do that.

ShegotBetteDavisEyes I could understand if I had just had a baby but its just a tiny 8 week old kitten so even I'm struggling to understand why they need to meet her but they asked for some reason so I invited them round

Not sure if it would bother me that much but if it bothers you just cancel the whole thing.

Although I do find it odd that a group of adults would want to meet a kitten in the first place

Someone did this to me once, brought a stranger (to me), just turned up with her.

After she left I found some things were missing. Same friend also thought it was fine to hand out my phone no. to her friends when she visited resulting in me being woken at stupid times when they phoned to see if she was with me.

We fell out in the end because she had no respect for my privacy.

If you don't feel comfortable with it, you don't have to do it, however are the others important to you and would it matter if they dropped you?