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AIBU to pissed off with this CF.

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 16/05/2018 14:25

I invited 3 friends from my old work round on Friday to meet my new kitten the house is all upside down at the minute because I have just moved in and I have just been told that not only have they invited some random person to meet us in costa for a coffe they have also invited her to my new house to meet my new kitten without asking me if it was ok first its just been dropped on me. I'm really pissed off that they thought that was even ok and I now don't even want to meet up with them at all AIBU to think you cheeky fucker.

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Poloshot · 16/05/2018 15:30

Odd inviting people round to meet a kitten

Trinity66 · 16/05/2018 15:32

My 3 old work friends would understand that I've only just moved in and with 4 cats to look after its hard to sort everything out but some stranger is going to look at it all and think I'm a messy cow which I'm not I just have nowhere to put anything yet

That's fair enough, you should just tell them that though

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 16/05/2018 15:34

I have tried telling them that and they still want to come round.

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wowfudge · 16/05/2018 15:34

They want to have a nosey at your new place OP, the kitten is an excuse to do so. Why don't you postpone until a later date? You can then get straighter and more settled and perhaps let them know you'd rather they didn't invite someone you don't know.

blackbeansoup · 16/05/2018 15:36

Maybe they don't feel comfortable coming around just the three of them and invited a friend along for support. How big is the kitten?

TomRavenscroft · 16/05/2018 15:37

They can want whatever they like but YOU get to say 'No,' OP! Are you an adult or not?

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 16/05/2018 15:39

Wowfudge I think your right and that's why they want to come round and I need more time to settle my kitten in and get everything straightened out before I want people round.

Blackbeansoup my kitten is only tiny she's 8 weeks old and I've only had her 6 days.

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 16/05/2018 15:41

I've told them that they will have to come round another time I need more time to sort the house out before I have anyone come round.

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Jaxhog · 16/05/2018 15:44

Why does anyone think it's ok to invite a stranger to someone's house without asking them first? And in a way that they can say no.

Whatshallidonowpeople · 16/05/2018 15:44

Because I would've liked to of been

For what do you think 've is an abbreviation ? You can't "of been" anything

Scotstar · 16/05/2018 15:45

A friend of mine invited a random to my new flat without asking about 11 years ago. That random and I have now been married for 6 years and have a 9 month old son....sometimes things happen for a reason!

On a serious note though if be annoyed but would just get on with it!

Crispbutty · 16/05/2018 15:45

I take it they are just popping in for a quick visit, not an overnight stay. Im sure their other friend is able to understand you have just moved and still up to your ears in boxes and unpacking.

Why not cancel it for a couple of weeks, or just tell them that you would prefer they didnt add another visitor to the group. Perhaps they are all going on somewhere else together after.

It doesnt seem weird to me at all.

slowlywiltingpetal · 16/05/2018 15:47

I'm more Hmm at inviting people round to meet your kitten.

WizardOfToss · 16/05/2018 15:49

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slowlywiltingpetal · 16/05/2018 15:50

If anything the thread has made me chuckle on a bad day.

Sorry Grin

mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork · 16/05/2018 15:50

To all those who think people wanting to come and meet a kitten is odd, I got a new dog a year ago and 5 different people (friends & relatives) came round because they wanted to meet her. Certainly not my idea as, like the OP, I'm not all that keen on visitors and my home is my castle (wish it had a portcullis and a moat).

Aprilmightbemynewname · 16/05/2018 15:54

Postpone.
Rearrange and tell them to bring a paint brush each..
You will supply the kitten!

PercyPigAddict · 16/05/2018 15:59

It's weird how many people think it's weird to want to meet a kitten. Seriously, if your friend had just got a kitten surely the first thing you'd say is "Ooh when can I come and see it?"

It was rude of your friends to invite someone you've never met to your house though. I would cancel them and tell them you'll rearrange for another day, they when you do, ask them to keep it just the original guests.

PercyPigAddict · 16/05/2018 15:59

Whoops cross post

Liz38 · 16/05/2018 16:00

I've got new kittens and I've had SO MANY people come round to meet them! We've practically had to start a booking system!

Acrasia · 16/05/2018 16:02

I would accept all invitations to meet kittens! I wouldn’t invite people to other people’s homes. So YANBU.

SweetCheeks1980 · 16/05/2018 16:02

I can't believe this a big deal? The person is just a friend of a friend.

Wait until you have teenagers and you find random teenagers in your house watching TV 😂

kissthealderman · 16/05/2018 16:03

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