I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

She shoots, she scores! Well done, OP!

That reply was the best thing I've read all day. Well done OP!

Amazing! Please post if she replies back!

Amazing! Well done!

👏👏👏👏👏

This CF really reminds me of someone I used to be friends with, to the point where I was actually wondering if it was the same person (it's not). I wish so much that I'd ended our last conversation with something like that. Bravo!!

Superb!

If CF has any sense, she will no longer message you.

OP - your text message is pure Mumsnet gold. Well played.

HAHAHA

Well that said everything that needed to be said!!

Well done OP.

well done. She had one good friend and she blew it.

Well done OP!!!! I choked laughing

You are awesome OP! 👏🙌🏻

That is brilliant

Most. Satisfying. Thread. Result. EVER.

I award you all the smileys, Welshgal1.

[santa]

This has made my day, good on you OP

I’ve had a shit day. This is the best news ever!

Well done op!!! all round

Brilliant reply 😂😂😂🎉🎉👍

Fantastic!!!

Well done 🥇

Now, hold STRONG.

So, what are you going to do on your day off now? (Or can you cancel it & save it for when you want to rebook it?)

Awesome! Well done OP. Your CF ex-friend is so not worth the headspace you have given her. Let her sort herself out and don't engage.

Marvellous!! Do let us know her response OP

Made my day.

Well done, OP.

I think all of MN is applauding now!
Take a bow OP

Congratulations for standing up for yourself! Sometimes it's very hard, but necessary. If I might suggest one thing, send her a link to this thread and tell her to look at it and ask her what she would do? . It might be the one thing for her to read and make her wake up to what she is doing to people. It certainly can't hurt.

I’m supposed to be sitting quietly settling my kids. How can I now, when I can’t stop snorting with laughter!?

Absolute gold op. Perfect response. Did she reply?

I think @MintChocChip04 is right. Send her a link. She is unaware of how socially unskilled she is. You’d be doing her the favour she really needs.