I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

I’d tell her where to go.
You’ve given up your time and she wants you to pay and is being nasty because you won’t.

I’d send a final text ‘to clarify I won’t be able to accompany you anymore . I hope your surgery goes well. I’m not up for any further discussions regarding this

Or this:

Go on your own you cheeky fuck, don't message again, I'm out of this friendship at fucking last

She is off her rocker!! Yanbu!

I’m really shocked that she’d even be allowed to leave alone and use public transport!

Surgery is still surgery!

Is she having her head surgically removed from up her arse? If not she's wasting her money.

Is it one of those Maya clinics that advertise on the telly?

Stand firm op!

Wow that’s so cheeky! She's being a user

This is beyond outing I'm just relying heavily on the fact she wouldn't even know what mumsnet is.

But does she know what the Daily Mail is?

Sounds like she is very used to getting her own way.
It there normally a bit of a power imbalance in your friendship? And she us surprised that it's not just all about her for once?

Yes, this. This is when narcs turn nasty.

Yanbu.

This is so ending up in the papers...

Unbelievable! She was using you as a mug from the start. Well done for standing up for yourself.

Any up date?

My money's on her having a boob job.

A reduction perhaps, seeing as she's a massive tit.

Still laughing at this.

Obviously. You're doing her a big favour, she should be covering all costs! If she can't see that, why are you friends with her?

I’m also,wandering what £13000 will buy you and did a quick google. I came up with this glamorous, 36 year old gran, who spent £13, but that was over five years.

granny

Also, see this price list.

price list

cF friend is either getting a lot of work,done, or,is being ripped off.

Shocking behaviour. Totally out of order for someone to expect you to pay. Stand your ground!

Bypass. Surgery for weight loss could be £13,000

If I was getting surgery and going under GA practially in a different country (I’m assuming that you’re driving from wales to london?), and had to get a friend to drive me down, look after me immediately after then drive us back - i wouldn’t DREAM of asking them to pay! Let’s be honest it’s a massive inconvenience and there is 0 benefit to the driver.

London is a fabulous city but you can’t enjoy it - you’ll have to stay near the hospital/hotel and care for her. The only alone time you’ll really have is whilst she’s having the procedure...

I had minor surgery under GA in March, my friend collected me and we took an uber home...it didn’t even cross my mind to split the taxi cost!

Bare in mind that the journey back won’t be straightforward as she’ll be recovering from the surgery. What happens if she begins to feel dizzy or nauseous, or feels uncomfortable sitting upright and gets a sharp pain etc during the drive back. She might need help walking or going to the bathroom if she feels a bit dizzy. A long motorway trip just doesn’t seem sensible. I would just tell her that she should book the hotel for longer then make her way back via train when she feels ready.

I actually cannot believe I'm reading this. Please do not go with her. What a CF! Some people amaze me. No offence OP but I'm glad it's not just me who has to put up with utter t**ts. This is another level though.

She should pay the extra to pay for herself to stay at private hospital for at least 48 hours but really 72 hours after surgery

Then get train home alone

She's having nose job and breast implants & uplift

All that for 13k??? Is the clinic legit?