I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

I hope this operation is for a personality transplant. She definitely needs one.

There's no way in hell I'd accompany her now, even if she offered to pay me to attend. She's shown her true colours. Tell her you're not coming at all and then block her. There's obviously a reason no one else has offered to help her out, and it's not hard to figure out what it is.

There is no WAY I'd be helping her after the horrible things she said to you OP.

Is the surgery she's having... cutting her nose off to spite her face?

What surgery is she getting at age 25? Some of us are dying to know.

I wouldn't take her now if she offered to pay me for my time. So rude and cheeky.

Is it wrong to want an update with details of more texts from the CF?

I cannot imagine she will stop nagging you.

She's done standard CF - to angry CF - to guilt tripping CF. I think crying CF (wah, wah, cause I want you to spend your money on me instead of me spending my own money, wah, wah!) will come next..

Niiiiice friend, not!

Seriously if she's forking out money for cosmetic surgery, she should be prepared to pay for a taxi from the hospital to the train station. You shouldn't feel under pressure to be her taxi service. And she really should be paying all your costs, apart from food. She's definitely a CF.

But that's what she wants to spend HER money on....not yours and she's being ridicous saying that refusing to spend £100 s of your money on her dream/treat/whatever is tantamount to you disapproving. She is just tryi g to emotionally blackmail you. I wondered how much the return train fare would cost her if you didn't take her, that alone would cover your petrol l would've thought. So if you went halves she'd be actually quids in and financially better off if her only paying half the petrol is less than the return train fare. On what planet should she gain at your expense when you're doing her a favour!!

Simply text back:

"You're a cheeky fucking slimeball. Make your own way there. Your health issues arent my problem. Bye".

Job done.

Then block her ass and refuse to engage. After the texts she sent, no way would I help - even if she paid those costs entirely. She can go fuck herself backwards over a bridge.

Op I can't believe she's been a great friend until now, she must have been selfish, rude etc before now. Life is too short op. You do not need this kind of bullshit in your life. This won't be the last time she treats you like a cunt.

She can go fuck herself backwards over a bridge. I'm having that.

Ask her why should you help fonance her vanity project
I guess it’s not a boob job as they’re less tha 13 grand and the wounds canmt get infected on the tube. It must be her face she’s redoing.

Gteat reply OP. Well done for standing up for yourself. Just don't feel guilty when she turns on the water works !

Ha- I laughed out loud at "personality transplant" emmyrose! Thank you

She is getting into debt for cosmetic surgery and paying out thousands for it so is being seriously daft about this. As she fully admits she is being selfish I suggest you leave her to indulge herself and you spend your time and money on something important to you. Glad you don't seem to be letting her push you around.

Ouch! Well she’s shot herself in the foot and chopped off her nose to spite her face so more borrowing needed to fix those too I think you were right to respond. You can’t ghost people with this much brass neck you need to draw a clear line first.

she said I could book it on my credit card and she can transfer me half

If you were to do the first half of that, I can guarantee the odds of her doing the second half would be zero.

Stop engaging with her! Ignore her now. You’ve said your piece already so stop replying.**
She’s trying to wear you down.**
Go out and enjoy the sunshine😎

Dying to know what surgery the cheeky fecker is getting.

Would she like you to pay half her train fare if you don’t take her? Cheeky mare. I love how it’s your problem she’s having to take out loans, she knows you have some ££ saved because you’re TTC yet her situation trumps hers.

Tell her to shove 'the egg' up his arse!

Sorry wrong thread

@scotchpie which thread was it for? I’m curious now!

She’s annoying me from afar

Don’t pay or don’t take her

Can't wait to see how this ends

Smedmum - the one about DIL breaking a glass and being billed by wealthy prick of a FIL