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People who don't make an effort with their appearance.

335 replies

User247 · 24/03/2018 14:00

What do you think of people who don't do anything to look attractive?

I don't mean washing and basic hygiene. I mean those who don't dress well, wear make up or keep themselves healthy.

Why don't people want to be pleasant to look at?

OP posts:
Eliza9917 · 24/03/2018 14:01
Hmm
WhiteRabbitWhiteRabbit · 24/03/2018 14:01

Because I'm not here to please your eye?

Thatbloodydog · 24/03/2018 14:01

Because, as my mother used to tell me, "you can't polish a turd".

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 24/03/2018 14:01

Huh?

Why do you care?

msannabella · 24/03/2018 14:02

Oh dear! Great first post. Hmm

busybuildingdens · 24/03/2018 14:02

Well I don’t wear make up very often because I have better things to do with my time. I’m happily married and my DH thinks I’m beautiful so why would I care what anyone else thinks?

newtlover · 24/03/2018 14:02

you are muddling up lots of different things
I keep myself healthy
I never wear make up
dress well? that's a matter of taste, isn't it

hidinginthenightgarden · 24/03/2018 14:02

When I wear makeup I wear it for me not for others.

I am not a specimen in a museum.

Playmobilpeacock · 24/03/2018 14:03

I don't wear make up. That doesn't make me unattractive.

I cannot imagine judging someone on something so pointless and shallow.

People aren't ornaments for the use of others.

Tenroundswithmiketyson · 24/03/2018 14:03

put a picture of yourself up. Let's see what you look like

mimibunz · 24/03/2018 14:04

They either don’t care or they don’t care. Grin I don’t mind what others look like as long as their basic hygiene is impeccable. And their clothes are clean.

sparklefarts · 24/03/2018 14:04

Is this another lazy journalism thread?

WelshDutchLady · 24/03/2018 14:04

Errrr because I’m suffering from chronic arthritis as if I have the energy to go out makeup and looking fashionable are the last thing on my mind! On my very rare good days I’m a fashionista but it’s sadly not achievable all the time. What would you suggest OP? That I confine myself indoors as I’m so hideous makeup free wearing comfy clothes?

Whydomypubeslooklikeanest · 24/03/2018 14:05

Why don't people want to be pleasant to look at?

Because I don't have to look at myself so I don't care. Hth.

Slapbetcommissioner · 24/03/2018 14:06

(Most) Men don't wear makeup, should they just all stay indoors so they don't offend our eyes?

User247 · 24/03/2018 14:06

I've name changed.

I used to think appearance doesn't matter but most people are shallow so you kind of have to conform right

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 24/03/2018 14:06

I don't think anything. Unfortunately I've got enough worries if my own.

It's a personal choice isn't it. Some people dont care about make up ect some do, either way it's fine.

BrandNewHouse · 24/03/2018 14:07

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IwantedtobeEmmaPeel · 24/03/2018 14:07

Why don't you tell us what YOU think.

User247 · 24/03/2018 14:07

put a picture of yourself up. Let's see what you look like

I don't want people I know to see me on here.

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ShortandAnnoying · 24/03/2018 14:07

I guess people who dress up and wear make-up and so on are kind of fancy. I like a more casual look.

MissMoneyPlant · 24/03/2018 14:07

I don't understand not trying to be healthy for HEALTH reasons, not to please your eyes. Hmm
Not wearing makeup must cover at least half the population. I assume you're arbitrarily excluding males from this high standard though?
"Dressing well" is to a large extent down to individual preference. I see a lot of people who have clearly spent time and money on their appearance but it's not objectively attractive... Much high fashion is ludicrous!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 24/03/2018 14:07

"So you kind of have to conform, right"

No one has to do anything this life aside from pay taxes.

User247 · 24/03/2018 14:08

Why don't you tell us what YOU think

I think people are valuable for what they do and who they are. Not for their looks. But subconscious messages tell us otherwise

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AssassinatedBeauty · 24/03/2018 14:08

"Dress well" is subjective for starters. And also not something that everyone cares about. I'm clean, tidy and comfortable. I don't care about anything else with regards to clothes.

Wearing make up. Well, again that's subjective. I don't like make up and I don't want to wear it.

Keeping healthy. What does this even mean? Keeping to a weight that you deem appropriate? Being athletic?

And across all this you are assuming that it's necessary to look attractive to others. Which it isn't, unless you're trying to attract them and you want to look attractive. If not, then it's not necessary!

Attractive /= pleasant to look at. I find people who are clean, tidy and wearing what they want to be pleasant to look at.