People who don't make an effort with their appearance.

[User247]

What do you think of people who don't do anything to look attractive?

I don't mean washing and basic hygiene. I mean those who don't dress well, wear make up or keep themselves healthy.

Why don't people want to be pleasant to look at?

Now I’m getting older, I’d really love to be well put together and polished with the right amount of make -up. Looking the best version of myself and feeling amazing for it before my youth says goodbye. I’m just so lazy lol. However I’m trying to change that mindset after years of not wearing very much , if any make up at all, as I feel I look okay without it. Not to please others but because I do feel fantastic dressed up and I do admire women who do look polished. So yeah, I want to stop being so bloody lazy with myself. I think, also as women we tend to put ourselves last. I know I have and I have neglected pampering myself. It’s time now to get self-indulgent :)

Personally I dress to feel comfortable in whatever I'm about to be doing. Most of the time as long as I'm clean and wearing clean clothing that's fine. Very occasionally I'll get dressed up but that's my choice. If other people don't like it, that's their issue, not mine.

Nobody owes it to the world to be pretty. It's not the rent you pay for existing in this world.

...because I'd rather spend my time and money on other things. Plus, if I have mascara on, DP immediately knows it's a special occasion and needs to iron and wear a shirt, not a t shirt.

I think I look less attractive with make-up on, so why would I make an effort to look worse than I already do.

Some make-up looks nice - but some looks great at the time, then fashions change and you look back and think WTF

I think I look less attractive with make up on too. I think I’m fairly attractive without make up.

Why don't people want to be pleasant to look at?

I think its because we aren't decoration for you?

I think some posters have been harsh on User247 - whilst OP did sound a bit goady, later posts from User give the impression that User just wants a discussion and isn't personally making a value judgement.

Yes the world judges on appearance. Mostly I don't comply because I am happy in my own skin. We have had Air Stewards at the Gate check in ask us if we were in the wrong queue (when we lined up for Business class), hotel staff in swanky hotels ask us sceptically if we were staying there etc.

I conform when its important - job interviews, weddings (out of respect for the married couple) etc

I'm not especially scruffy and unkempt - just dressed casually and eschew cosmetics. I obviously care a little bit about how I present though since I wouldn't be seen out wearing certain things (birkenstocks, hotter shoes, killer heels etc) because they are antithetical to who I am

When I saw the title of your thread, I thought it might just be about people going to the supermarket in their pyjamas. But it seems more like a fat shaming, mean girls type of thing.

Can’t be bothered today .... just in the house no need for make up etc

I used to think appearance doesn't matter but most people are shallow so you kind of have to conform right

Only in a workplace context. In a social context, any friends that you feel you have to look/dress a certain way to conform with aren't really friends at all, are they?

I never bothered with makeup until I turned 30. Now I feel if I'm seen without my face on, people will actually die of fright. It's draining having to put it on and take it off everyday but I'm not pretty enough to get away with not wearing it. I just don't want to be laughed at for looking like a potato.

Something like this is very subjective. What one person finds attractive someone else might find a positive turn-off.

Why does it matter to you what other people look like? I spend my working life caring for dogs who have been dumped by their owners because they done conform to their owners “standards”. My down time is just that. I see no reason to make up and dress to the nines to please anybody. Why would I??

I don't wear make up very often, I never brush my hair apart from when I wash it just twice a week.
I don't dress up unless I'm going somewhere special.
No, I don't find the need to conform to what shallow people may deem attractive, as I have confidence in myself and self esteem.

It's interesting, there is a lot of anger and defensiveness on this thread. The op asked a question. She explained why. Why are people still angry with her. You can still answer the question without giving her a hard time.

Op, are you ok? What's made you feel that way about yourself? Attractiveness is perecieved differntly in many different ways. It can be everything from an easy smile and a happy attitude to an exterior that is commonly perceived as attractive.

I had a few appointments at the hospital and kept seeing a gentlman in his 70s who looked bloody amazing. Dressed to the nines in a hat, suit and swanky shoes. Think Nile Rodgers. I really appreciated seeing a gentleman taking the time to dress up as men are so casual these days. I really wanted to compliment him and am kicking myself that I didn’t. After that I could appreciate why older actresses like Joan Collins take a lot of pride in their appearance. I appreciate her keeping that old glamour still alive. I also love the way Dita Von Teese dresses, not that I’m suggesting that should be the norm.

I'd also say that as much as many folks are shouting I amnt here to please others, very few people wish to be perceived as unattractive by the vast majority....

It depends on the day/how I'm feeling. I know i look better when I straighten my hair / do my makeup. Sometimes for work (Tesco) I can't be bothered. Part of that is I'm wearing the horrible uniform anyway. I start a new job next month and can wear normal clothes again! I've loved buying nice dresses, tops etc

Tonight I'm going clubbing. I can't wait to curl my hair, put on jewellery, put on make up and perfume and look good. But I don't feel like doing that all the time

I have very short grey/white hair, don't wear make up, mostly dress in scruffy dog walking/art studio gear, but am very healthy and feel like a million dollars. My wife says im gorgeous

People who are happy in their own skin don’t feel the need to put on a show for others. Hope you are ok OP. Just bear in mind other peoples opinions of you count for nowt, as long as you are happy with you. There’s no need to make a false impression on the world. You are who you are.

If you are not happy with who you are maybe you need to take time out to look at what you can change that doesn’t involve making yourself up to be what you’re not

I think you must be a GF!

Not being funny but I don't put emphasis on make up and being in designer or at least in fashion outfits to be considered attractive.

Shock horror I don't dye my hair either.

I use a face wipe to clean my face after I've done my teeth. I moisturise, brush my hair, put on clothes I deem comfy, usually jeans and a black top with a jumper.

Sorry I'm so hideous in your eyes.

NB for special occasions my make up that is about 10 years old comes out. I do make more effort then, but I would label my 'dressed up' style as boho chic. As in fancyish but again not in fashion. I also love hats.

Definitely a GF. People shouldn't even have engaged with it IMO.

Op, are you ok? What's made you feel that way about yourself

From working in a corporate environment where everyone looks like they're going to a swanky bar. To seeing men drool over women done up to hair and makeup. Ex also admitted to saying I'm unattractive because I don't make the effort. After I'd given birth to our daughter.

Just an observation of everywhere I go. Lots of people look really done up

some people are depressed or going through things that make appearance not important