People who don't make an effort with their appearance.

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What do you think of people who don't do anything to look attractive?

I don't mean washing and basic hygiene. I mean those who don't dress well, wear make up or keep themselves healthy.

Why don't people want to be pleasant to look at?

A full face not a dull face

I'm clean. No make up. Wear what I feel comfortable in.

I'm confident in my own skin and don't need validation from others. I'm not a complete skank but I'm not going to waste hours just for the sake of other people. If I do make an effort then it's for my benefit - not yours.

It depends on context. If I was off to the gym then naturally I wouldn't be worried about what I was wearing or makeup beyond being clean and not wearing really scruffy clothes. Off on a meal out somewhere then yes I would make more effort to dress up and wear make up. That is for my benefit though not anyone else as I tend to feel better if I am reasonably pleased with my appearance.

I think judging people by their appearance is a bit shallow as you don't know their circumstances or what they have to cope with. I am sure a mum with PND on the school run who has had no sleep due to a screaming baby is not going to care what clothes she has pulled on or wearing makeup. Similarly some very well presented people are horrible on the inside.

What I want to know is why painting stuff over your face is deemed to be more attractive? I don't care if someone wants bright red lips and black around their eyes, that's their business, but I can't fathom why that would make them objectively more attractive or pleasing to look at.

Most make up I see isn’t an improvement and certainly doesn’t make people look attractive. Just different.

Because they don't feel like they have to dress "prettily" to please others and they're quite comfortable in their own skin?
I place myself firmly in this camp. Quite happy being me. Very, very rarely wear make up, I wear clothes I'm comfortable in, and I've just realised I could really do with brushing my hair properly today

I'm autistic and don't feel the need to conform. I'm clean and dressed unless I particularly feel like making an effort. I don't give a fuck what others think.

Most make up I see isn’t an improvement and certainly doesn’t make people look attractive. Just different.

Agree - I tell you what I really find bizarre. People who pluck their eyebrows away to nothing and then draw comedy beetle brows back on. Whhhhy???? It's utterly strange.You see clones of each other with thick black brows.

OP I think this is a very stupid thing to ask.

I used to think appearance doesn't matter but most people are shallow so you kind of have to conform right

Not at all. I use it as an asshole detector. I am clean, my clothes are clean. I do not smell.

If someone judges me as inferior based on the fact I do not wear makeup or high heels then they are not the kind of person I want to spend any time with.

I'm autistic and don't feel the need to conform. I'm clean and dressed unless I particularly feel like making an effort. I don't give a fuck what others think

Yes to all of this! (Apart from being autistic as I'm not.)
Don't feel the need to conform, I'm comfortable being me and I give zero fucks what anyone else thinks.

Is this better OP?

I went to an Indian wedding recently and was amazed how elaborately made up the girls on the Indian side were. They in turn were amazed at how barefaced we were by comparison. The bride (non Indian) was made up by an Indian makeup artist and she was unrecognisable. I wouldn’t say she didn’t look nice, but I think she definitely feels more comfortable (and I think she looks better) with a more fresh faced everyday look.

Different people have very different views about makeup and hair etc.

I suppose I'd probably make a bit of an effort if I was going for an interview but other than that I wear the clothes I feel comfortable in.

The kind of people who'd judge me for that, I'm not interested in anyway.

I daren’t imagine what you’d think of me OP😂
If I’ve brushed my hair and cleaned my teeth I say job well done!

I think the same of people who make no effort in their appearance as I do of people make huge efforts with their appearance.

Some people have loads going on in their lives, some don’t. Either way what they look like is none of my business.

I can see this thread turning very nasty, OP. Perhaps you haven't been here long?

I don't comment on what other people (particularly WOMEN) look like because, let's face it, women face enough of a struggle to be accepted anywhere by anybody, let alone by their own sex.

As far as dressing and grooming goes, I do what makes me happy - waxing, hairdressers, wear clothes that (I believe) flatter me, wear perfume and make-up every day. It makes me feel good. I don't mind what other people do or don't do with their own selves and appearance.

I'm confident and comfortable with who I am. I'm not a sheep and I refuse to conform.
The only person I need to impress is me and I do that everyday regardless of how I look to others and what clothing I have on. My DP finds ME attractive just as I am.

For me it's laziness. The days I look like a complete scruff are the days I can't be arsed. I don't care what people think of my look those days but I do feel better in myself if I've made a bit of an effort.
I think most people's look/effort varies depending on the day and what they're doing. I can regularly be found with an un brushed bun on the top of my head with no makeup on but on a night out caked in Chanel makeup and false eyelashes. Depends on your mood!

OP it seems you have had a different experiences to others on this thread, perhaps specific examples of what you mean would help.

Job interviews are spurious, a little like funerals and weddings - there is a socially acceptable dress code which will vary depending on the specifics. I am a professional and have gone for and got jobs wearing no makeup but it’s not unusual to see women in my profession without make up.

Well said Bishop and Cady no fucks given here either. If someone wants to judge me on how I look I will judge them as being a judgy twat!

I'm clean.
I don't wear make up because I don't need it.
I wear clothes to keep warm and to hide my wobbly bits. And I really don't care what the label inside says.
My mum taught me that too much looking in a mirror is the worst form of vanity.
I'm comfortable in my own skin and don't feel the need to impress any one.
Any one that would judge a person on appearance is not the kind of person I would want in my life.

Maybe some people can't afford decent clothes or makeup and they're making do with what they have?

Why does it concern you? It's a bit.. Snobby really.

SavvyBlancBlonde OMG what is that! How can anyone think that is preferable to a clean but unmade up look?