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Black hair in baby daddy's bath

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mummytomaxwell · 20/03/2018 19:46

Me and my partner decided it would be best for me to move out with our little one 5 weeks ago. We still text a couple of times a day and I've been round there three times. He tells me he wants us to live together again and how much he misses us.
Today I took our little boy round to see him and I went up for a wee and to my surprise there was a big lump of black hair in his bath. He's bald so it's definitely not his.
I still have feelings for him so I'm probably over reacting but I'm not sure why there would be any hair in his bath if he's on his own.

I know we arent really together kind of just seeing each other etc but AIBU for being upset about it?

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Zeelove · 20/03/2018 19:47

You need to ask him about it, because you may just be being upset over pubes.

goose1964 · 20/03/2018 19:49

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AnyFucker · 20/03/2018 19:54
Hmm
NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 20/03/2018 19:55

I'll not go there with the baby daddy thing...Hmm
The key here is communication-you made a child together so I'm pretty sure a conversation isn't beyond you.

MyBeloved · 20/03/2018 19:55

you may just be being upset over pubes

Quote of the year Grin

ClosdesMouches · 20/03/2018 20:04
Hmm
Armadillostoes · 20/03/2018 20:06

OP please ignore the people being obnoxious for the sake of it. Why anyone would want to make snide comments about someone in your situation is beyond me. You are adjusting to living alone with a small child, and assessing whether your relationship with his father has any future, most people would be feeling fragile. Being nasty about your choice of words is just vile and uncalled for!

Why don't you just have a conversation about the hairs in the bath and ask? If you can't communicate your relationship doesn't have a future in any event. Best of luck!

MamaMilkMachine · 20/03/2018 20:09

@Armadillostoes couldn't have said it better myself

ProperLavs · 20/03/2018 20:11

What the hell is a baby daddy?

VladmirsPoutine · 20/03/2018 20:13

Forget the bastard.

BuzzKillington · 20/03/2018 20:14

What the hell is a baby daddy?

This

and also, this

you may just be being upset over pubes

DeadGood · 20/03/2018 20:15

Applause for Armadillostoes

Hope you sort it OP

Peachyking000 · 20/03/2018 20:16

Presumably it’s her baby’s daddy, Probably Hmm

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Bouledeneige · 20/03/2018 20:16

I'm with Armadillo too. Just ask him - you need to know and to be able to communicate if you have a future.

I'm sorry, its sounds like a very tough time.

Ignore the haters.

Mooey89 · 20/03/2018 20:18

It will be pubes.
Unless his new girlfriend has been cutting her hair in the shower of course.

Fairenuff · 20/03/2018 20:20

(a) why did you both decide it was best for you to move out and (b) why does he want you to live together again?

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 20/03/2018 20:20

Christ alive,ignore the snobby comments.youve got a lot on your mind
Who’s supporting you as a new mum?friends?family?i hope you’re ok
I have no idea about the hair in bath,Do yourself a favour and simply ask him
Folk on here know what a baby daddy is,they’re simply making a show of pretending not to know

MrsJoshDun · 20/03/2018 20:20

If he wanted you to move out he’s seeing someone else.

PrettyLittIeThing · 20/03/2018 20:22

I think it's probably pubes although depends how long they are??!

On another note my ex refers to me as his "baby mother" seriously makes me cringe, I've told him not to but he still does.

Tara336 · 20/03/2018 20:23

Sorry but agree with others baby daddy? Really?

Andylion · 20/03/2018 20:24

I think the OP can tell the difference between hair from a head and pubes.
OP, you need to ask him.

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ittakes2 · 20/03/2018 20:26

This happened to me (without the baby daddy bit). I am a brunette and I would find long blonde hairs on clothes that I had just washed and hung up to dry. Unfort boyfriend was cheating on me - I think the girl was deliberately trying to let me know she existed by neatly placing hairs on my black clothes where I could easily find them. Of course I left him and never looked back - I don’t think he ended up staying with her though so her plan back fired!