Black hair in baby daddy's bath

[mummytomaxwell]

Me and my partner decided it would be best for me to move out with our little one 5 weeks ago. We still text a couple of times a day and I've been round there three times. He tells me he wants us to live together again and how much he misses us.
Today I took our little boy round to see him and I went up for a wee and to my surprise there was a big lump of black hair in his bath. He's bald so it's definitely not his.
I still have feelings for him so I'm probably over reacting but I'm not sure why there would be any hair in his bath if he's on his own.

I know we arent really together kind of just seeing each other etc but AIBU for being upset about it?

Why is everyone focusing on the term "baby daddy" rather than just giving advice to the OP?
So passive aggressive.

But anyway, It depends how long the hairs were, he could have had friends over. Or it could be some pubic hairs !

Maybe gently bring up the topic to probe whether he would be seeing anyone else, or make a joke about it and see how he reacts don't dive in head first & jump to conclusions beforehand though.

Just read your latest post, mm.. doesn't seem like he's helping out that much with the baby? I definitely wouldn't be fawning over this guy then. He's not a good one. Try forgot about your relationship with him & focus on your child & yourself.

Firstly, OP, I'm so sorry you are having such a difficult time with your ex. It sounds like he can't be trusted and you need to stay strong and not get back together with him.

As for the posters mocking/judging OP's choice of language - you should be ashamed of yourselves. She is 20, a new mother and going thought an emotionally difficult. I hope you feel better about yourselves by putting her down.

OP - final note. Maybe ask for your thread to be moved to the Relationships board. You will get more sympathy and support there than on this one.

Good luck and take care of yourselves and your little one.

OP having been in your position (albeit much older than you to my naive shame!) please contact your HV about groups/support and Home Start support (i believe they can provide a volunteer who will help you get out and about and build you back up). It is disgusting that Sure start are gone as they offered a confidence class for women who required it along with other free (or contribution depending on your circs) classes with creche provided free.
Womans' Aid will be able to direct you onto the Freedom Programme which sounds ghastly but is excellent and so supportive.
Be open to making friendships regardless how unlikely they may seem-Motherhood is a great leveller socially (except for the snooty 'i say, what Baby Daddy what what?' brigade-Don't worry about them as they'll all be eating organic locally sourced artisan bullshit at the nearest vegan cafe breastfeeding group with their NCT chummies) and build a support network away from that waster of an ex.
You have done so well to get away from him and have learned lessons many don't until much later in life (i speak for myself here). The netx two or so years will be a bloody hard slog but once your youngest is at school you can study anything and the world really is your oyster, go to college and re-train, learn a trade, study accountancy, do an access course and go to university etc etc. It's so hard when your heart and brain want two different things but the brain in this instance really does know best. Hugs.