Aibu or is he?

[Pissedoff4]

Today I went shopping, took elderly neighbour with a broken arm with me too, so she could get some bits.

DP works nights and was in bed asleep. Got back about 12.30, neighbour came in, as I had to carry her shopping over, while I unpacked.

Got a text message from DP, while unpacking, of a middle finger emoji, thought he must be joking.

Anyhow, neighbour asked could I make her a sandwich, as she has broken her right arm and struggles with her left. Which I did, also made coffee and took a cup up for DP, gave him kiss etc.

While neighbour is eating her sandwich, DP comes down and says ‘are you having a fucking laugh’. I said if you want a sandwich just ask and il make one. He says ‘I’ve been a work all fucking night, if I want something il know to do it myself in future’.

Ive just asked if he wants to apologise and he thinks he has nothing to apologise for and I am ‘inconsiderate’ for not making him a sandwich.

I’ve basically told him he is being an arse and to grow up.

Your thoughts aibu, feel like a 12 year old, bloody sandwichgate. But he needs to apologise!

He sounds delightful. Remind us why you are with him please.

Tell him to fuck off

He sounds like a rude bastard

Your poor neighbour. She must have been mortified for you.

12.30. When he works nights when does he finish? That doesn't sound an unreasonable hour to get up on nights I do.
Still. He's on another planet if he expects no disturbances at all in the middleof the day. Once he's finished his little teenbrat tantrum maybe he could buy some earplugs like grown ups working nights?

Eh? I thought you were going to say he was annoyed because you woke him up but how the hell were you to know he wanted a sandwich?

What a sandwich wanker!

So what was the middle finger emoji for? Was he already pissed off at you before the sandwich thing? Either way he sounds like a massive twat.

Why didn't he just ask you for a sandwich when you took him up a coffee?

Not that you're obliged to make his lunch - his working nights doesn't make you into his daytime servant.

Just showed him this thread and comments.

Apparently I didn’t mention that he got in at 4.30am and when I woke at 6am to get son up for school (who takes forever to get dressed etc as he has special needs) DP asked me to make him coffee and toast and I refused. I told him he could make it himself.

He seems to think this information will sway opinion!

Does DP make you toast, coffee and sandwiches on a regular basis? I'm not getting why he seems to have cast you in the role of food preparer. If you were busy getting your son up and dressed, how were you supposed to have time to make his toast?

Exactly screaming! He came to bed at 4.30. Waited for my alarm to go off at 6 and asked for coffee and toast! I told him he could have made coffee and toast at 4.30!

Are you also missing out the part were you're his maid? If not he's a fucking dick. He asked you to make him toast and a brew, why the hell can't he make them himself, his arms not bloody work coz he's been at work. I'd better tell my dh to stop making me a brew on the weekend mornings, his dick might fall off coz he works so clearly shouldn't have to do stuff like that.

If you had been making sandwiches for your neighbor and self and he asked for one then yes, tbh you would be a bit unreasonable. You're not a mind reader though, how are you to know he wants one. The toast think is just ridiculous.

Thing

Working nights makes people very cranky . But if my dh send me a middle finger sign l would show him the door as its so rude l wouldn't expect it from my worst enemy . You can't continue as normal in a house where someone is sleeping after night duty.
But if your dp is still reading this..here is a message for him...sending such a rude sign to the mother of your child is despicable and you are a disgrace.

So, if you had made him tea and toast, would he have got your son up and got him dressed? Or was he expecting you to do it all?

I had a twat like that. Past tense.

I didn’t even make myself a sandwich! Just my neighbour, as she couldn’t do it herself! I’d just got back from shopping, still had things to do

So he waited an hour and a half for you to get up so that you could make him a piece of toast rather than making it himself? Is he competing for the Olympic Gold in Laziness?

He's a twat, no way i'd put up with behaviour like that. No way OH would behave like that.

This is much ado about nothing. Consider yourselves lucky if a sandwich is what you have to get pissed off about. Think of all the good you have in your lives and appreciate it.

To much like hard work- both of you.

You also forgot to mention that you are his house slave and not his wife and when he tells you to jump he expects you to run to the nearest window and perform a double somersault.
Alternatively, you forgot to mention that he is a total twat and proud of it.

June that is his saving grace, he has only been on nights just over a week. I appreciate his body clock must be messed up.

I’ve asked for an apology, he doesn’t think it’s needed. Which is why I started ‘sandwichgate’ to show him it’s not just me who thinks he is being unreasonable

He swore at you in front of your elderly neighbour and he thinks you are unreasonable?

Adults make their own food unless someone is cooking for the family.

Adults who ask very nicely might well be made a sandwich out of the goodness of my heart but demanding food, rudely while embarrassing me in front of a neighbour? not a chance.

Personally I’d be expecting profuse apologies before I even thought about cooking for him again.

Your neighbour must think he’s appalling.