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CF friend or AIBU?

990 replies

SilverBirchTree · 07/12/2017 00:31

We recently cleared out a family attic and found an antique object that is associated with a profession (think fireman's helmet/doctor's bag/judge's gavel etc). We looked it up online and saw they sell on eBay for between £150-350.

A friend of mine's FIL is retired from this profession and his hobby is researching its history. He has even self published books about it. He is a lovely man who I see about twice a year. He lost his wife a few months ago so he has been in my recent thoughts.

It is such a marvellous object (beautiful with history and craftsmanship) we decided we'd rather see it go to someone who would appreciate it, rather than sell it.

I asked my friend if her FIL would enjoy it. She responded that he would love it. When I dropped it off at her house, she and her husband said something about wrapping it up and making it their Christmas gift to their FIL. I was Hmm because it wasn't really from them, but whatever.

Today I saw on Facebook that she has put the object for sale online. Shock I messaged her a screen shot of the ad with the message '???' She wrote back 'hey, u gave it to us! I'm going to use the money to buy everyone a Chrissy present, not just [FIL]. We showed it to him and he enjoyed looking at it and taking snaps. Time for someone else to enjoy! :)'

I am so annoyed! She's correct that I gave it away- but I didn't give it to her to sell!! I feel like demanding that she either return the object to me or at least give me the money from the sale.

She's a good friend otherwise, but the kind of person who is always hunting for a bargain or a freebie. It was fun at uni but getting a bit tiresome today!!!

AIBU or is my friend a PITA?!

OP posts:
mumof06darlings · 07/12/2017 20:27

Your "friend" is unbelievable - just unbelievable. The nerve of her 😡

loopylou1984 · 07/12/2017 20:41

Shamelessly place marking to see how this turns out.

rachelracket · 07/12/2017 20:48

ShockShockShock

bloody hell i hope you get it back. if you have a problem DM me a link and i'll bid it up til i win but won't pay. i couldn't give a fuck about my ebay reputation WinkWink

fc301 · 07/12/2017 20:49

W. O. W.

You do not need friends like this.

rjay123 · 07/12/2017 20:51

Good luck!

canthelpbutworry · 07/12/2017 20:53

What a cheeky bastard!!!

schmoozypoo · 07/12/2017 20:54

I hope you got the item back OP. What a CF your friend is

Whatthefunk · 07/12/2017 21:01

Oh My! Watching with Interest. Can't believe the bare arsed cheek!

iboughtsnowboots · 07/12/2017 21:08

Good luck!👍

Emmalouise1210 · 07/12/2017 21:11

ShockShockShock
Just RTFT and there are no words.

billybagpuss · 07/12/2017 21:18

Wow, just wow 😮

Stompythedinosaur · 07/12/2017 21:19

I hope you get it back! What a massive cf!

Nocabbageinmyeye · 07/12/2017 21:27

Good luck SilverBirchTree take no shit off her

Strokethefurrywall · 07/12/2017 21:31

Definitely needing an update to this cheekyfuckery! Amazing!

SonicBoomBoom · 07/12/2017 21:43

I am very (vicariously) proud that you didn't let her away with this and responded clearly and in a no nonsense way to every outrageously cheeky text!

RavenLG · 07/12/2017 21:45

Your friend is the ultimate CF! shameless placeholding for an update

thecatsarecrazy · 07/12/2017 21:47

Hope you get it back. Im annoyed just reading it

SomedayMyPrinceWillCome · 07/12/2017 21:47

Yippee...!
A CF thread in Australia while I'm on a night shift...! Perfect

Valentine2 · 07/12/2017 21:49

I am waiting for an update from op to tell us she got it back.

MarthasHarbour · 07/12/2017 21:57

Blatant placemark Wink

Glamorousglitter · 07/12/2017 21:57

Can't believe the audacity of some
People. Hope you get it back (but not holding my breath)

Pumpkintopf · 07/12/2017 22:00

Another one really hoping you get the item back, even if you then decide to give it to the FIL directly as a gift from you.

Totally unreasonable behaviour from your CF friend.

Cagliostro · 07/12/2017 22:03

This thread is the ultimate cure for low blood pressure

Cleanermaidcook · 07/12/2017 22:08

Hope you got it back. This person is not your friend if they are able to treat you like this. Xx

dray9925 · 07/12/2017 22:12

Hope you get it back op x