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AIBU?

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CF friend or AIBU?

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SilverBirchTree · 07/12/2017 00:31

We recently cleared out a family attic and found an antique object that is associated with a profession (think fireman's helmet/doctor's bag/judge's gavel etc). We looked it up online and saw they sell on eBay for between £150-350.

A friend of mine's FIL is retired from this profession and his hobby is researching its history. He has even self published books about it. He is a lovely man who I see about twice a year. He lost his wife a few months ago so he has been in my recent thoughts.

It is such a marvellous object (beautiful with history and craftsmanship) we decided we'd rather see it go to someone who would appreciate it, rather than sell it.

I asked my friend if her FIL would enjoy it. She responded that he would love it. When I dropped it off at her house, she and her husband said something about wrapping it up and making it their Christmas gift to their FIL. I was Hmm because it wasn't really from them, but whatever.

Today I saw on Facebook that she has put the object for sale online. Shock I messaged her a screen shot of the ad with the message '???' She wrote back 'hey, u gave it to us! I'm going to use the money to buy everyone a Chrissy present, not just [FIL]. We showed it to him and he enjoyed looking at it and taking snaps. Time for someone else to enjoy! :)'

I am so annoyed! She's correct that I gave it away- but I didn't give it to her to sell!! I feel like demanding that she either return the object to me or at least give me the money from the sale.

She's a good friend otherwise, but the kind of person who is always hunting for a bargain or a freebie. It was fun at uni but getting a bit tiresome today!!!

AIBU or is my friend a PITA?!

OP posts:
Nabootique · 07/12/2017 16:24

I think your caps are well place, ginger! Grin I am agog at this thread.

Nabootique · 07/12/2017 16:24

*placed

gingergenius · 07/12/2017 16:39

@HashiAsLarry 😂😂😂

LakieLady · 07/12/2017 16:54

This "friend" is not a cheeky fucker, she's the queen of Cheeky Fuckerdom, and a hard-faced, brass-necked bitch to boot. If I had a friend like her, I'd drop her like a hot coal.

I'd be telling her that if she's not brought the item back within the hour, the Old Bill will be coming to talk to her about theft of a whatever it is.

SilverBirchTree · 07/12/2017 17:05

Lol @ antique ram castrator!

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PeterGriffinsPenisBeaker · 07/12/2017 17:11

Bet she'll have 'sold' it whrn uou go to collecg it. Or she wint snswer the door.

If one of my friends did this to me, the friendship would be over. You just don't do this!!!

TenForward82 · 07/12/2017 17:15

Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be.

SeaCabbage · 07/12/2017 17:28

Sorry if I've missed it, but I hope you are still going to give it to the FIL. I bet he hasn't even been told it was a gift for him.

expatinscotland · 07/12/2017 17:35

'Bet she'll have 'sold' it whrn uou go to collecg it. Or she wint snswer the door.

If one of my friends did this to me, the friendship would be over. You just don't do this!!!'

That's why she should be reported to Ebay and the FB admin on that page.

LazyDailyMailJournos · 07/12/2017 18:18

Yes, I also think you should report her to eBay and the admins for the FB selling page. It sounds like the friendship is dead in the water so nothing to lose.

Spadequeen · 07/12/2017 18:24

My god she really has a brass neck. Good for you op. What’s the betting she’ll be out tomorrow or her husbands taken it to work or some other crap excuse. Good luck.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 07/12/2017 18:41

She’s rude

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 07/12/2017 19:02

clanmackenzie good luck with that - just to confuse the issue, Australia has five different time zones Wink

wineandcheeseplease · 07/12/2017 19:27

Following!

lurkingnotlurking · 07/12/2017 19:28

Lurking

mcdog · 07/12/2017 19:28

I thought I had heard it already when I posted earlier...nope! ShockShock

LouHotel · 07/12/2017 19:33

I feel for op having a newborn and no sleep but i guess it means we get regular updates.

SilverBirchTree · 07/12/2017 20:09

Hi all, thank you for the posts, they were making me laugh while I was feeding the baby at 4am!

It's 7am in my city, feeding the baby again, and I'll be heading over to CF's house after. Will let you know if I get it back.

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CoraPirbright · 07/12/2017 20:14

Best of luck OP. Hope she has the grace to look sheepish.......but somehow I doubt it.

makeitpink · 07/12/2017 20:17

Good luck OP!! I hope the CF gives it back with no arguments

BewareOfDragons · 07/12/2017 20:17

Good luck.

I think your friendship will never be the same, no matter what happens. So I hope you get it back, because CFs should never prevail.

TheHeartOfTeFiti · 07/12/2017 20:17

Not place marking, no not at all!!

RacingRaccoons · 07/12/2017 20:22

Hope you get it back OP!
Your ‘friend’ is definitely a cheeky fucker.

MsJolly · 07/12/2017 20:26

Hope all goes well and you get it back.

For purely selfish reasons I am glad you're in Oz so we will get an update tonight!😉

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