How do doctors mate?

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

Inspired by another thread which said that doctors can't start a relationship with their patients made me wonder what happens if there is a reciprocal attraction?

Loads of people meet their partners at work so it seems a bit of a barrier for them.

sorry meant to post this in chat not AIBU!

I was literally just thinking this on the other thread!!

🙄 Have you never noticed how many doctors are married to other doctors or nurses? Where do you think they met them?

My parents are both doctors. There are lots of doctor-doctor and doctor-nurse couples. It is also an option to meet people other than at work

What do you think teachers do?

my cousin married a girl he met at uni...so probably just like other people. Just because you can't date your patients doesn't mean you can't date colleagues etc. I think in most professions you don't date clients..

They generally marry within the profession. Or from outside social circles such as uni friends from other courses. I know a few nurses married to patients though.

DH Dr cousin is married to a surgeon.

Lots of people do meet at work or through work though.

They're at university for years - I imagine a lot meet there. Then they're on placements with lots of other young people - they could meet there, too. They really don't have to look at their patients for partners!

How do they mate.
Erm the usual way, id imagine

Two doctors in my family both married other doctors in different specialties.

Two friends of mine, one a gp and the other a dentist both married to people they met in uni.

Going by Casualty and Holby (which obviously are totally accurate and true-to-life,) they work through all the other staff over time.

Evelynismyspyname i have heard from a TA friend that teacher's get very busy sleeping with fellow teachers TA's and parents!

Most doctors I know (a disproportionate amount) are either married to doctors (usually the same pay grade so GPs to GPs, specialists to specialists and so on). Or academics (mostly chemists/physicists etc). Or pretty, university educated women who become SAHMs.

What do you think teachers do?

Hopefully not marry their students!

I do realise that doctors meet people other than patients and have a life outside the surgery but it's not totally unrealistic to think that a dr and a patient might be attracted to each other and want to pursue a romantic relationship.

Doctors I know are indeed married to other people in the medical profession.

DH and I are both accountants, when we went to give notice the registrar asked me what we did for a living and when I told him he joked, if ones an accountant you can guarantee the other one is too, I don't think i've ever married an accountant to a non-accountant.

the patient would just transfer to another surgery... it's not complicated!!

Lots of Dr friends

Every single one is married / partnered with another Dr or medical professional (eg clinical psychologist, physio)

When you spend your entire 20s training in a hospital, the only people you ever meet are other medics!

Lots of rota swapping amongst friends to attend weddings

Lots of Drs are married to other Drs or nurses i was a nurse for many years lots and lots of people get together with collegues woek nights out were notorious for people getting together.....

lol I read this as eluding to the fact that they see so many human bodies all day they must be totally turned off by them- kind of like when you cook something over and over or for a long time that you then don't feel like eating. I wonder how they mate after seeing various sti symptoms for example. Okay, tone lowered, I'll be off.

You say that but at what point does the patient transfer?! After agreeing to go out for a meal, first shag ... ?

I'm a hcp not married to a hcp! I feel like a rare breed but we've been together since we were teens 😉

I have been in a medically related profession for 16 years and can honestly say I've never been attracted to a patient. Some are good looking, many are nice people but you just don't look at them that way. Some collegues have had relationships/married people they work with most have not.

Officially you are not allowed to have a relationship with a patient whilst they are your patient. In theory you could start a relationship after you have discharged them, but personally I think this would be morally very dodgy when you have seen someone in a vulnerable position. I think hypothetically I would want many years to have elapsed before I would even consider a relationship with an ex patient.

The nurse-patient relationships I've seen tended to happen after the patient has been discharged. I've never seen it happen in a GP surgery though.

Really though you shouldnt be looking at a patient as a potential love interest , admittedly i was a mental health nurse and my patients were paticularly vulnerable.