How do doctors mate?

[RebeccaWithTheGoodHair]

Inspired by another thread which said that doctors can't start a relationship with their patients made me wonder what happens if there is a reciprocal attraction?

Loads of people meet their partners at work so it seems a bit of a barrier for them.

I doubt many doctors feel hard done by, for not having unfettered access to what's sitting in their waiting rooms.

Drs have status due to work position and patients can be vulnerable/slightly in awe

This is unlikely to be true of anyone who has been to a uni which had a medical school I am afraid. I don't know anyone who are in awe of their doctor. Most people I know just think that doctors know far more about medicine than they do.

Seven years of rigorous and time- intensive training and horrendous shifts as a junior doctor ensures it all "stays in the family ", and even as you progress to seniority you are still dealing mainly with your colleagues and others hcps. Mutual respect, sympathy, support and understanding keeps a lot of us going through the tough times and that's how relationships are formed.
I am however not married to another hcp and agree with previous comment- a rather rare breed.
And as far as mating goes- the procedure is the same as you know from biology lessons for any other human

This is unlikely to be true of anyone who has been to a uni which had a medical school

Maybe but that is a minority of the population

Lots of doctors marry other doctors, other HCPs or people they met at university.

Equally many specialties don't really lend themselves to you falling in love with your patients: Paediatrics No, Care of the Elderly - unlikely, Obs and Gynae - most patients not exactly looking for love at this point, and so on.

In fact in most specialties the bulk of your patients are going to be significantly older than you, very unwell or showing you their arse.

DH is not medical - I'm in a female dominated specialty and was giving up hope of meeting anyone so went internet dating. I would say it is hard sometimes being with someone who is not either medical or a HCP - it took him and his family a long time to understand the life eg why we weren't visiting them for Christmas, why I didn't know my rota etc etc.

I was being lighthearted by the way. Medics at my uni had a reputation for being quite naughty.

Met my doctor husband at Uni.(I studied Arts) All of his doctor friends though are married to doctors, with one married to a nurse. Can't imagine two doctors married to each other - when on earth would they ever see each other?

OP, I am guessing you have a crush on your doctor

I dated a doctor for about 18 months but with both of us on opposite shifts, working the old school hours and in different specialities we never saw each other. Probably why it lasted as long as it did 😂

DH isn’t a doctor but understands the stress, hours, responsibility, roster demands and looks after me so I can look after my patients. I am more than incredibly lucky to have found him (on a mmorpg - the predecessor to WoW).

In my dept of 14 only one of us is married to another doctor. Everyone else is married to non-hcp. I only know one other doctor couple in the consultant group as a whole. We meet people the same way anyone else does - at parties, through friends, through hobbies, through uni, through work.

What I have found is that a couple of times I’ve met a patient at work and thought that they would be really lovely to get to know socially / as a friend. However you can never follow it up or act on it as they are hugely vulnerable when I meet them (half an hour before surgery usually!) and it isn’t ethical. There has never been a patient that I have been attracted to, it’s not the right environment to foster that kind of interaction.

How do they mate?

First they give everything a good wash. Then they get naked from the elbows down. Next they get out and use lots of shiny metal equipment and a machine that goes "bing" that costs a hundred thousand pounds. They then do it in the normal way, and lastly, a person in a suit that has never done it themselves tells them how they could have done it more efficiently.

Bare below the elbows😂

But that is very funny Goldenbug but you missed the many many meetings of how they should when they should and lets put it back on the agenda for the next meeting?

How do they mate? I have an image of randy doctors getting their big book out to check how it’s done.

My aunt met her husband when she was a nurse in a TB hospital, when such things existed! This would have been in the 1950s.

OP, I am guessing you have a crush on your doctor
I was thinking the same thing blueshoes
Go on OP, spill the beans
To answer your question though - my parents met in a hospital. Dad was a doctor (new blood recruit) and Mum a nurse. He came onto her ward the first day, his stethescope round his neck and she just knew - her words almost verbatum

I think the thread was inspired by the troll yday who said her GP fancied her and should she ask him out

I have heard from a TA friend that teacher's get very busy sleeping with fellow teachers TA's and parents!

I can honestly say that doesn’t happen at my school. My current partner teacher is male and I really like him... as a colleague and friend. That’s it.

I think doctors really need someone who understands the pressure and the work schedule general life nightmares of medical training. This is most likely to be another doctor, a HCP who works a horrible shift pattern, or someone in a high pressured long hours job who is understanding about things like working weekends or late into and all night. I've never encountered a doctor who was attracted to a patient met in a clinical setting. The setting let alone the circumstances just eradicates that stuff from your brain.

It can also work with someone who has nowhere near the same work life balance/pressures/circumstances IF they understand and arent going to pile on pressure/sulk/have unreasonable expectations of 'normal' with you etc. But these are rare people.

Professional etiquette for a lot of jobs precludes relationships with clients e.g. social workers, vets (pet owners), teachers, dentists, police officers. A lot of people in these kinds of professions meet at uni or within the context if their similar jobs..

they rub their stethoscopes together