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To be pissed off with OH & webcams

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GirlOnATrainToShite · 17/09/2017 20:54

Am not asking to open a debate about the rights and wrongs.

I don't have an issue with him watching porn.

Found out tonight he's been watching live webcams - where you can chat with the girl.

AIBU considering I don't mind about porn.

I feel furious.

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GirlOnATrainToShite · 17/09/2017 20:55

Forgot to add he says he hasn't chatted as you have to pay Hmm

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GoodEggGertie · 17/09/2017 20:56

Def not being unreasonable that's real interaction with another woman. I'd be mad too 💐

weekfour · 17/09/2017 20:56

Would he do it with you in the room?

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GirlOnATrainToShite · 17/09/2017 20:57

I never watch porn with him - I hate it.

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HailLapin · 17/09/2017 20:57

YANBU op. Everyone has boundaries , his behaviour has crossed yours.

Ttbb · 17/09/2017 20:58

That is not porn, that is interactive. No different to setting.

ILoveMillhousesDad · 17/09/2017 20:58

that's real interaction with another woman.

Whereas the women he wanks over whilst watching porn, are not real women Confused

weekfour · 17/09/2017 20:59

I thought I'd better check. But I think it's minging. Sorry. What did he say when you caught him?

AnyFucker · 17/09/2017 20:59

Why are you with him after this ?

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GirlOnATrainToShite · 17/09/2017 21:03

He didn't think I would have an issue with it when in May we had a conversation and I explicitly told him I am not bothered about him watching porn but I am bothered about anyone he can actively interact with.

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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 17/09/2017 21:04

Whereas the women he wanks over whilst watching porn, are not real women

Millhouses quite clearly Gertie said that's real interaction with another woman she did not say anything about a real woman, she said real interaction Hmm

AnyFucker · 17/09/2017 21:07

But you are bothered aboit him watching porn. It's all part of the same spectrum. And it often escalates. Like it has here.

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GirlOnATrainToShite · 17/09/2017 21:08

I am not bothered about him watching porn.

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PinkHeart5913 · 17/09/2017 21:08

Live webcams, well isn't he nice and disrespectful to you.

Put it this way if I found out my dh had been talking to /wanking over women on a webcam, I'd show him what hell was

CosyFires · 17/09/2017 21:10

My first ever LTB. That would be a deal breaker for me. There's a difference between watching porn and interacting with another woman.

hana32 · 17/09/2017 21:10

YANBU, I would hate that!

Userwhocouldntthinkofagoodname · 17/09/2017 21:13

Whats the difference between recorded footage of webchat girls and live footage of webchat girls? Its exactly the same thing. So if you dont mind porn then whats the difference?

AnyFucker · 17/09/2017 21:13

Webcams are porn

You think the women in prefilmed porn are not real women ?

You are part of the problem, love

EamonnWright · 17/09/2017 21:13

If he hasn't paid then he hasn't interacted. There's no difference to porn so if you're fine with that...

Bambamber · 17/09/2017 21:14

I wouldn't find it any different to any other porn to be honest, it's all just getting off over a woman on a computer screen. Even if he did chat, it's all just fantasy, the lady is just saying and doing what she needs to earn a few quid. It's not as if they have a real connection. I'm not keen on any kind of pork though, but to me it's just all the same

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GirlOnATrainToShite · 17/09/2017 21:14

Porn is actresses - fantasy.

Webcams are real live time and you can interact.

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CosyFires · 17/09/2017 21:15

Standard porn is a man shagging a woman or woman on woman and there's no interaction between them and the viewer.

Webcam is different, it's just you and her and it's a lot more personal. You tell the girl what you want and she tried to please you. It's cheating, it's as simple as that.

AnyFucker · 17/09/2017 21:16

Actresses are real flesh and blood women. You need this spelling out for you ? Hmm

EamonnWright · 17/09/2017 21:16

Can you not just interact if you pay?

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GirlOnATrainToShite · 17/09/2017 21:17

At no point have I said porn actresses are not real women Hmm

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