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To be angry at dp for booking this holiday?

565 replies

Imengagedtoanidiot · 26/06/2017 20:42

  • [Message from MNHQ - just noting, this thread was started in July 2017 and has been resurrected FOR NO GOOD REASON Wink - move along now, please there's nothing new to see here...]

So for ages I've been saying I wan to go to Paris I've never been and it's always been somewhere I want to go but money's right ATM.

Anyway I was talking about how much I want to go in front of my mum a few months and turns out she said to dp to book it for us, she'll have the DCs and pay for the trip for my birthday and keep it as a surprise.

I found out this trip was booked last week by accident and was obviously very excited although felt awful that my mum had given dp the money (£500)

I've just had a look at the details and he's booked it leaving on a Saturday afternoon (arriving late Saturday) and returning very early Monday morning. He booked the Monday off work for me and confirmed mum was having the dcs from Friday night and dropping them to childminder Monday (we collect at 6pm)

AIBU to be fuming that he's taken £500 for essentially 1 day?? I've looked and he could have got Friday evening/early Saturday flights and late Monday flight back for the exact same price so it's not a price issue - he said he just 'didn't think'. He's saying I'm so ungrateful and should be thankful for him (he didn't bloody pay for it)

I'm really upset and don't know if I am being ungrateful and a spoilt brat but I'm just pissed off and feel like my dream break and first holiday without dc is a fucking joke.

I've tried changing the flights and even cancelling but the charge is excessive.

OP posts:
Ethylred · 26/06/2017 20:44

You sound hideous. Is it deliberate?

Crikeyblimey · 26/06/2017 20:45

Surely the hotel for an extra night plus extra day/evening food would put it over budget?

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 26/06/2017 20:45

Christ on a bike. Do you hate your DP?

skyzumarubble · 26/06/2017 20:46

Blimey poor bloke.

AnyFucker · 26/06/2017 20:46

Goodness

Original poster
Imengagedtoanidiot · 26/06/2017 20:46

No I mean the price for a hotel for extra night would have been the same price, the hotels are self catering. He got a really bad deal when I looked! No I don't hate him but it's not like he actually put thought in and booked it, my mum handed him the money and asked him to book it!

OP posts:
Crikeyblimey · 26/06/2017 20:46

Plus - how bloody ungrateful! To both your dp and your mum. If I was either of them is be furious at your reaction.

Rainybo · 26/06/2017 20:46

He has tried to do something lovely for you OP! Smile and say thank you.

HarrietKettleWasHere · 26/06/2017 20:47

You sound like a right brat to be honest. Paris is bloody expensive! You get to go, don't you?!! Jesus.

Dailystuck71 · 26/06/2017 20:47

Ungrateful springs to mind.

Rainybo · 26/06/2017 20:47

And your username is Hmm

MrsArthurShappey · 26/06/2017 20:48

You are being unreasonable and ungrateful, yes. Hth.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/06/2017 20:48

I'd be slightly annoyed I think, but that's all. You are seriously overreacting.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 26/06/2017 20:49

Perhaps he didn't want to spend too long in your company? I wouldn't

HopefullyAnonymous · 26/06/2017 20:49

You sound delightful Hmm

MissionItsPossible · 26/06/2017 20:49

i will use the exact same response as I did when I read a thread along the same lines as yours a couple of weeks ago:

Just saying though, OP, that if I had arranged something for a partner and they reacted in the same way that you did, I'd think very long and hard about booking something like that or doing any sort of surprise again.

Original poster
Imengagedtoanidiot · 26/06/2017 20:50

I obviously thanked my mum and offered to pay her back when I can, she doesn't know I'm annoyed about the dates. She thought we were going for a long weekend as I did. And of course I said thanks to him at the time, I just think it doesn't take much to put some common sense in and book it so that firstly we don't arrive in the middle of the night on the first day and then leave first thing in the morning the last day thus leaving 1 day to do anything and the rest of the time traveling.

And yes my username was because I wanted to name change as would out me and everything I tried was taken, surprised this one wasn't considering it is mumsnet.

So no one else thinks it's a stupid move?

OP posts:
TheFaerieQueene · 26/06/2017 20:51

Perhaps your DM should go with your partner?

carnationlilyrose · 26/06/2017 20:51

Actually I don't think you're being ungrateful - all that money just for one day in Paris is ridiculous! And a Sunday too when loads of stuff will be closed. I would be really grateful to my mum for giving the money, but that just makes it worse that your DP was so thoughtless about the booking.

Notknownatthisaddress · 26/06/2017 20:51

YABVVVVVU and bloody nasty to your man!

(And mother!)

I would be over the moon if someone booked a weekend to PARIS for me!

noenergy · 26/06/2017 20:51

I actually know where ur coming from. U could have flown out earlier and had more time there.

A bit shocked that he took the money from ur mum.

putdownyourphone · 26/06/2017 20:51

Meh - I'm with you OP. But then I don't like surprises and am a bit of a control freak when it comes to holidays and like to do loads of research to make sure I'm getting the best deal and maximum time there. He's a bit of a knob for booking it for one day.

ChrisPrattsFace · 26/06/2017 20:51

Maybe he couldn't find a better deal at the time of booking it, and thought 'my DP will love this, evening stroll on Saturday with dinner, the whole of Sunday to explore and Monday morning breakfast - she's going to be so happy'
And you have reacted like this. You are ungreatful. He should take your mum.

Magicmonster · 26/06/2017 20:52

I'm going to go against the grain and say I see where you are coming from op. The seeming lack of thought would annoy me too. hopefully you can still make the most of your long weekend by going out for a nice lunch near home on the sat or mon or doing something else you wouldn't usually do with the kids around.

TooLazyForDrama · 26/06/2017 20:52

My God, if DM and DH sorted out a trip to my dream destination for me I think I'd cry! How incredibly lovely and thoughtful of them. I think you are being ungrateful, but I think it's because your expectations around this trip are very high. Youve been imagining it for years, you want everything perfect, and it isn't as you imagined so you're upset. Put that aside and enjoy!