AIBU to think it's silly that DS can't wear these to nursery?

[GracyEvans]

DS had some leggings on today - they're gorgeous! They have monsters on (not scary) but apparently he isn't allowed to wear them? They don't have a uniform, but apparently a Mum said that they scared her daughter WTAF.

My little girl may be scared of them she's very sensitive

I don't like the leggings and find them scary . Other mum is obviously PFB; 3-4 year olds will probably love them and be fascinated and impressed by the motive.

What are toddlers supposed to wear when they reach this magical age where leggings are suddenly unacceptable? Are we meant to force them into denim jeans every day?

Well sensitive equates to ridiculous, special snowflake, pfb and generally needing a grip on this thread fulltime.

And deserving of the flooding therapy of seeing the leggings every day according to some posters.

I could name about ten irrational fears which children in my circle had as toddlers - they are so ridiculous as to be immediately outing - they were allowed to outgrow them and would all laugh at themselves now as school children.

Fine if a child needs to learn not to fear something they will encounter every day - gradual exposure would be the way forward. Posting on the internet about a child's fear of monster pictures just seems a bit cruel.

All that has done is to affirm the girls fear. That is not helping her Get over it.

Some fairly nasty comments on here. Not everyone is 100% robust all the time. Some people struggle with things the rest of the world knows nothing about.

I'm not sure that the "suck it up" school of amateur psychology has a great historical track record.

dont, TBF a lot of us are not saying 'suck it up' but 'work with the little girl on her fear'.

I would be interested to know where the nursery draws the line at what they will do on the say of one parent?

Bringing your pet stick insect - probably a no.
Clothes with monsters on them - I think should be fine. If a child had little bugs on their socks, would that be OK?
Bringing in books from home about insects - should be fine....would they ask you not to do so if someone was scared?

Did they celebrate halloween?

I'm not dismissing the little girl's fear at all, I just wonder how accommodating a nursery environment should be.

Not much use as I have DD's but of course boys can wear leggings and if it was my DD scared of an item of clothing I'd rather work with nursery to help her get over the fear.

Pandering to irrational fears isn't going to do a child any good in the long run. What would happen with Halloween dress ups and what not?

Lost the will to live at the start of the leggings on a boy debate. They look like joggers to me in any case what with the baggy bits 'n'all. Unless the other kid has SN the other parent is mental and this will be the first of many "complaints", I wouldnt acquiesce to such nonsense personally, but the choice is yours op.

I work in a preschool, some kids find some things unseasonably scary one day and not the next. YANBU the staff however are. I wouldn't dream of telling a parent what you were told!!

We had a child who cried every time another child roared (during pretend play). Every. Single. Time. We didn't stop them playing.

Unless the other kid has SN the other parent is mental

*unreasonably. Dammit...

I would be interested to know where the nursery draws the line at what they will do on the say of one parent?

Yes, good question.

I'm not sure that the "suck it up" school of amateur psychology has a great historical track record.

This x100.

Plus Meadows comment x1000

They look so cute. Little ones should wear comfortable clothes!!

Those aren't leggings! They are just jogging bottoms with ankle cuffs - which are called jobby catchers in our family

I think leggings look silly on boys. These ones look like PJ bottoms,,but scary they are not. I think the other kid shouldn't' be pandered to Wont do her any favours in the long run.

I'm not sure that the "suck it up" school of amateur psychology has a great historical track record.

I get the premise of this sentiment though and actually actively avoiding a fear is many, many times worse in lots of cases (generally).

I know we're talking about a very young child with a fear here and I wouldn't actively be too harsh but honestly the tactic of asking the OP to change how her son is dresses is extreme and surely isn't setting the little girl up for a healthy approach to fears at all.

Or what petitpois said much more succinctly!

The nursery as a whole have done v little other than communicate with the parents involved.

It is a request from one parent to another to help alleviate a transient but possibly upsetting problem. It costs the OP little other than a DM sad face because she is 'missing' the leggings .

Instead of a wry smile and maybe a thought of 'thank goodness my DC isn't like that' she posts a threading inviting others to slag off a child.

Classy.

Surely joggers are thicker? Not that it really matters but leggings are thin cotton clingy and joggers and thicker and looser?

I still don't get why they look silly on boys. They're just a type of "trouser"

It should be the girl being taught there's nothing scary, it's not Freddie Krueger on them ffs, YABU for making your son wear leggings though

I didn't see the bit where OP asked people to slag off the child??

Ah yes, that well known adult 'turquoise leggings with monsters' phobia which will result from avoidance at nursery age.