AIBU to think it's silly that DS can't wear these to nursery?

[GracyEvans]

DS had some leggings on today - they're gorgeous! They have monsters on (not scary) but apparently he isn't allowed to wear them? They don't have a uniform, but apparently a Mum said that they scared her daughter WTAF.

My DD is terrified of spiders, and I mean absolutely phobic. Does that mean that nursery should cancel Halloween? No, it means that it's my job as her mum to give her ways of coping with fears. I'm not saying it's not hard for a child who is afraid, of course it is, but instead of just removing every single thing that could upset them surely it's better to give them coping strategies they can use throughout their lives when they feel fear?

Thought this looked familiar. daily fail strikes again

Bugger that. Those legging are fab! It's just a pattern after all. It's not going to hurt the little girl that is so dreadfully scared of them.

hazey, 'the idea that it is wrong that a group moderates themselves for the sake of one person' is a broad one; this thread is more about a specific situation/occurrence.

I do understand that fears are very real for the person experiencing them, although thanks for the slightly patronising explanation.

And no, there's nothing wrong with teaching people to be considerate to others needs. But there's also nothing wrong with gently supporting a child to deal with their fears.

I agree sapphire
Teaching children resilience and how to deal with situations is much more productive than a whole group of people modifying their behaviour because of one person
Resilience is what a lot of children seem to be lacking

I don't think it's accurate at all to characterise this thread as 'damning' a child.

Most responses criticise the mother and/or the nursery. Even the 'special snowflake' type responses read more like criticisms of the above, for enabling snowflake behaviour, rather than for the child for displaying it.

This is going to be on The Wright Stuff this morning- you couldn't pay for such good publicity!

its on nowon along with the phrase helicopter parenting lol

they all think it ridiculous