AIBU to think it's silly that DS can't wear these to nursery?

[GracyEvans]

DS had some leggings on today - they're gorgeous! They have monsters on (not scary) but apparently he isn't allowed to wear them? They don't have a uniform, but apparently a Mum said that they scared her daughter WTAF.

How ridiculous
I'm a nursery manager and I wouldn't even have said anything to you
That poor child
Scared of leggings
What a strange parent

If only girl clothes were more acceptable he'd live in Little Bird and I'd sell my body for Motherhood vouchers!! He's 18 months just and only been in 12-18 trousers for about a month but already noticing his jeans are getting snug!!

I had never even heard of leggings for biys. I'm not a fan but those leggings are fine. Nursery shouldn't have said anything.

Leggings look fine on a baby upto 1 I would say. Any older is a complete no.

Sorry but I think you ABU. Not all kids are the same and my DD is scared by many things that other kids would not think twice about, but that doesn't mean that she should just 'suck it up' if there is a workable solution that in this case means sending him in wearing different leggings. For context she has no special needs, took all the books out of her room that had the Big Bad Wolf in them, removed all soft toys/ dolls as they ' creeped her out' and now is scared of mirrors. A little empathy for those children who are a bit extreme in their fears goes a long way

Why are they a 'no' though?

FWIW I think leggings on boys are fine

My 10 y.o. DS2 wears his running tights (leggings) whenever he's not in school uniform. I think he looks nice in them.

Kids get scared of the strangest things don't they? We had to tell DS1 that the Easter bunny wasn't real after he was terrified one year at pre-school when someone dressed as it and visited them. I still don't really understand why he was so scared!

Our nursery sent our toddler home once in skin tight girls jeggings. He looked hilarious. We were just stood there in awe watching him March around at home time in what was clearly a girls item of clothing. Those monster leggings arw fine! I wouldn't put my son in them (look a bit like pjs) but scary? Nah.

They are lovely but I'd respect the nursery as if a child went into school wearing an Orville t-shirt my son would be hysterical!

And I really can't talk sense into him. It's a real fear.

they are lovely! YANBU seriously if my kid was to find them scary i'll be worried about my kid.

I'm surprised these are classified as leggings. They aren't what I think of as leggings... not that it matters. Whatever they are, they're clearly fine for a child.

And YANBU. It'd be fine for the nursery to mention it but not to say he can't wear them anymore. You can't control the world around your child, so if a kid has an irrational fear you work with them rather than try to ban it.

They would have frightened me and no amount of reasoning could have convinced me that there was nothing to be scared of.

Otoh my mother would not have insisted on them being banned.

I was always more scared of imaginings than of real dangers and suffered nightmares well into my 20s. But was quite brave e.g. in facing up to a real burglar. I am a perfectly normal person, nothing to worry about. But have had to accept that the world couldn't revolve around me and sometimes I just had to suffer the consequences of a vivid imagination.

He wore these ones today I love these! Still miss the monsters though

My 2 year old son had an appliqué spider on a t-shirt once, and a MOTHER at the local soft play just about passed out with fear. Some people are just irrationally scared of innocuous stuff.

My little boy is two and he's always wearing leggings. Everytime he wears his leggings people compliment me on them and ask where they are from.
They are comfy and perfect for all his running around and climbing. It's quite ridiculous the amount of people saying boys can't wear leggings.

As for being sent home from nursery that's just stupid, I would send him in them again. My little boy wears his to nursery all the time!

My 14 year old son wears spray in skin tight jeans and we tell him the look like my DD jeggings 😂
Who gives a !#?!, get a life and look at ur own lives and quit being so judgemental - nothing wrong if the child is happy!

My DS 2 lives in leggings when not at school. He's nearly 7. Think what you want, I'm not bothered and he's certainly not! He's currently rocking a blue pair with glittery unicorns all over. As Ghodavies says, nothing wrong if the child is happy.

Oh, and the monster ones are amazing.

over reaction by the pfb mother and nursery. Did they not explain to the child they were friendly monsters. I think it more beneficial to help kids co exist than shield them from their fears. It won't do any good in the long run.

I run a Pre-school that Mother sounds like one one of those I would smile sweetly at and ignore. Is her precious snowflake sensitive?

YANBU! They scared a little girl so they've been banned? Give me fucking strength.

Continue to let him wear them, OP. Suggest politely they work with the girl or more likely her PFB parents to show her that there's nothing to be scared of.

I assume if your son was scared by something another child was wearing, you'd prefer this approach to banning? I'm pretty sure I would.

South, genuine question – can you explain exactly why you feel that 'boys look ridiculous in leggings'?

Oh and leggings are great for toddlers, toileting, climbing, running and being children. Just don't get me started on dungarees - they are the devils clothes

They're fine - if the child found them scary I hope they don't watch Monster's Inc

Serial I expect they dont watch sesame st either.

Tbf I do think monsters inc is quite scary for young children

I tried watching it with dd and she got too scared by it

Those trousers, she wouldn't look at twice though