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To be freaking out that DD has gotten her period!!!

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hungryhippo90 · 28/09/2016 09:31

Just exactly that!!
She's a big girl, 4"11and size 5 shoe. She looks about 12 by most people's guesses. I'd expected it to come soon-ish because she's started to get hairy legs. But I thought it would be in a year or so, which would put her at the age when I got my period, but she's 8. And this seems far too young..

Am I bu to really be freaking out about this?

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DerekSprechenZeDick · 28/09/2016 09:32

She can't tell you are freaking out can she?

Realhousewivesofshit · 28/09/2016 09:35

Ah poor kid. That's hard at 8. I thought dd was early at 11.

Don't freak to get. Gather your thoughts and you just support and help. Probably her teacher should know at that age.

Poor pet sending hugs.

Shakirasma · 28/09/2016 09:35

Well she is certainly young but still within normal age range. No point in freaking out, it is what it is and the main thing is she is fully informed and equipped. You mustn't let her pick up of your reaction.

EdmundCleverClogs · 28/09/2016 09:35

Yes you are. You're also being quite inappropriate here, I can understand asking for advice or ask how to talk to her about it. It seems you're making this about you. Get a grip.

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hungryhippo90 · 28/09/2016 09:36

No, I've just gotten a call from the school. I'm on my way to the chemist. I need to calm down before she comes home. We've had the chat about periods before, but it's different now. It's here. Que alarms going off, and one dazed mummy!

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melibu84 · 28/09/2016 09:37

Kids are hitting puberty younger these days, so this is not unheard of. I started my period when I was 10, but I was not the first in my class to do it. There was a girl there with double Ds. Can you imagine, having double Ds at 10 . . :/

intheknickersoftime · 28/09/2016 09:38

Yes you do need to calm down because gets home

Artistic · 28/09/2016 09:38

Your DD is going to be shocked & upset. If you focus on helping her deal with her feelings it will help you cope with your own shock. It is early. Hope it's one of those situations where you get the first one & then nothing for ages...before you get them regularly.

Finola1step · 28/09/2016 09:39

I can understand you freaking out. Is she 8, nearly 9 in Year 4? Or just turned 8? Either way, I think it would be worth you going to the GP, on your own, to talk it through.

Also, on a practical level, it might be a good idea to talk to someone at school. When I was teaching in primary schools, we had a number of year 5 and 6 girls start their periods. And a couple of year 4s. But it is really important that you talk to someone you trust at school so that appropriate arrangements can be made. So that your dd knows which loo to use when she wants to change her towel etc. Does she change for PE in the classroom? That kind of thing.

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom · 28/09/2016 09:40

Going against the grain , I don't think it's unreasonable. You feel how you feel and I can understand it's a bit of shock as she is young. It's how you handle it with her that counts and I presume you aren't going sit around with her sobbing and lamenting it and freaking out in front of her

You have a chance to gather your thoughts before she gets home, like you say. I'm sure there's lots of good advice out there about how to handle this situation.

insan1tyscartching · 28/09/2016 09:40

Oh poor girl that is early, dd was twelve but was tiny 4 foot 8 so didn't really expect it either. Had you prepared her? I'd speak with her teacher as you need to know that she has access to sanitary bins at school and also to allow the teacher to offer support if needed.

zoebarnes · 28/09/2016 09:41

Why are you freaked out? Can you explain?
I got my period at 10 and only knew vaguely what they were. I didn't panic, I wasn't upset and it wasn't a particularly big deal. Show her what she needs, let her talk about it if she wants to and calm down. It's a perfectly normal bodily function.

BastardGoDarkly · 28/09/2016 09:42

8?! Blimey, not surprised you're shell shocked. Pull yourself together though, she needs you Brew

Realhousewivesofshit · 28/09/2016 09:44

Stop giving the op a hard time. I would be freaked out at mine starting at this tender age but sure the op will cope well and not freak In front of her dd.

Finola1step · 28/09/2016 09:44

X post about the school.

Yes, starting puberty at 8 is considered just within the "normal" range in a medical sense but I would still make an appt, without dd, with the GP. To talk it through.

Realhousewivesofshit · 28/09/2016 09:45

zoe just because you weren't freaked out doesn't mean your mum wasn't. Mums are allowed to be. Does t make them bad mums. Do you have pubescent girls yet?

JackShit · 28/09/2016 09:45

YANBU. I was 15!!!

KayTee87 · 28/09/2016 09:45

Take some deep breaths and buy her some chocolate and put on her favourite dvd and watch it with her with a duvet on the couch. Make it a nice day.

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hungryhippo90 · 28/09/2016 09:46

Edmund clever clogs, how am I being inappropriate? I've just received a call from the school saying my 8 year old has started her period. It isn't about me. Of course it's not, but I am quite obviously going to be a bit shocked if I weren't expecting it to happen this early..

Real Housewives of shit.... thank you, I got the call from school so they knew before me. It just seems so young. That's what I'm struggling with.

Shakirasama- thank you for telling me it's within normal range. I had a slight worry that it was slightly abnormal. I always thought it was between 9-16 girls generally started their periods....she won't know my reaction as It will be short lived. It's just the initial shock of it coming sooner than I'd thought it seems a bit alien though. 8!

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intheknickersoftime · 28/09/2016 09:48

My DD was 10. Quite frankly I don't see the point of freaking and the op should pull herself together.

CuddlesAndCupcakes · 28/09/2016 09:48

What KayTee87 has suggested is a brilliant idea.

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thecatsclinkers · 28/09/2016 09:49

can't believe how horrible some people are being - complete lack of empathy.

YANBU this would be a shock to me at 8 years old, it is extremely young. you sound like you are getting a grip on it - good luck.

CakeByTheOcean · 28/09/2016 09:49

OP YANBU. I have an 8 year old. She is still so young and the thought of her starting so early upsets me. If it did happen I would be smiley and supportive but inside I would be freaking out like you. At least you have the day to get your head around it. How did the school know? Did she tell her teacher?

VilootShesCute · 28/09/2016 09:50

I think you're perfectly in your right to be panicky. You're baby is growing up and it's hard enough when they start school, start answering back, and decide they won't eat vegetables let alone start their periods! Plus explaining about periods at age 15 is different to 8. My 9 year old son still doesn't know about sex and what body parts do what. Hope she's okay op. Stay calm and have lots of cuddles with her today!

intheknickersoftime · 28/09/2016 09:51

I'm not being horrible. I just don't think it's in any girls best interests to make such a big deal about it. Show your daughter how to manage it and send her outside to play with her friends. That's my attitude. Duvet and chocolate Hmm

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