To be freaking out that DD has gotten her period!!!

[hungryhippo90]

Just exactly that!!
She's a big girl, 4"11and size 5 shoe. She looks about 12 by most people's guesses. I'd expected it to come soon-ish because she's started to get hairy legs. But I thought it would be in a year or so, which would put her at the age when I got my period, but she's 8. And this seems far too young..

Am I bu to really be freaking out about this?

Who gives a shit erica? It's an internet forum not an essay.

I would freak out so YANBU - 8 is very young I started at 11 and thought that was on the young side

Lots of practical advice on here about how to manage things

Would focus on the practical side of things after giving yourself a bit of time to take things in

Awww. Just don't give her thouse awful acented wipes! They might give her thrush! They certainly used to give me. Get some nice Natracare priducts without and nasties in them.

Ooo yes I'll second natracare!

YANBU - 8 is very wee. I don't have children at all [cue suitably dramatic music 🙄] but am a Brownie Leader & the difference between 8yos & 10yos is (generally speaking, clearly; there will always be exceptions to rules etc) HUGE eg 8yos still seek adult approval over peer approval & enjoy & instigate imaginative play in a way 10yos (typically) don't.

It sounds as if both you & your daughter are handling it brilliantly though: MN is the perfect place (well, should be...) to get all the panic&brainsquiggles out of your system so you can keep all your interactions with your DD positive.

As far as pain relief goes herethereandeverywhere, if your daughter finds OTC pain relief doesn't help a GP might be able to prescribe something stronger - the dose would need to be adjusted by weight. I've always had period pain so bad it leaves me unable to function for a day or two & find the heating pads you stick to your knickers help. Tranexamic acid has also made a HUGE difference for me & is approved for paediatric use [in the UK].

Hope your DD feels ok

t4nut/erica - focusing on the grammar of someone, whilst ignoring the concerns of a worried mother and then not having any form of empathy for an 8y child is not very good manners/behaviour in both England and America either. TBh - probably worse than using a bit of slang talk anyway.

The OP talks about going to Sainsburys so I don't think she's American, not that it matters a flying fuck really.

OP, I also have an 8yr old dd and I would feel the same if she started her periods at this age. I hope she's okay and not uncomfortable or having cramps.

ZebraOwl - I've just been prescribed tranexamic acid so am glad to hear it's good.

Erica - look at www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gotten

It's absolutely fine in US English. Now do stop banging on.

The OP talks about going to Sainsburys so I don't think she's American

She could, of course, be an American living in the U.K. :)

You are Not being unreasonable! I have an 8 year and and she is still so young (my 12 year old hasn't yet started) - I would feel the same as you. It doesn't mean that's we'd be hysterical when speaking to our child about it-just that we didn't expect it yet!

Some really unkind posts on here.

A mum has had a school from school to say here 8yo has her first period.

Not the usual call you get about an 8yo. They are usually running around, play acting, role playing with dolls etc - not choosing which sanitary towel to use.

She also says "Mummy" not "Mommy", and the very British "umpteen". I would bet my house and everything in it she's not American.

OP - you need to come back and clear this up!

Nah seriously though, hope your dd is okay.

OP, how's your daughter feeling today?

MargotLovedTom

I hope the tranexamic acid works for you - everyone I know who's had it has found it helps & for me it had the bonus of helping with managing my propensity for epic epistaxis events (I have a bleeding disorder as a feature of one of my disabilities...) too

Sorry I've not updated those of you who have posted on the thread during my absence. Only now do I have the time needed to form a post containing only grammatically correct sentences. Sorry to the pedants on this thread, who A)seemed sure that I was American because I apparently speak like an American, and B) the outrage caused by using the word gotten.
In future I will remember to write my posts on mumsnet as formally as possible, though please do remember I am an uneducated woman from a council estate, so please don't expect perfection from me!

Now the important bit is out of the way... for all those who asked, my daughter is doing wonderfully. Shes taken it all in her stride, except for the misunderstanding with her swimming lessons on Friday's, she was very insistent she wanted to go and couldn't understand why she couldn't!

We went to the Drs just to confirm that it was actually her period. The Dr seems very certain that it's exactly that.

I'm just so impressed that she's dealing with with all so well.

Am very glad she is taking it in her stride.

Also, thanks ZebraOwl.

Glad to hear it OP. well done for raising such a sensible and mature girl!

OP. You sound fab, as does your daughter. Good work 😆 and 'yo go girl' with your gottens etc.. fuck those idiots who have too much time and dictionaries on their hands

My DD was a month short of her 10th birthday when she started. I wish she hadn't. . She was fine but I had no positive spin to put on starting so early.

years on and I still don't, but she handles it brilliantly and actually has used a 'divacup' since she was 12 of her own volition.

Periods can take a while to settle down so your DD may not have another for months, although my DD was regular from the start.

Oops . Posted too soon. Sounds like you and your DD have an open relationship where you can talk... that's great. I just bought up pretty much the whole 'feminine hygiene ' section, put it in a box in DDs bathroom and let her have a rummage in her own time.

I also kept a log of her periods for the first year or so, in case we needed to plan or I needed to remind her. She's v independent now, and our periods have synchronised (which I never believed in before, but turns out what did I know? !!!)

Good luck. .. I wish your daughter no more periods for at least a year then smooth running from then

Of course it would be upsetting for the OP. Her DD probably only started school 4 years ago. It doesn't mean that she won't pull herself together or process it or, indeed, hide her upset from her daughter. Her post was a cathartic release for the shock she's feeling. It's one of the functions of mumsnet - it adds as a space that we use to work through those feelings so we can actually function to ensure our children are, in the end, emotionally cared for.

You post away, OP. Am sure you're a great mum and will look after your daughter

Jeez that's young. I get why you are shocked.
Act normal and support her.

She might only have the one for now. My DN (12) had her first period 5 months ago and hasn't had one since.

Awww I remember freaking out American slang rocks when mine came at 11yo so your DD sounds like she's handling it fine, you obviously prepared her well