To buy pink for a boy?

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So the backstory is that my DB and SIL (who is nice enough but is a 15 year old trapped in a 24 year olds body) have a 11 month old girl and a boy on the way.

SIL believes that boys wearing pink is wrong and girls shouldn't wear blue.
She has sold every single pink thing that DNiece has in order to buy blue things for the new DNephew This includes sleeping bags, socks, false washers etc. Any toy that is not pink and 'girly' has been given away. I paid a small fortune for those reusable nappies and they were sold as they were not pink.

Now I know it's not my child, money or decision so I'm not interfering. I have said that it's a waste but I was bitched about on FB about it so I'm keeping my mouth shut.

Anyhoo, AIBU to buy nothing but pink, yellow etc boys clothes and 'girly' toys for the new baby?

Well she sounds like a daft bint! I never understand people like this. Exactly what do they think will happen if they dress baby in the "wrong" colours?

I don't understand. Why would you? It would be a complete waste of money. A lot of people like to do the pink/blue thing, it's nothing to do with you. Your OP sounds really mean, to be honest.

Yes YABU.
Whist I agree that she is wasting money and, by all accounts, some pretty good stuff, of you buy the baby girly stuff, she will just end up selling it/ recycling it/ putting it in the back of a wardrobe.
Respect her wishes and get the poor little bugger some boy stuff.

I buy all new babies deliberately gender neutral gifts anyway. For one thing, the scan isn't 100% accurate. And babies are just babies. It's completely irrelevant if they're male or female.

But I wouldn't buy pink for a boy. Just as bad in reverse, although I do see your point.

Yabu, it's none of your business what she likes/dislikes.

What's the point on buying something that won't be used?

You sound mean. It's up to her what colours she wants.

Tbh my uncle got my dd a pink play gym and I've wondered if i had another baby, a boy if I would continue to use it. I certainly wouldn't put a baby boy in pink clothing. If he chose to when he was able to make that decision himself then fine. But I think yabu to buy pink when you know it's not what she wants. Surely she would know you were doing it to make a point to.

Yes yabu, she's having a boy, why would you want to buy him loads of pink clothes?

Buy pink if you want but don't bitch when it gets sold/thrown away and you are never invited to visit.

Nothing wrong with yellow? Why is yellow a girls colour?

I would find that highly irritating. I had a boy followed by a girl and she wore the same baby clothes that he did, mainly because I bought or inherited clothes for a baby as opposed to following the clothing 'rules' for a baby boy. As they got older I chose clothes that suited their colouring mostly.

If I were you OP I'd be reluctant to give them anything much as they have sold on things you gave them before.

I only dressed DD in pink from head to toe so people would stop saying, "oh what a lovely little boy!" She had hardly any hair until she was 2.5. It didn't work.

She's clearly BU but it's her child and her choice. You'd be BU to buy pink on purpose to annoy her.

I understand your general sentiments but you know fine well YABU.

It's their child, they get to choose.

Buy something they'd like and sit back and wait until she's a noisy three year old demanding tshirts with trucks on and refusing to wear dresses. then take her shopping

I hate the blue for boys and pink for girls thing. I went out of my way to find pink boys clothes where I could (there are some, but not many!). It's just a colour. I wouldn't do what you're suggesting though, it would be a waste of money as they'd never get used!

I meant pink for my own DS.

YABU. If you're buying a gift you should try to get something the recipient will enjoy, rather than to teach them a lesson.

Yes yabu...if you know they won't use pink things then why would you buy them?

I know being gender neutral is very 'now' on mn, but not everyone in rl thinks that way. Stop being so petty.

You know you're being unreasonable. Why waste your money, you know the clothes won't be used.

You describe her as a 15-year-old in a 24-year-old's body, but purposely buying her something she doesn't want just to goad her or teach some sort of lesson isn't exactly mature behavior, is it?

Good point steff.

OP give yer head a wobble. And beak out, yes?

Strange thing is prior to the 1900s blue was a girl's colour and pink for boys as it was an angry colour and blue being soft and gentle. Get everything in black just to prove a point.

My sil knows I dislike 'pink princessy' things and demin for babies- we had a lighthearted discussion before dd arrived. Since then every bday and Xmas she's not missed the opportunity to buy dd exactly the clothes she knows I dislike. Passive aggressive behaviour through the child...nice.

Personally I think YANBU but lots of people are very weird about the pink/blue thing, like their infant will catch The Gay if mis-coloured. In this situation though I'd try and rise above it, or if you really can't just don't buy her loads of stuff. At the end of the day this is surely more about her having been showered with gifts and then getting rid of them all rather than reusing, as though she's just expecting to be showered again. It seems a bit grabby and ungrateful to me. But tbh if you knew she was so sexist particular why didn't you get plain nappies in a gender neutral colour?

We had a house full of gender neutral bright colours like reds, yellows, green, orange and blue so I get where you are coming from. But I would never expect to impose that on my (daft) friends or family.
so they get neutral if we don't know and something we think they will like if we know. (Hence my friend getting a pink Disney Princess babygro s because she would love it for her dd even though it made me want to vomit!)