To buy pink for a boy?

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So the backstory is that my DB and SIL (who is nice enough but is a 15 year old trapped in a 24 year olds body) have a 11 month old girl and a boy on the way.

SIL believes that boys wearing pink is wrong and girls shouldn't wear blue.
She has sold every single pink thing that DNiece has in order to buy blue things for the new DNephew This includes sleeping bags, socks, false washers etc. Any toy that is not pink and 'girly' has been given away. I paid a small fortune for those reusable nappies and they were sold as they were not pink.

Now I know it's not my child, money or decision so I'm not interfering. I have said that it's a waste but I was bitched about on FB about it so I'm keeping my mouth shut.

Anyhoo, AIBU to buy nothing but pink, yellow etc boys clothes and 'girly' toys for the new baby?

Well yes. But it is still 'making a point' , isn't it?

The OP has criticised her SIL fairly openly on here for the 'waste' involved - even though the old clothes were sold, not thrown out.

So why get something else you know would be 'wasted'?

I have my own personal tastes, as I guess everybody does. If someone bought me something that I didn't like, I'd be polite obviously but I probably wouldn't put my child in it.

Someone I know bought DD a hideous puffy dress! I lied and said she had got the wrong size of 3-6 months and not 9-12 months which is what she needs so I didn't have to put her in it! She said 'oh I am soooo sorry!'

Let's put the situation into reverse. Someone has got a load of pink, garish, Barbie coloured stuff for a baby - and it's a girl. A mumsnetter says she hates it. EVERYONE would say - give it away, sell it, NOT 'oh gosh how wasteful!'

confused if you are quoting me please realise I was joking.

Have been on mumsnet years and the boys in pink threads always make me howl. As do the boys in dresses who are never bullied or ridiculed.

Sansaraya but the mother won't dress him in pink so why would the op but it. Except to piss of her sil and make a point. Bit daft.

shes just a thicko nice. No it's her parenting choices which she's allowed to make.

Five yes agree.

I don't know, I'd agree with the PP that someone with homophobic views is probably not the brightest...

Of course she is allowed to make her own parenting choices- why wouldn't she?

she's still a thicko.

I think it would be mean to buy pink just to piss her off.

Dressing boys in girls clothes is a bit, umm, unusual It's like you are trying to be cool.

OP would you buy 'girly' things for your DP?

"She thinks dressing boys in pink turns them gay"

Now isn't that being just a bit of a thicko?

No because her ideas are stupid.

But her ideas are not going to change by forcing your ideas on her

Dd, 4, lives in her Barcelona kit, Everton kits that belonged to ds, 12 and then is just as happy in a tutu or dress, I couldn't care less what people think.

She doesn't actually suit pink that much and wears a lot of navy/white, red/white and for special occasions, oilily , which is crazy colours!

What's a false washer?

Being a thicko could also be applied to someone who clearly knows another's parenting views but wants to ignore them.

Neither sound very sensible people to be honest.

However I still maintain that as a parent since 1989 I have never ever heard of anybody buying pink for a baby boy. Never. It's odd.

What an almighty drip feed from your first post, OP. It's almost as if you felt you hadn't gone into enough detail to stop anyone from disagreeing with you.

Drip feed? I think I've posted three times in this entire thread. Heaven help me for not writing every fact and detail in one post. Also, who cares if people disagree. If I wanted 100% positive replies then I wouldn't have posted on AIBU.

As for my version of waste, then yes I think she is bring wasteful. Giving away or selling brand new or barely used items for the fraction of what new ones costs purely because you don't like the colour is wasteful. Considering she will now have to buy everything again.

I also think I am entitled to an opinion. This is my family not a random woman at the bus stop.

I think it is a non issue- it wouldn't bother me whichever she did.

From 'she wants everything blue for a boy' (whilst not to my taste, perfectly acceptable IMO), to 'she thinks pink will make him gay' is a pretty big jump. One I am surprised you didn't address in your opening post.

It was lucky she invited you to her baby shower whilst you were mid post though, so you could include that.

She is giving things away? That doesn't fit with the grabby person you are describing

Just buy "gender-neutral" and to hell with her!

It always makes me smile that the colour pink creates such strong feeling. On mn there are always lots of posts about how their ds loves pink,is dressed in goggles & a tutu. Not so much of girls loving pink.
Yabu to buy something to irritate,you claim she is childish. Pot,kettle,black.

You may think she is a thicko but from observing the dress sense of the transgender community I would say she's not daft to worry about the sexual peccadilloes of a boy forced to wear pink

Of course you cannot dress babies in wrong colours. How would random people on the street know if they have to call your newborn 'strong' or 'beautiful'? And they might tell you that your toddler's behavior is 'typical girl', when they should have said 'oh, boys will be boys'.

Where will this end? Next thing you'll know, Clarks might actually sell your DD dinosaur sandals..

I don't know anyone who would bully a baby for wearing pink either. I'm obviously talking about when the child is older.

Parents have lots of weird views. Personally I think that the baby stage is the time that you can get away with everything second hand- and presents. However if people insist in all new it is up to them. Same with colours and styles.

I don't know anyone who would bully a baby for wearing pink either. I'm obviously talking about when the child is older.

It wasn't obvious at all. Because not long after they start toddling kids tend to start having their own opinions on what they want to wear, which is a bit of a game shifter.