To buy pink for a boy?

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So the backstory is that my DB and SIL (who is nice enough but is a 15 year old trapped in a 24 year olds body) have a 11 month old girl and a boy on the way.

SIL believes that boys wearing pink is wrong and girls shouldn't wear blue.
She has sold every single pink thing that DNiece has in order to buy blue things for the new DNephew This includes sleeping bags, socks, false washers etc. Any toy that is not pink and 'girly' has been given away. I paid a small fortune for those reusable nappies and they were sold as they were not pink.

Now I know it's not my child, money or decision so I'm not interfering. I have said that it's a waste but I was bitched about on FB about it so I'm keeping my mouth shut.

Anyhoo, AIBU to buy nothing but pink, yellow etc boys clothes and 'girly' toys for the new baby?

fiveacres it isn't about being "all 'ugh, PINK!'", it's about people thinking that dressing a boy in pink or a girl in blue can "turn them gay." Firstly, it's stupid and homophobic and secondly, even if your kid does end up gay then so what? And I'm sorry, but anyone who gives away perfectly good clothes and nappies just because they aren't pink is a bit of an idiot.

Shadow - to be honest I wouldn't dress my children in clothes I really didn't like, whether that's wasteful or not.

*disappointed - I find it useful to know if it's a boy or a girl so I can avoid saying "oh, it's lovely" or "what's it's name?".

I also find people can be unhappy when you guess the gender of their baby incorrectly...*

A - babies have a sex, not a gender.

B - just address the baby. "Aren't you lovely! What's your name?" The parent will usually tell you "his name is Brian" or whatever.

I wouldn't dream of dressing a boy in pink and I don't believe a single one of you who say you would.

I dress DS in pink sometimes, it's just a colour. I don't think he's gay yet.

I don't dress DS or DD in pink because I don't really like it!

The lady in the OP presumably does.

Yes, I may think she has questionable taste but it's hers, not mine!

I always struggled with the question, "What's your favourite colour?" because I don't really have a favourite colour - I like colour. Lots of colours. I wouldn't want to be all pink or all blue or all any single colour - I want all of them.

And there's no way I would sell stuff just because it's not a particular colour. Might do if I didn't like the material or something, but I'd still probably feel guilty about being ungrateful and wasting a well-meant gift.

Like I said: I don't believe you.

I don't know anyone who would dress their boy in pink. Why would you set your son up to be bullied.

Who would bully a baby?!

D'ya know, I was worried about DD being a boy (my brother died of a congenital problem shortly after birth). If I had a boy that survived past a few hours the last thing I'd be bothered about is what he was wearing EVER. So yes, I'd dress him in anything I or he wanted to be dressed in and fuck everyone else.

Personally Ifound part of the fun and excitement of preparing for my ds was buying little boy outfits and toys etc. even now I buy him typically "boy" clothes and toys (he loves trucks) I couldn't give a fuck if it's not politically correct to dress him gender neutral . I think the whole thing is ridiculous. If he is gay or trans when he is older I also couldn't give a fuck. It's nothing to do with thinking if I put him in pink he'll turn gay. I think girls look nice in dressed and pink etc. when babies and I think it's nice for boys to wear blue

If it is politically correct I mean

What odd replies. Luckily I don't know anybody who would bully a baby because of the colour of their clothes either.

Good god op don't you know this is mumsnet world?

Of course boys are all wearing pink up and down the country and sparkling tutus and dresses on world book day and no one bats an eyelid.

It's completely normal to buy boys pink babygros. Carry on. Your sil is clearly mad.

People will congratulate such parents on empowering their lad and no one sniggers behind their backs and of course all the other boys think the pink wearer is cool and don't tease at all.

Mind you in RL!

She sounds awful, op, be glad of the distance between you.

The thing is, I wouldn't, personally, have a particular issue with anyone dressing their son in pink. I'd be mildly as it isn't the 'done thing' but it wouldn't bother me.

What I can't understand is why this woman has been called 'awful' because of a personal choice.

She hasn't been called awful because of her clothing choices, she's been called awful because she thinks that if a boy wears any colour other than blue it'll "turn him gay". Which is kind of offensive and more than a little homophobic.

Also, the OP wasn't suggesting buying her nephew a pink sparkly dress - she said a pair of khaki shorts and a pink shirt. Somehow this has been transformed into her wanting to dress her nephew like a Disney princess!

Yeah she sounds awful.

Girls should never wear blue and boys wearing pink is wrong?

She's just a thicko. I wouldn't bother with her op.