To buy pink for a boy?

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So the backstory is that my DB and SIL (who is nice enough but is a 15 year old trapped in a 24 year olds body) have a 11 month old girl and a boy on the way.

SIL believes that boys wearing pink is wrong and girls shouldn't wear blue.
She has sold every single pink thing that DNiece has in order to buy blue things for the new DNephew This includes sleeping bags, socks, false washers etc. Any toy that is not pink and 'girly' has been given away. I paid a small fortune for those reusable nappies and they were sold as they were not pink.

Now I know it's not my child, money or decision so I'm not interfering. I have said that it's a waste but I was bitched about on FB about it so I'm keeping my mouth shut.

Anyhoo, AIBU to buy nothing but pink, yellow etc boys clothes and 'girly' toys for the new baby?

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Well she sounds somewhat daft and is wasting a lot of money but I don't think buying her son a load of pink clothes that will never be worn is much of a solution.

This has reminded me of the time I tried to put a tutu on my 18 month old ds. Cue epic tantrum and shouts of "no" "no"

I am expecting Dc3 which the scan tells me will be a boy. He will be wearing all DD1 and DD2s old pink baby stuff. he will have a bit of blue/other colours as a few friends have given me boy clothes and I had some neutral colours for the DDs. I think your SIL is silly but is is a minor thing and up to her if she wants to waste time and money worrying about colours.

Congrats muddy

I didn't see anything in the OP that said that the OPs SIL thinks that her baby will catch the gay.

It was a later post by the OP.

DS2 has a pair of pink socks and a (navy) t-shirt with a pink monkey on it. So far he has not been bullied (BECAUSE HE'S TWO), nor has anyone thought he's a girl. Though people did think his brother was a girl when I dressed him in red, for some reason.

Actually, come to think of it, DS1 has a pair of bright pink socks that he wears quite regularly, and he's well into the 5 year old "these are boy things, these are girl things". Doesn't seem to bother him or anyone else. And no, I didn't buy any of these items in order to be some kind of "right on gender warrior", the socks came in multipacks with other colours (Polarn & Pyret) and the top was chosen by the recipient because it had a monkey on it.

Also a bit aboggle at the giving away of perfectly good clothes because they're not sufficiently gender-appropriate. Or indeed why we have to colour code babies. Most of DS1's baby and toddler clothes were various bright colours and I'd have happily passed them on to a DD if I'd had one.

And yes, the pink-blue divide/strictly gendered clothing thing has gotten waaaaaay worse For something that's (according to some people) a "rule" and "natural" and "what they prefer" and "why would you do anything else unless you were trying to make a point, you need to know whether they're a boy or a girl", it's also awfully recent. Most of my children's clothes and toys in the 70s weren't pink, I wore hand-me-downs from my male cousin quite frequently, and pics of me and my sisters generally show us wearing brown, red, blue, purple, orange, green. I think I had one pink dress my mum made for a school show and a pink pair of trousers when I was around ten, that was it.

I've just said very similar on another thread, leedy!

I really don't understand this whole blue for boys and pink for girls thing....I have two Ds, eldest is almost 6 and doesn't like pink which is absolutely fine but youngest Ds almost 4 loves it which is also perfectly fine.
In fact I bought him a pair of bright pink furby stompeez last week as he was desperate for a pair

If someone has pink clothing, and is happy to put their child in it of either sex - no problem.

I can't understand why someone would have a problem with NOT putting their child in it either though!

I wouldn't dress my children in clothes I didn't like.

There is a bit of snobbery going on here, lets be honest.

Personally I don't like girls in too much frilly pink stuff and if I have a daughter next she will be wearing quite a lot of my sons hand me downs, mostly because I am tight and hate wasting money on baby clothes that don't get much wear. Girls can look quite cute dressed in tom-boyish stuff. Of course she will still get put in the odd bit of pink.
I did buy my son a lot of blue, for the obvious reason but also because he suits it because of his blonde hair and blue eyes so if my daughter is the same colouring I assume she will suit it too.
Having said that if it had been the other way around and I had a girl first and then a boy I think I wouldn't have passed down quite so much. Bed time baby grows, sleeping bags and sheets yes. Girly colours like pink and purple outfits and anything frilly when we are out and about not so much.

"but also because he suits it because of his blonde hair and blue eyes so if my daughter is the same colouring I assume she will suit it too."

Yes, two of my sisters had that colouring and wore a lot of blue as small children - I think I just thought of it as a "blonde/blue-eyed" colour rather than a "boy" colour when I was small.