AIBU about the Fithly house.

[Evilwater]

My friend, is nice but shes lazy, and her place is fithly. I saw her today at lunch time, food from Tuesdays main meal still left out, she appears to have no fruit, and the main offender is there is bloodly ash (from her cigarettes) laying about.

Her floor is always dirty, littered with empty fruit shoot bottles and bits of food.

I know she is having a new bathroom fitted right now, and I'm not a perfect keeping upto date with my cleaning, but each room gets cleaned once a week.

AIBU?
Can I say I don't like coming around to hers cause it's always dirty?

Why is it dirty?

Is she depressed?
Disabled?
Dyslexic? - Believe it or not dyslexics can be very disorganised and untidy

Yes, you can say that.

And the friendship will take its course.

What's a lack of fruit got to do with how clean a house is?

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

Ha

NO FRUIT

no fruit? what's that got to do with anything?

but yes, if you want to say that you don't want to go to her house any more because it's dirty and she doesn't appear to have any fruit, then you are perfectly free to do so. You aren't obliged to go to anyone's house if you don't want to.

No fruit at all??? Not even a kumquat? A Pomegrante?

My friends come round to see me, not to give a damn about how tidy my house is.

Something about your post makes me think I wouldn't want to come round to your house no matter by how tidy it is.

Maybe the fruit shoots take the place of fruit?

Just casually mention that food left out might attract mice so it would be prudent to dispose asap. Bottles, paper etc left out isn't too much of an issue but food left out is a pest issue. If she doesn't act on your advice then leave it.

Yes, I said lets meet at hers for lunch. She expected me to feed her...... In the end she had crackers and fake cheese.

I am sure you could find some old apple cores or banana skins under the sofa?

No fruit and fake cheese - the end is nigh!

But it says fruit shoots are one of your five a day.
As are s.

So I'm being a masive snob, and BVU?

Fake cheese?!

a terry's chocolate orange is 2

any special reason you asked to meet at hers?

She really wanted to catch up, and I've not seen her since before easter.

yes you are being a snob because of the no fruit and the fruit shoots and all that but no you are not being unreasonable re the dirty because it really is not nice to be in a filthy (and I'm taking it at face value that it is filthy) house. It's really not.

Phew so because I have fruit that nobody bloody eats it's OK my flat is a shit tip? .

Fake cheese is the stuff that comes out of a tube.

i didnt mean any special reason you wanted to see her. Just any special reason you wanted to go to hers, since you say her house is always a tip?

I don't think OP is being unreasonable but then I've made my peace with being a snob by Mumsnet's standards.