AIBU about the Fithly house.

[Evilwater]

My friend, is nice but shes lazy, and her place is fithly. I saw her today at lunch time, food from Tuesdays main meal still left out, she appears to have no fruit, and the main offender is there is bloodly ash (from her cigarettes) laying about.

Her floor is always dirty, littered with empty fruit shoot bottles and bits of food.

I know she is having a new bathroom fitted right now, and I'm not a perfect keeping upto date with my cleaning, but each room gets cleaned once a week.

AIBU?
Can I say I don't like coming around to hers cause it's always dirty?

I really want the chive flavoured squeezy cheese now . I've not tried it on crackers before as I normally just squirm it straight into my gob.

No fruit at all??? Not even a kumquat? A Pomegrante?

Pissing myself

NoelHeadband

My friend invited me round for a brew. I stood in cat shit and a flea committed suicide in my brew. She couldn't answer her front door due to all the rubbish stuck behind it. I had to climb over the fence to get in her back garden to the door. We're still friends. I just haven't been around there (socially)in years. A while back she admitted she needed help so a few of us got together and went round over the course of a fortnight to clean and declutter. It was frustrating as she tried barking orders at us, wouldn't let anything be skipped (we clubbed together and hired one) and then turned on the waterworks when enough was enough and we walked out. If you do say anything op make it clear that you want to help her. But be prepared for her to be offended. (My friend wasn't as she brought it up and wanted brutal honesty) Some people do need saving from themselves and she knew that tantrums aside we love her and care for her. The funny thing is when my friend comes here she is always eager to lend a hand with something, is very generous and a fantastic cook.

What if she keeps the vital fruit in her bedroom?
In case any nosey fuckers come looking for it?

fithly

YANBU. I had friends refuse to come round back in the dark days when I used to drink Frosty Jack's for breakfast. I wasn't offended.

Didn't make me clean up tho either.

Fithly cah.

I want squeezy cheese now.

...not even a Sharon fruit OP?

I couldn't go there again without dreading the surroundings as I go out to avoid my fifty hose. Does her house smell?

Lack of highly visible fruit = filthy house

Excellent logic!

I personally have fruit in my cupboards (tinned), freezer and my fridge, as well as the fruit bowl. The fruit bowl tends to be demolished the quickest and only gets filled twice a week so sometimes we have an empty fruit bowl and no obvious evidence of other fruit in the house. At no point during those dark times does my house descend into a shit pit though. I'm pretty sure that fruit and filth are mutually exclusive.

Oh, and cheese toothpaste is lovely (especially the chive kind) when squeezed onto Norwegian crisp rolls...mmmmmm

Well OP, I bet you're regretting the fruit remark in your opening post! Apart from that, I think YANBU. I don't mind mess, but there's a big difference between mess and filth. Not nice.

I have fruit in the fridge and currently have a ferret asleep in the fruit bowl, it's too small for much so the kids use it for a ferret bed.

I agree battleaxe. I'm guessing the fruit remark is a roundabout way of showing concern for her friends health/poor eating habits. It's lovely that you're concerned for your friend op.

I love the "ferret asleep in the fruit bowl."

I don't think OP is being unreasonable but then I've made my peace with being a snob by Mumsnet's standards.

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Next time you visit take some fruit and just remember to wipe your feet on the way out

I've read lots of threads about dirty houses so I have to ask, what is the exact definition of a dirty house?

Oooo it's fruit shoot bingo!

Oh, I wouldn't comment on the food she eats... fruit shoots and the like but I do know what you mean about the dirty house. I can not abide being in my sister in laws house, it is quite frankly, rancid. Dirty litter trays from her cats in the kitchen, dirty nappies left on the bathroom floor. It is vile. Can not stand dirt. Untidy is fine... really fine ( looking around my house at the moment) but real dirt is not nice at all.

wow - you sound like a lovely friend

No fruit??!!! Horrendous. :(

I have a pineapple and half a mango in my fridge.

My ability to turn the aforementioned into a suitable lunch for my one year old has never bern a factor in how many (or few) friends come over. I also have half a broccoli, some elderly carrots and a pack of distinctly wrinkly mushrooms.
I'm the only one here who likes them so they don't get eaten much.
I vacuum once a week.
Would I pass muster to be your friend?
I don't buy fruit shoots, just supermarket own brand juice cartons.

Seriously, if you don't like it there then don't go. Or go armed with a bin bag and some flash kitchen spray. And a punnet of strawberries.
She might take offense, but then again......

The presence of a fruit laden fruit bowl = middle class apparently.