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AIBU about the Fithly house.

146 replies

Evilwater · 16/04/2015 18:27

My friend, is nice but shes lazy, and her place is fithly. I saw her today at lunch time, food from Tuesdays main meal still left out, she appears to have no fruit, and the main offender is there is bloodly ash (from her cigarettes) laying about.

Her floor is always dirty, littered with empty fruit shoot bottles and bits of food.

I know she is having a new bathroom fitted right now, and I'm not a perfect keeping upto date with my cleaning, but each room gets cleaned once a week.

AIBU?
Can I say I don't like coming around to hers cause it's always dirty?

OP posts:
glammanana · 16/04/2015 23:06

How could you not to offer to make the lunch for you both,you obviously saw she was struggling a wee bit you could have said for her to sit and wait whist you made a pot of tea and asked her if she needed help in any way,thats what a true friend would do,not go in and count the juice bottles on the floor,if I had gone to visit I would have done a spring clean for her seeing she was struggling.

pinksparklynails · 16/04/2015 23:19

oh my god this thread....

I can't cope hahahahaha

(I have just had my last apple and I have an inspection from my landlord tomorrow.. should I be worried?) Hmm Grin

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 16/04/2015 23:24

I have wine, that's a fruit.

butterflyballs · 16/04/2015 23:29

Pinksparklynails I think you should start looking for a new home.

And fgs buy a bloody banana!

Mumfortoddler · 16/04/2015 23:52

As a messy person myself, I have to say people can take me or leave me and if you said something about it, I probably wouldnt invite you around the house again, but on a serious note it sounds like your friend might have a mental health issue getting in the way, perhaps if she is your friend, asking how she's getting on and maybe helping her sort it out might be the way forward. My friends know the housework gets on top of me (I have two jobs, am single mum with DS, and mental health issues) so they help me with things when they get bad. I love them to bits for it and help them out when I can too.
What goes around comes around. Be a good friend if you are her friend, but if you're not then maybe just dont bother going around in first place if it bothers you so much, invite her to yours.

Mmbop · 16/04/2015 23:56

Foreverton PLEASE put your fruit shoots out in a fruitbowl Grin

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PookBob · 17/04/2015 00:07

I used to love squeezy tube cheese.

Until I had DS and bought my first tube of Bepanthen....

fattymcfatfat · 17/04/2015 00:09

what is fithly ?
I know what filthy is though! Grin

foreverton · 17/04/2015 06:46

Mmbop- what a cracking idea! Fruit bowl now looks quite full:)

( I'm now humming along to that bloody Mmbop song in my head ha )

AuntieStella · 17/04/2015 06:56

My house is a tip. I'm at home today and was steeling myself to do lounge and hall.

But I have apples, bananas, passion fruit, lemons and limes, some in plain view. So perhaps I'm OK after all.

carabos · 17/04/2015 06:58

No fruit? Surely every home has a mostly black banana lurking somewhere. Have you checked the kids' school bags. You may even find a two week old apple. If she's as filthy as you say, there'll be a mouldy satsuma left over from Christmas behind the sofa.

Frankly OP, I don't think you're putting in nearly enough effort to find the fruit here.

Mrsstarlord · 17/04/2015 06:58

I don't understand why you were pissed off or angry because her house was untidy Confused
Did you think she'd done it like that because you were coming?

Meechimoo · 17/04/2015 07:03

I have a fake banana and a fake orange in a fruit bowl so people who visit can be instantly reassured that we're clean and tidy folk.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 17/04/2015 07:21

I quite frequently invite myself to friends' houses for lunch. I'm wiling to buy it on my way (along with anything else hey might need) and prepare it when I get there and clear up afterwards. I'm going for the company, not for the service.

coolaschmoola · 17/04/2015 07:40

My house is an absolute bombsite, waaaay past the point that it is pissing me off and bringing me down but I literally can't seem to make a dent. I'm in the last four weeks of a full time PGCE, I work 20 hours a week on top of that, plus I have children.

My one saving grace is that I also have a cleaner, so it may be a cluttered shit pit buts it's definitely clean and the clutter is mainly in neat piles waiting for the end of my course.

At which point I'm going postal on it all!!!

Tbh if my friend had mobility problems and I wasn't keen on her level of cleanliness I would have offered to pick her up and gone out for lunch.

Lucyloves101 · 17/04/2015 09:19

I wouldn't worry, she might not invite you over again!

ratspeaker · 17/04/2015 09:27

I was thinking it would be a thread about moving to an obscure village , Fithly, maybe somewhere in Yorkshire?

Or is it somewhere in East Scotland next to the Forth?

kent43 · 17/04/2015 09:36

I have an empty fruit bowl. Bar bananas I keep them in the fridge.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 17/04/2015 09:43

I keep fruit in the fridge along with fruit shoots and tube cheese which is bloody lovely on crackers. The fruit bowl holds our onions and garlic. Fuck knows why

DontWorryBeHappyNow · 17/04/2015 10:05

Never mind the rest of the fithly house, but bloodly ash everywhere?!? Ewwww ShockConfusedHmm

DixieNormas · 17/04/2015 10:52

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bilbodog · 17/04/2015 11:55

loving this thread and smug that my Waitrose delivery is coming today so my fruit bowl will be full when I get home! House is still filthy though.............

ArseForElbow · 17/04/2015 13:02

My fruit bowl is empty, my house isn't flithy though